Does your Spouse/Partner (not in recovery) drink?
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Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Mississippi
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It took a bit of time before I was OK with people drinking around me. I couldn't have it in my house either (and still don't).
I think if it's hard for you or jeopardizing your sobriety, you need to let him know..... maybe work something out where you don't have to be around it (at least temporarily).
I think if it's hard for you or jeopardizing your sobriety, you need to let him know..... maybe work something out where you don't have to be around it (at least temporarily).
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Wilmington, DE
Posts: 1,549
My boyfriend occasionally drinks, in fact he even has a 6 pack of beer in our fridge that has been there since Christmas, because he is the kind of person who will only have one every few months. lol. Sometimes i am annoyed that I am not capable of doing that, but I also have to remind myself that he is not an alcoholic and that as long as I am doing what I am supposed to do in sobriety that's okay. 
There will be a time occasionally when i am feeling very stressed maybe about work that i will call him or send him a text to move his beer or to take it to his brothers house next door just so that it isn't there taunting me, but that rarely happens.
I think communication is the key in cases like this. It is perfectly okay for a "normal" person to drink but they should NOT throw it in your face or taunt you about it. I have found that those people who do that generally end up alcoholics later themselves.
There will be a time occasionally when i am feeling very stressed maybe about work that i will call him or send him a text to move his beer or to take it to his brothers house next door just so that it isn't there taunting me, but that rarely happens.
I think communication is the key in cases like this. It is perfectly okay for a "normal" person to drink but they should NOT throw it in your face or taunt you about it. I have found that those people who do that generally end up alcoholics later themselves.
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Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Oregon
Posts: 1,348
Originally Posted by earthsteps 
He had a few too many tonight. I should be able to turn a shoulder to it, right?
Triggers. I feel weak, but I did not succumb.
Triggers. I feel weak, but I did not succumb.
But realizing it's his home too, we're trying to work this out. I'm checking out Al Anon, I'd recommend it!
All the best to you earthsteps, always ALWAYS put your recovery first, everything else depends upon it.
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Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: uk
Posts: 163
Hi Everyone. My Husband has agreed to not have any drink in the house apart from when his friends are here next weekend (it only happens once a year ) not sure if this means he will go out tho ! Im not convinced he can do it as he drink most nights in doors , But its nice of him to try ...
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Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Colorado Springs, CO
Posts: 2,391
He does occasionally drink but he is not an alcoholic. He never tries to get me to drink with him. He's more than happy to leave me to my iced coffee and smokes (he quit smoking about 5 years go).
I too am married to a supportive man. He comes to all my races (I run).
I too am married to a supportive man. He comes to all my races (I run).
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