Anoronha

I'm scared my new sponsor might not like me I know it is irrational. I'm supposed to call her everyday and two people in the program as well. Do you think it is fair if I ask her whether I can do my 4th and 5th steps with old sponsor as well as her. I told my old sponsor a lot of intimate stuff I have never told anyone. I feel lonely these days and empty on the inside even though I have friends that care. I trust this new sponsor but I am still terrified to tell her certain things. I also feel safe around her.

Veritas1

It's ok to be scared. Do the best you can.

fantail

Why did you switch from the old sponsor? I'm sure your new sponsor does like you, I'm learning that my trait of constantly worrying (usually falsely, always pointlessly) that people don't like me is common to many alcoholics. But that said, if you feel more comfortable with the old sponsor, is it not possible to continue with her?

Anoronha

I cant continue with old sponsor because she had a relapse and she has to start from the beginning again but we are still close friends and talk almost everyday and get together for coffee weekly.

Mountainmanbob

until we feel total trust
best to hold off for a while

I did not tell my new Sponsor everything at first either
it took time to build that trusting relationship

I have heard my Sponsor mention several times
that someone (could be including me) had shared something with him
that he would be taking to his grave with him
in other words he will never be sharing this with anyone

when we know our Sponsor this well
it is usually no problem to share most anything

onehigherpower

paul99

you trusted your first sponsor - and I recall you mentioning having the same fears about this new sponsor as you did the first...and look how close you became with the old sponsor.

Trust doesn't happen overnight, so take it slow. There is nothing wrong with doing several 5ths, but you may find that doing it with your new sponsor may be enough. Your call though. Nothing that says you can't do it with different people. But for me, when I was done with my 5th, I was ok not doing it with someone else!