I Need Help And Can't Get It...
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Sounds like you've had enough...or have you? You won't have to worry about librium, ambulances, detoxes, etc. if you're not drinking any more...and staying stopped from drinking. You mentioned that you "tried" AA since 2008 - did you work the steps? Get a sponsor? Sitting in meetings won't relieve the mental obsession for me. I had to work the steps and get connected to have that happen. Or try one of the suggestions Dee pointed out. A program of action is something to consider. You've seen that alcoholism gets worse, never better. You're seeing that. Ambulance rides aren't fun. You don't need to have this life any more.
I hope you find something that speaks to you, but it has to start today. One day can be such a critical thing. You're worth it.
I hope you find something that speaks to you, but it has to start today. One day can be such a critical thing. You're worth it.
The program has NEVER gotten me sober or kept me sober. Other spiritual avenues have. During my longest periods of sobriety, I was attending meetings maybe once a week with no sponsor and just going for the fellowship.
The program is also not going to detox me and keep me from having DT's.
Thanks for the replies you all. I'm up a creek without a paddle but I've been in worse situations. I'll find a way out.
Yes, I've tried it all. Sponsor, the steps, listening in meetings, helping other alcoholics. Didn't work. I know people in AA hate hearing that and always automatically blame the person for not 'working the program'. Very typical and another reason I gave up on it a while back.
The program has NEVER gotten me sober or kept me sober. Other spiritual avenues have. During my longest periods of sobriety, I was attending meetings maybe once a week with no sponsor and just going for the fellowship.
The program is also not going to detox me and keep me from having DT's.
Thanks for the replies you all. I'm up a creek without a paddle but I've been in worse situations. I'll find a way out.
The program has NEVER gotten me sober or kept me sober. Other spiritual avenues have. During my longest periods of sobriety, I was attending meetings maybe once a week with no sponsor and just going for the fellowship.
The program is also not going to detox me and keep me from having DT's.
Thanks for the replies you all. I'm up a creek without a paddle but I've been in worse situations. I'll find a way out.
I wish you the best of luck.
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Yes, I've tried it all. Sponsor, the steps, listening in meetings, helping other alcoholics. Didn't work. I know people in AA hate hearing that and always automatically blame the person for not 'working the program'. Very typical and another reason I gave up on it a while back.
The program has NEVER gotten me sober or kept me sober. Other spiritual avenues have. During my longest periods of sobriety, I was attending meetings maybe once a week with no sponsor and just going for the fellowship.
The program is also not going to detox me and keep me from having DT's.
Thanks for the replies you all. I'm up a creek without a paddle but I've been in worse situations. I'll find a way out.
The program has NEVER gotten me sober or kept me sober. Other spiritual avenues have. During my longest periods of sobriety, I was attending meetings maybe once a week with no sponsor and just going for the fellowship.
The program is also not going to detox me and keep me from having DT's.
Thanks for the replies you all. I'm up a creek without a paddle but I've been in worse situations. I'll find a way out.
This may be something to consider...we don't let it.
We are defiant. We fight everything. We have a hard time with personal relationships.
Maybe try again. Maybe have a new experience and forget everything you think you know about AA, or the people, or the steps...
I hope you were able to call some of those free treatment centers I listed, and have found something...or again...call the AA hotline, and ask if they know of somewhere?
I went the medical detox, 90-day rehab, AA recovery route, so I can share my experience. My younger brother also went the same route. While he experienced true delerium tremens, I did not. That does not mean that I didn't feel shaky, anxious, nauseous, et al, but I did not experience a life-threatening situation.
Delerium tremens are considered medical emergencies, and I honestly do not think an emergency room would turn you away if you were truly experiencing DT's. The indicators are palpable.
My brother quit cold turkey, and it became evident that he was hallucinating and incoherent. We took him to the ER, they admitted him into detox, immediately. He had already begun the detox cycle, and the crisis he experienced was the direct result of not giving his body alcohol. He wasn't in the middle of a drinking episode crying for help, which were our first thoughts.
I was able to get into a detox by contacting the county-run outpatient alcohol counseling center. They ran on a sliding scale fee basis; I met with the counselor; after a few meetings, she referred me to the county-run detox, which then referred me to the county-run 90 day inpatient treatment program.
Both my brother and I were administered librium during the detox process. That is one of two primary uses of librium that I know of - the other use is for anxiety. I also know that there are plenty of warnings that say do not drink and use librium at the same time; because it can cause you to stop breathing.
Like sugarbear, I am wondering if your psychiatrist knows you abuse alcohol, and also wonder if he prescribed the librium for anxiety or detox. Have you been honest with your psychiatrist about your massive drinking, and when was the last time you've seen him/her? Have you asked your psychiatrist for a referral to an alcohol detox or a county-run agency that provides those services?
What is required here is a bit of honesty in assessing what information you give, who you ask for help, when you ask for help, how you specifically ask for help and above all, the willingness to follow through on those referrals. For me, it was a ton of phone calls and patience and persistence in getting what I felt I needed to get the monkey off my back.
I'd start with your psychiatrist, by disclosing the full amount of drinking you are doing, and asking specifically for referral to a detox center. He has to be made fully aware of the extent to your condition. Follow up on those. If they can't help, ask them who can, and try them. The rooms of AA have many who have gone this route; I'm sure they can help you too, but you have to ask.
Help is out there. My brother got it through crisis mode (defnately not recommended); I got it by carving out the mornings to make a few calls and make appointments before I made my best attempts to slow down or stop my drinking before I got hammered for the day.
Delerium tremens are considered medical emergencies, and I honestly do not think an emergency room would turn you away if you were truly experiencing DT's. The indicators are palpable.
My brother quit cold turkey, and it became evident that he was hallucinating and incoherent. We took him to the ER, they admitted him into detox, immediately. He had already begun the detox cycle, and the crisis he experienced was the direct result of not giving his body alcohol. He wasn't in the middle of a drinking episode crying for help, which were our first thoughts.
I was able to get into a detox by contacting the county-run outpatient alcohol counseling center. They ran on a sliding scale fee basis; I met with the counselor; after a few meetings, she referred me to the county-run detox, which then referred me to the county-run 90 day inpatient treatment program.
Both my brother and I were administered librium during the detox process. That is one of two primary uses of librium that I know of - the other use is for anxiety. I also know that there are plenty of warnings that say do not drink and use librium at the same time; because it can cause you to stop breathing.
Like sugarbear, I am wondering if your psychiatrist knows you abuse alcohol, and also wonder if he prescribed the librium for anxiety or detox. Have you been honest with your psychiatrist about your massive drinking, and when was the last time you've seen him/her? Have you asked your psychiatrist for a referral to an alcohol detox or a county-run agency that provides those services?
What is required here is a bit of honesty in assessing what information you give, who you ask for help, when you ask for help, how you specifically ask for help and above all, the willingness to follow through on those referrals. For me, it was a ton of phone calls and patience and persistence in getting what I felt I needed to get the monkey off my back.
I'd start with your psychiatrist, by disclosing the full amount of drinking you are doing, and asking specifically for referral to a detox center. He has to be made fully aware of the extent to your condition. Follow up on those. If they can't help, ask them who can, and try them. The rooms of AA have many who have gone this route; I'm sure they can help you too, but you have to ask.
Help is out there. My brother got it through crisis mode (defnately not recommended); I got it by carving out the mornings to make a few calls and make appointments before I made my best attempts to slow down or stop my drinking before I got hammered for the day.
If you cannot get medical assisted detox then you are going to have to taper down. Google Harm Reduction and the HAMS network has an article on how to do it. But this isn't as safe as having a medical assistance. You could have serious complications. But you are more certain to have them if you just stop abruptly.
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If you cannot get medical assisted detox then you are going to have to taper down. Google Harm Reduction and the HAMS network has an article on how to do it. But this isn't as safe as having a medical assistance. You could have serious complications. But you are more certain to have them if you just stop abruptly.
It is utterly hopeless and there is nothing I can do except do it on my own. I don't mean any offense to AA people, but I have tried the program to the best of my ability and failed, over and over. It doesn't work. As for trying my spiritual program (the one that kept me sober for six months) again, I am still actually on that spiritual plan. It's a path of enlightenment, Buddhism mixed with metaphysics. But unfortunately, knowing stuff doesn't keep you sober. Neither does thinking you are a loser that will never be healed from an addiction. I'm at a place where I know way too much about the human race and not a bit of it does me good, neither does submitting to a sponsor who wants to run my life or a program that tries to dictate your life.
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Delerium tremens are considered medical emergencies, and I honestly do not think an emergency room would turn you away if you were truly experiencing DT's. The indicators are palpable.
I'd start with your psychiatrist, by disclosing the full amount of drinking you are doing, and asking specifically for referral to a detox center. He has to be made fully aware of the extent to your condition. Follow up on those. If they can't help, ask them who can, and try them. The rooms of AA have many who have gone this route; I'm sure they can help you too, but you have to ask.
I'd start with your psychiatrist, by disclosing the full amount of drinking you are doing, and asking specifically for referral to a detox center. He has to be made fully aware of the extent to your condition. Follow up on those. If they can't help, ask them who can, and try them. The rooms of AA have many who have gone this route; I'm sure they can help you too, but you have to ask.
The hospital's excuse for not helping me was because of all the Librium I've been prescribed over the past year. It was awful because I had tried getting off it, but my psyche doctor kept me on it. And now I have to pay the price with no treatment.
If anyone reading this is thinking about relapsing - I hope you can use this horror story to help you stay sober. It never gets better, it only gets worse.
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Sorry to hear about your situation. I would think the hospital could do more!
My wife went to Detox, did good for a couple weeks, went to AA meetings, then went to liqure store after AA meeting came home and got drunk.
I am constantly fighting with my son for bringing home booze, because of my wife, I admit I have a problem!!
I have cut WAY down on my drinking, but have to find a way to stop!
The stories on this sight along with yours I think will help.
Thank you for sharing your stories and support.
My wife went to Detox, did good for a couple weeks, went to AA meetings, then went to liqure store after AA meeting came home and got drunk.
I am constantly fighting with my son for bringing home booze, because of my wife, I admit I have a problem!!
I have cut WAY down on my drinking, but have to find a way to stop!
The stories on this sight along with yours I think will help.
Thank you for sharing your stories and support.
i think i was in a similar situation as you. i also had uncontrolled drinking and habits. i been sober for 14 weeks now and get the urge to have a cold one. i also was involved in a relationship with some one who was married and it was rewarding in their own way. i also joined AA but to me AA was not my cup of tea and i did not involve my self in it. but sounds like you have a strong will and determined so you can do it. join the chat room here and get real time support. Good luck
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Just posting to say that my situation has only gotten worse. Still no detox, lots of horrible symptoms like vomiting up to twice a day every day. If I go more than a couple hours without a drink, my heart starts racing and I get DT's. If I want more than 2 hours of sleep, I have to drink an extra amount, so I can get at least 4 hours, filled with lucid dreams (where I am basically awake) and wake up constantly. Many nightmares.
I will simply not call another ambulance or go to another hospital so they can charge me thousands of dollars to do nothing.
All I can do is hope that my story helps someone not relapse. Had I known it would be this bad, I would have done ANYTHING to stay sober and not take that first drink this time. If I ever get out of this horror story I will do anything and everything to stay sober. This is seriously the most horrific time of my life - where I actually am desperate to get off alcohol, but cannot, because nobody will detox me safely from the high amounts I am on. Nearly every day I have to go and pawn something in order to buy my alcohol. The cheap stuff makes me sick constantly so I try to buy the next level up, but even that makes me sick.
Oh well, I know this is all teaching me something. As I have prayed to God, I have tried surrendering to the disease - it did nothing for me, I tried taking control (what control?), I tried reaching out for help and nobody wants to help me because I get too honest and straightforward when I'm drinking. Not to mention I have a reputation around here for being very intuitive and people helping me always want MY help. Then when I tell them the truth, they don't want to hear it.
So, my spiritual program did nothing to help me stay sober. Having a sponsor didn't either. Having a Reiki healer didn't, either. I have no money left and nowhere to turn.
There is nothing left to do, but to wait and see if I die, or get saved somehow I guess. I am running out of stuff to sell/pawn.
I will simply not call another ambulance or go to another hospital so they can charge me thousands of dollars to do nothing.
All I can do is hope that my story helps someone not relapse. Had I known it would be this bad, I would have done ANYTHING to stay sober and not take that first drink this time. If I ever get out of this horror story I will do anything and everything to stay sober. This is seriously the most horrific time of my life - where I actually am desperate to get off alcohol, but cannot, because nobody will detox me safely from the high amounts I am on. Nearly every day I have to go and pawn something in order to buy my alcohol. The cheap stuff makes me sick constantly so I try to buy the next level up, but even that makes me sick.
Oh well, I know this is all teaching me something. As I have prayed to God, I have tried surrendering to the disease - it did nothing for me, I tried taking control (what control?), I tried reaching out for help and nobody wants to help me because I get too honest and straightforward when I'm drinking. Not to mention I have a reputation around here for being very intuitive and people helping me always want MY help. Then when I tell them the truth, they don't want to hear it.
So, my spiritual program did nothing to help me stay sober. Having a sponsor didn't either. Having a Reiki healer didn't, either. I have no money left and nowhere to turn.
There is nothing left to do, but to wait and see if I die, or get saved somehow I guess. I am running out of stuff to sell/pawn.
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Thanks. I am one of those drunks who are too honest when they are drunk and offended every one of my so-called "friends". I am also one of those drunks who are too conscious while drinking, too 'awake'.
I can try a different meeting and but in this city, the same people kind of show up to all of them. I am just tired of AA after 4 years of failure and hearing the same old stories.
I can try a different meeting and but in this city, the same people kind of show up to all of them. I am just tired of AA after 4 years of failure and hearing the same old stories.
You're empire is collapsing, take what is left of it, get cash in your pocket and make sure you are as safe as you can be.
Next, get out the phone book (or internet thingy) and call EVERY SINGLE SOBER place you see!
Also consider tossing your shrink, if s/he doesn't know what a suitable lib level is to detox get someone who does!!
Next and this is the most important ACCEPTANCE!! You have to accept your condition and mean it. Once you do that, you can move forward. It will be rough and I have a feeling you'll be kicking and screaming all the way, but you gotta do it!
This is your battle, you must take it head on! Use all resources (here, phone book, internet, friends you trust, AA/NA and A, hospitals, clinics whatever it takes to get you on track!
"Be strong Valiant Warrior, your quest awaits!"
I have to agree with Jim sobergirl
This is your addiction speaking.
noones situation is hopeless, and noone needs to be like a leaf being carrried down the gutter.
There's been a lot of great suggestions in this thread - I'd ask you to read through the thread again and ask yourself if you've tried everything or if you're just assuming things won't work?
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There is nothing left to do, but to wait and see if I die, or get saved somehow I guess.
noones situation is hopeless, and noone needs to be like a leaf being carrried down the gutter.
There's been a lot of great suggestions in this thread - I'd ask you to read through the thread again and ask yourself if you've tried everything or if you're just assuming things won't work?
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This really runs along the topic of share in my first NA meeting back from my last relapse. The topic was the difference between the desire to quit and willingness. I always thought that I was willing to be sober because I had the desire to quit, but in fact, I wasn't ALWAYS willing in order to quit. Although there are many reasons as to why I relapse, the biggest factor is that I am not willing to do whatever it takes on a daily basis.
You might not like what I have to say but from reading your post, I sense that you want to quit, yet I don't see the willingness to quit. I do hope to see that you start your day 1, or you'll continue to live in misery and hell. I know this because I've gone through this, mainly 7 days ago.
You might not like what I have to say but from reading your post, I sense that you want to quit, yet I don't see the willingness to quit. I do hope to see that you start your day 1, or you'll continue to live in misery and hell. I know this because I've gone through this, mainly 7 days ago.
It seems like everyone here is trying to help, but you reject each and every suggestion. I think you need to pick one of these suggestions, or come up with a plan of action yourself, and go for it. If you fail you are no worse off than you are now. Making excuses/reasons to not try a plan of action to get sober has very predictable results.
By the way NO ONE has a 3% BAC. Death often occurs at .45%, and there has only been 2 or 3 cases in all of medical history of people with a BAC of 1% and lived. You were probably .3%, which is plenty drunk.
By the way NO ONE has a 3% BAC. Death often occurs at .45%, and there has only been 2 or 3 cases in all of medical history of people with a BAC of 1% and lived. You were probably .3%, which is plenty drunk.
sobergirl, did you see the list of free rehabs Veritas posted? Have you phoned them?
The following is a list of known free or state funded programs in the state of Oklahoma
*Database list of Free Rehabs*
Monarch Inc
2310 West Broadway Street
Muskogee, OK 74401
Phone: (918) 682-7210
Monarch - A New Beginning
Norman Alcohol and Drug Treatment Ctr
900 East Main Street
Building 54
Norman, OK 73070
Phone: (405) 573-6624×2126
Center Point Inc
3637 North Lewis Street
Tulsa, OK 74110
Phone: (918) 425-7500
www.centerpointinc.org
Lighthouse Substance Abuse Services of (Northwest Center Behavioral Health)
5050 Williams Avenue
Woodward, OK 73801
Phone: (580) 256-9700
Eagle Ridge Family Treatment Center
1916 East Perkins Street
Guthrie, OK 73044
Phone: (405) 282-8232
Eagle Ridge Institute
Roadback Inc.
1202 SW A Avenue
Lawton, OK 73501
Phone: (580) 357-4390
Roadback, Inc. | Lawton, OK
Veterans Affairs Medical Center (Substance Abuse Treatment Center)
921 NE 13th Street
Unit 116-C
Oklahoma City, OK 73104
Phone: (405) 270-0501×5555
PRT (Residential Inpatient Treatment)
1011 Grandview Street
Pawhuska, OK 74056
Phone: (918) 287-5417
www.osagetribe.org
Tulsa Boys Home
2727 South 137th West Avenue
Sand Springs, OK 74063
Phone: (918) 245-0231
Tulsa Boys Home - Home
Maybe one of these, or or talking with people at these places can lead to something.
*Database list of Free Rehabs*
Monarch Inc
2310 West Broadway Street
Muskogee, OK 74401
Phone: (918) 682-7210
Monarch - A New Beginning
Norman Alcohol and Drug Treatment Ctr
900 East Main Street
Building 54
Norman, OK 73070
Phone: (405) 573-6624×2126
Center Point Inc
3637 North Lewis Street
Tulsa, OK 74110
Phone: (918) 425-7500
www.centerpointinc.org
Lighthouse Substance Abuse Services of (Northwest Center Behavioral Health)
5050 Williams Avenue
Woodward, OK 73801
Phone: (580) 256-9700
Eagle Ridge Family Treatment Center
1916 East Perkins Street
Guthrie, OK 73044
Phone: (405) 282-8232
Eagle Ridge Institute
Roadback Inc.
1202 SW A Avenue
Lawton, OK 73501
Phone: (580) 357-4390
Roadback, Inc. | Lawton, OK
Veterans Affairs Medical Center (Substance Abuse Treatment Center)
921 NE 13th Street
Unit 116-C
Oklahoma City, OK 73104
Phone: (405) 270-0501×5555
PRT (Residential Inpatient Treatment)
1011 Grandview Street
Pawhuska, OK 74056
Phone: (918) 287-5417
www.osagetribe.org
Tulsa Boys Home
2727 South 137th West Avenue
Sand Springs, OK 74063
Phone: (918) 245-0231
Tulsa Boys Home - Home
Maybe one of these, or or talking with people at these places can lead to something.
the Salvation Army live in Recovery Program
I have seen many achieve good long recovery
in the Salvation Army live in Recovery Program
you can call them and ask about the Librium
if you are allowed to take it if living there
chances are ---------- probable not
are you sure that you really need the Librium
we see more and more these days
doctors using things such as this as a hook
so as to keep you coming back for a lifetime of appointments
a second opinion from another doctor might be in order
onehigherpower
in the Salvation Army live in Recovery Program
you can call them and ask about the Librium
if you are allowed to take it if living there
chances are ---------- probable not
are you sure that you really need the Librium
we see more and more these days
doctors using things such as this as a hook
so as to keep you coming back for a lifetime of appointments
a second opinion from another doctor might be in order
onehigherpower
With all due respect, it seems that this hopelessness you talk about, about this being "terminally unique", is comfortable for you. That is perhaps why you are resistant in taking any of the wonderful advice or measures here. I used to continually tell myself and others how "different" I was, and utterly hopeless my situation was, so no thank you for the help. But it was because I was full of fear, and was very comfie being in my own private hell. Being a martyr was part of my shtick...and believe me, playing the martyr is a selfish thing..oh look at me, woe is me, poor me....etc.
There is always hope.
There is always hope.
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