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Old 07-23-2013, 03:25 PM
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Relearning to experience/deal with emotions sober

This is by far the most challenging aspect over staying sober. Being so used to dealing with things under the influence for so long.... it just hits you when you start to sober up. Sometimes all I want to do is cry, although, at least it's a healthy cry.
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Old 07-23-2013, 03:30 PM
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Yes, early sobriety can be quite daunting.
You will learn new coping skills.
Any non drinkers you can share the new life with?
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Old 07-23-2013, 03:34 PM
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I don't have very many friends... my closest ones have families now, etc... so I've relied heavily over the Internet and one other person who saw me in my darkest moments when I was drinking (and pretty much said to stay her friend, I had to sober up).
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And as for family, I live with my parents who don't get along... my mom is a recovering alcoholic with relapses (the only reason she doesn't drink anymore is because my dad took her keys away).... my dad drinks, probably because of the strain of the marriage, I have all kinds of financial problems.... sorry it seems like I'm venting here but sitting here thinking about all of this sober, and all the trouble I caused when I drank.... wow, it's like a huge wave crashing over me.
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Old 07-25-2013, 11:10 AM
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Smalltowngirl,

This is the place to vent, so go ahead! I too had a hard time feeling emotions sober. Honestly, I didn't realize how dulled I was from the booze. I'm riding the waves of emotion now, and trying to enjoy them because they mean I'm still alive and that's something to be grateful for.

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Old 07-25-2013, 12:26 PM
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One of the most difficult things to do is to deal with the emotions that come up in early sobriety. This is generally true for two reasons. First because emotions were generally what we wanted to change when we drank, and we needed to give up that crutch. Secondly because the lack of alcohol, after being accustomed to it for a long while, creates an emotional roller coaster in the beginning. The two together are a sort of double wammy.

I hope you find comfort in the fact that the emotions settle down with time. Here’s wishing you all the best.
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Old 07-25-2013, 01:14 PM
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... because the lack of alcohol, after being accustomed to it for a long while, creates an emotional roller coaster in the beginning. The two together are a sort of double wammy.
Getting sober has some good news and some bad news;

Good news - we get our emotions back

Bad news - we get our emotions back
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Old 07-25-2013, 02:59 PM
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Well said, Boleo.
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Old 07-25-2013, 03:52 PM
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It's OK to cry.
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