Desperately wanting a beer.. wine anything
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Desperately wanting a beer.. wine anything
Hey all. Sober for almost 3 weeks now. Feeling really really great and trying to roll with the extreme ups and downs... Focusing on being healthy. Never been better really except..
Today I woke up soooo angry, so irritable every little noise is setting me off. I want to kick my cat and take everything in my home and throw it on the lawn. Nothing in my exterior world has caused this. I have a very stress-free life thankfully.
Since this mood though I am desperately craving a beer, wine anything to relax. I feel like if I had a glass I would just be like ahhhhhhhh. Thank you. Problem solved.
I'm not going to, was just wondering if anyone has had this kind of extreme irritability during the first little while. I actually don't even get this crazy when I'm pms-ing. It's worse than ever.
Any thoughts are appreciated thank you!
Today I woke up soooo angry, so irritable every little noise is setting me off. I want to kick my cat and take everything in my home and throw it on the lawn. Nothing in my exterior world has caused this. I have a very stress-free life thankfully.
Since this mood though I am desperately craving a beer, wine anything to relax. I feel like if I had a glass I would just be like ahhhhhhhh. Thank you. Problem solved.
I'm not going to, was just wondering if anyone has had this kind of extreme irritability during the first little while. I actually don't even get this crazy when I'm pms-ing. It's worse than ever.
Any thoughts are appreciated thank you!
OH YES! I can relate to the every little noise irritating you. I literally have to bite on my tongue while driving alot, it is getting a bit better after almost a month. Try the deep breathing exercises or going for a walk if possible. Today at an AA meeting there was a lady who kept interupting everybody, I came very close to walking out. And the people who race me to the cash register at stores do not realize how close they come to getting a nasty verbal beatdown in front of the crowds which would only embarrass myself and possibly get escorted from the store by security. It will get better as I have been told by many of sober people, just takes some time.
Good luck and congrats
Patrick
Good luck and congrats
Patrick
It's very common Jesse.
Try and take a few deep breathes and really focus on the things you need to be grateful for today. If you can't think of any, try harder
that really used to help me
D
Try and take a few deep breathes and really focus on the things you need to be grateful for today. If you can't think of any, try harder
that really used to help me
D
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That's your addiction beckoning to you. Congratulations—it's proof that you're achieving your goal! The addiction will try to generate stress even in the absence of real causes; in a way it's a great opportunity to strengthen those sobriety muscles, because at some point we all encounter truly stressful events, and we need to know how to handle them in a healthy way.
My advice? Breathe. Just relax for a moment. Feel the tension—where is it, physically? For example, I often feel my neck and jaw tense up. Sometimes my scalp feels like it's two sizes too small for my head, lol. Be aware of those sensations. Make a conscious effort to relax those parts of your body. Breathe some more.
Feelings can't hurt you; they're just feelings. You don't have to act on them. They will pass—they always do. By focusing my attention on them, I can usually defuse them pretty quickly. Then move on with my day with a renewed sense of self-confidence. Once again my addiction came calling, and once again I sent it packing empty handed. With every victory, it grows weaker, and we go stronger. You're doing great, Jesse.
My advice? Breathe. Just relax for a moment. Feel the tension—where is it, physically? For example, I often feel my neck and jaw tense up. Sometimes my scalp feels like it's two sizes too small for my head, lol. Be aware of those sensations. Make a conscious effort to relax those parts of your body. Breathe some more.
Feelings can't hurt you; they're just feelings. You don't have to act on them. They will pass—they always do. By focusing my attention on them, I can usually defuse them pretty quickly. Then move on with my day with a renewed sense of self-confidence. Once again my addiction came calling, and once again I sent it packing empty handed. With every victory, it grows weaker, and we go stronger. You're doing great, Jesse.
Finding new and healthier ways in dealing with these strong emotions (Which is par for course at 3 weeks, by the way) is where we start the healing and recovery. Like Readyandable said, thoughts are just thoughts...they hold no sway - just let them pass. And pass they will.
Congrats on your 3 weeks
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Wow thanks so much everyone. It really makes sense.. The addiction. It's mind blowing. Helps so much to know this is normal and part of the process.
Especially it being friday night. Need to get used to this.
Especially it being friday night. Need to get used to this.
That's your addiction beckoning to you. Congratulationsit's proof that you're achieving your goal! The addiction will try to generate stress even in the absence of real causes; in a way it's a great opportunity to strengthen those sobriety muscles, because at some point we all encounter truly stressful events, and we need to know how to handle them in a healthy way.
My advice? Breathe. Just relax for a moment. Feel the tensionwhere is it, physically? For example, I often feel my neck and jaw tense up. Sometimes my scalp feels like it's two sizes too small for my head, lol. Be aware of those sensations. Make a conscious effort to relax those parts of your body. Breathe some more.
Feelings can't hurt you; they're just feelings. You don't have to act on them. They will passthey always do. By focusing my attention on them, I can usually defuse them pretty quickly. Then move on with my day with a renewed sense of self-confidence. Once again my addiction came calling, and once again I sent it packing empty handed. With every victory, it grows weaker, and we go stronger. You're doing great, Jesse.
My advice? Breathe. Just relax for a moment. Feel the tensionwhere is it, physically? For example, I often feel my neck and jaw tense up. Sometimes my scalp feels like it's two sizes too small for my head, lol. Be aware of those sensations. Make a conscious effort to relax those parts of your body. Breathe some more.
Feelings can't hurt you; they're just feelings. You don't have to act on them. They will passthey always do. By focusing my attention on them, I can usually defuse them pretty quickly. Then move on with my day with a renewed sense of self-confidence. Once again my addiction came calling, and once again I sent it packing empty handed. With every victory, it grows weaker, and we go stronger. You're doing great, Jesse.
And- JesseJe- I'm right there with you. Thanks for this thread!
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That is so good to hear. I have been accomplishing more, doing more with my time for sure. I started making flower crowns when I got sober, and the guy who owns the store below me said he would sell them in the shop!!!
I NEVER would have accomplished this while drinking.. I accomplished nothing.
I just feel like a big huge dark cloud of sadness and melancholy is over me. I feel judgemental and whiny (lol) and lonely and unloving.. I just have to keep thinking it will pass. At least I'm not fighting the urge to get booze. That would be worse. Just in the dumps
I NEVER would have accomplished this while drinking.. I accomplished nothing.
I just feel like a big huge dark cloud of sadness and melancholy is over me. I feel judgemental and whiny (lol) and lonely and unloving.. I just have to keep thinking it will pass. At least I'm not fighting the urge to get booze. That would be worse. Just in the dumps
When I would get like that in early recovery I'd walk my dogs. They got a lot of walks for a while there but eventually I settled down and they lost out. Exercise is a great way for me to feel better, just a walk is good, the fresh air and sunshine help too.
1 glass with alcohol would not relax me. It would open up the floodgates.
Putting my sobriety 1st I have to have a way to not drink, even when I want too.
For me, thats any part of any program. Whatever it takes I will do it.
Putting my sobriety 1st I have to have a way to not drink, even when I want too.
For me, thats any part of any program. Whatever it takes I will do it.
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I know what you mean Fallow. I usually have one glass and it's like OOOOOKAAAAYYYYY here we go!!! On some kind of crazy bender. Usually ends up like that. Usually.
Today was better I'm happy to say. Still a bit angry under the surface but Yoga is helping ALOT and so is trying to laugh it off. Plough through the mud. Helps to hear it should pass eventually too. Keep on goin.....
Today was better I'm happy to say. Still a bit angry under the surface but Yoga is helping ALOT and so is trying to laugh it off. Plough through the mud. Helps to hear it should pass eventually too. Keep on goin.....
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