My 26 year old brother just died.
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Oh babycat, I'm so very sorry. Please know that there are people who care and are praying for you and your family. I know you feel like you won't get through this, but you will. You have to for your mom. You're very, very vulnerable right now. Grief counseling is a good idea. Or if you are in AA and have a sponsor, please call her now. It is possible to get through this without drinking. Your mom needs you. I hope and pray for strength for you and your family as you go through this.
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Babycat- My heart goes out to you and your family. Get as much support as you can. Post here as much as you want.
If you decide to look for a therapist or grief counselor, it is okay to talk to a few of them on the phone to decide who you like the best. (or you can see each of them and then decide who you like the best)
If you decide to look for a therapist or grief counselor, it is okay to talk to a few of them on the phone to decide who you like the best. (or you can see each of them and then decide who you like the best)
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I cannot even fathom the world of pain you and your family is enduring right now. I am not really at all familiar with you..yet I feel for you in my heart right this moment. Every heart here is with you. So very, very sorry. May love surround you and keep you in this time...
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Oh my dear God. I do know EXACTLY how you feel. I found my sister, dead of a drug and alcohol overdose when she was 23. She, of all people
, should have known better. She was a pharmacist.
My heart and soul reach out to yours. This pain is beyond adequate words to describe.
May He hold you in the palm of His hand as you navigate through this pain...
, should have known better. She was a pharmacist.
My heart and soul reach out to yours. This pain is beyond adequate words to describe.
May He hold you in the palm of His hand as you navigate through this pain...
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I'm so sorry babycat. cling to your loved ones, you will need each other.
I am praying for you and your family. Your brother sounds like a beautiful soul, and I am just so sorry .
May your brother rest sweetly, and watch over you, and may his beautiful memory help to keep you strong.
I am praying for you and your family. Your brother sounds like a beautiful soul, and I am just so sorry .
May your brother rest sweetly, and watch over you, and may his beautiful memory help to keep you strong.
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Originally Posted by babycat 
He had a heroine overdose. I know this is the alcoholism forum but it greatly effects my alcoholism. I HAVE to get better. I cannot allow my mother to go through this again. I am beyond devastated.
He was such an amazing person. Incredibly talented musician. So funny and sweet. Looking at him you would never know he had a problem. We all sure as hell did not. We found out when he got busted a few months ago and he had been getting treatment . We thought he was doing so much better. His poor gf found him slumped over on the kitchen floor.
don't know how I am going to get through this. I don't. I miss him so much already.
But I know I can't **** around anymore. I feel so empty and lost. I want my little brother back.
He was such an amazing person. Incredibly talented musician. So funny and sweet. Looking at him you would never know he had a problem. We all sure as hell did not. We found out when he got busted a few months ago and he had been getting treatment . We thought he was doing so much better. His poor gf found him slumped over on the kitchen floor.
don't know how I am going to get through this. I don't. I miss him so much already.
But I know I can't **** around anymore. I feel so empty and lost. I want my little brother back.
You would think this would have been enough for me to never drink again, but it only made me drink more.
I am very sorry that your brother died.
I hope you don't hurt yourself over his death like I did.
I heard an AA speaker talk about how alcoholics hurt themselves recently.
You hurt me, I will hurt myself. You abandoned me, I will hurt myself.
It's sad indeed, and I hope you will not hurt yourself.
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Had the viewing today. Not an easy day to say the least, lots of sobbing from everyone. I just could not believe that was him laying there. The worst was seeing his girlfriend just uncontrollable crying as she knelt at his casket for so long. She was so sad. My mom was pretty bad too. Really, we all were.
Funeral tomorrow. I am so dreading it.
Staying good tho.
Funeral tomorrow. I am so dreading it.
Staying good tho.
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I'm very sorry for this babycat. I wish I could say something that would take your pain away, but I'm afraid whatever I say will fall short. Just know there are many people here thinking of you and your family. And perhaps getting and staying sober, and living a happy, healthy life can be your way of honoring your brother. I'm sure he would want you to have all of that and more.
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