DeborahJO

I went from drinking on weekends and just in the past month have gone from 3 drinksa night to 9/10 very fast. I spend a day recovering...then the next day when I feel better I do it all over again
I feel ashamed.
I am a mother of two beautiful boys and I need to change for them
Today I have made a promise to myself to not have another drink.
Any advice would be appreciated. I am pretty alone here. Hubby is away for two months longer. I need to change before he gets back.
I cannot attend AA as I cannot afford chldcare
I would greatly appreciate some support

robgt350

Deborah
i think you came to the right place. AA was not for me and i found this place. it has been a great support of support and help for me. i drank nightly all the time also. Deborah try to chat room for some real time support.

DeborahJO

Thanks for your message i appreciate it

Caledonia1

Hi Deborah
Welcome to SR. You'll get heaps of support here. Just take it a day at a time.
You can do it.

MeSoSober

I know I've seen kids at AA meetings. And aren't some of them (meetings, not kids!) held adjacent to another room where family members are having Al-Anon meetings or something?

I guess it may depend on their ages and behavior, but having kids won't necessarily preclude you from being able to attend meetings.

Oh, and welcome to the forum!! I just joined this week and am loving the fellowship and support.

markinsf

Take a look in the secular section. Maybe something like AVRT is something for you to consider. There are a lot of great posts about it there.

Nevertheless

I myself wouldn't take kids to the AA hall I attended. There were several members that said and did things that I sure didn't think was right. But there were a few girls that kept bringing their kids back that didn't seem to think anything about it. There were toys and things to play with in the kitchen. But the kids seldom stayed in there. Maybe I'm old fashioned,Iduno. Not all AA halls are the same.
But while what happens at AA is supposed to stay at AA,I don't have a lot of trust in people I don't know. If some kind of custody issue or anything involving a court ,or law or who knows what came up. And AA and kids came into the subject,it surely wouldn't be good. Just my opinion.
Fred

robgt350

Deb
it was nice talking to you. hope to see you again.

Dee74

Hi and welcome

There's many different approaches and methods of recovery around Deborah - here's some links to some of the main players:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...formation.html

Some of them may be more child friendly than others - you'd have to look into it.

If meetings just aren't for you, most recovery programmes have online meetings now....some, like Rational Recovery have no meetings at all....

I recommend you visit the Secular Connections forum if you think you may benefit from a non 12 step approach.

D

DeborahJO

Thanks Robgt350 It was nice chatting with you as well....going to my first aa meeting tonight. Wish me luck

2granddaughters

Are you going to an AA meeting in your home town?

All the best.

Bob R

misspond

Hiya - I hear you, I have two children too and no way to attend a meeting. But having spent a lot of time here reading threads I am confident that support is available here. I wish you luck on sorting out your problems with drinking.

DeborahJO

Made it through day 2 Thanks everyone for support.
AA meeting went well. very emotional...hope to not beat myself up for long.

Kimmers

Dont beat yourself up!!! You are worth sobriety and peace in your life!Get some books...you can always read with your kids around...hang in there

DeborahJO

Day 3 sober I dont ever want to feel the way I did again

Veritas1

You can follow the AA program even if you cannot attend the meetings.

There is so much online, that you can begin when you are ready.

Oops...just realized you were able to go! Good for you! Well done!

If you need help, send me a pm.

Tyre

Hi Deborah,
You sound like you know that it is an issue and tackling it early on which is great.
You have my support 100%.
Tyre