Wastinglife

One embarrassing moment came back to haunt me recently when passed by a bar I used to frequent and memories came flooding back. One night I walked in the midst of a week long bender, unwashed and smelling awful. I then proceeded to vomit on myself while sitting at the bar in front of the other regulars. I don't why I have so much trouble getting over the embarrassment. I spent a sleepless night playing this moment over and over again in my head and it was six months ago.

Anyone have any tips on getting over embarrassment like this?

Vandermast

I have done plenty..and most of the stuff mentioned above..i would have to say..i agree it is helpful to remember that stuff however i also believe that is dangerous 2 focus on regret..fr alcohol is a sutble foe..and my mouherboard is still hardwired at the moment

Thereunconfined

@ wastinglife

About getting over the shame of past misdeeds/embarrassments... that's a difficult one. I have decided to compartmentalize for the time being. I'm not "myself" when I'm drinking, and what I really need to be doing is focusing on today. If I start feeling ashamed and afraid, I acknowledge those feelings. I make sure I know what I'm feeling. Then I put them away. That's not me anymore.

Dee74

I could write a book on embarrassments like that - and worse. It would be a pretty thick book too.

But y'know what?
it's history. It's done.

Wishing it was undone is energy wasted, because it can't be.

Today though? That's a day we can do a lot about.

Put your energy to today - keep building a new life, and a reconstructed you that you can admire and can be proud of.

I guarantee if you do that, if you build a life of good deeds and helping others, you will soon look back at the past and see it in its proper perspective.

We are not our drunken escapades.
We are not our embarrassing moments.

We are a heck of a lot more than that - and we have a second chance to show the world that now.

Take it

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deeker

Yup!You are loved and forgiven cuz Jesus paid the penalty for all of the crazy stuff we did. Just call on him and all that guilt gets washed away. Ask him to take it. Any questions? pm me

1newcreation

AMEN ms. Deeker!

DrakeCKC

Stole booze from a neighbor who trusted me with his key, But at least I replaced it before he found out. Driven across the Chicago metro area on the tollways so drunk I was surprised I got home. Driven drunk a lot, actually. Threw up in a restaurant on the table.

Tried to kill myself at least 3 times.

Passed out at a symphony concert and was escorted out by the ushers and security. This last one was just a couple weeks ago and was kind of the wake up call.

GoodFortune

- Driving drunk
- Being horrible to my best friends
- Being nasty to my boyfriend
- Trying to kill myself a lot of times
- Cutting myself
- Admitting things to people that I would NEVER have done while sober
- Being nasty to strangers.
- Hit my boyfriend in the face. Who by the way is the nicest guy in the world.
- Cheating on exes.
- Sleeping with multiple people I never would have sober.
The list goes on and on and on!

The worst is obviously driving drunk. After that the worst for me has been the times I have been nasty to people. That is not the person I am sober and it just feels so out of character and confusing. I never want to be that kind of person to other people.

Omnom

I got a DUI and then puked all over the cell so I could laugh at the cop who arrested me while he cleaned it up. So awful of me. Lol

legna

While I agree that focusing on a past is wasted; I do not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it today. For any who mistakenly believe that there is no life after the worst thing you have ever done - I have killed under the influence.

triathlynne

Actually the worse thing that has happened to me is being roofied in the bar, taken out to somewhere and beaten within an inch of my life and raped. They dumped me back in my driveway afterwards. Sigh. Words just fail me on this.

babycat

That was by no means your fault tho. So awful.

triathlynne

I know. I'm thinking now I shouldn't have posted this. Sorry.

babycat

Don't be. Even tho you had no control over that, it still relates to your drinking days.

triathlynne

Yes you're right. I even went to therapy for this, never helped. TBH I don't think about it often. I guess being on here and being honest with myself has brought it back. I used to use it as one of my tools for staying sober.

Omnom

Thats a good reason to stay sober.

No one deserves that kind of treatment though whether they are sober or not.

Dee74

I'm sorry that happened to you Lynne.
I'm really glad you're rebuilding your life.

We're going to leave it there folks - time to move on to other threads.

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