I wanna drink but ain't going to
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I wanna drink but ain't going to
Dh has been argumentive lately, I can't please him no matter what I do or say. And just now he was talking loudly to me and I thought, thank god it's after supper I can have a drink. The thought scared me.
I want a drink but won't. This is my problem not his, I will not fall I will be strong, for me.
I want a drink but won't. This is my problem not his, I will not fall I will be strong, for me.
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You should definitely pay attention to that thought, but don't let it scare you too much. It's pretty normal to fall into our default response ("I wanna drink"), when that's what we are used to. You paid attention to it, and you posted here. That's the right way to deal with it.
The strong emotions (fear, anger, elation) were the hardest part of early sobriety for me. Once you have done it for a while, you start to realize that feeling one of those emotions doesn't mean you have to respond with a drink. You learn other ways to cope with it (like venting about it here, taking a long walk, taking a hot bath, etc.). I remember feeling like I couldn't STAND the way I was feeling. Well, guess what? I could, and I did.
And you are, too! Nice going!
The strong emotions (fear, anger, elation) were the hardest part of early sobriety for me. Once you have done it for a while, you start to realize that feeling one of those emotions doesn't mean you have to respond with a drink. You learn other ways to cope with it (like venting about it here, taking a long walk, taking a hot bath, etc.). I remember feeling like I couldn't STAND the way I was feeling. Well, guess what? I could, and I did.
And you are, too! Nice going!
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I drank "at my husband" every night. After being sober for a while I started giving him one compliment a day. He responded by brightening up, being kinder to me, and he seemed happier. He can still be difficult to deal with at times, but I try not to buy into it because it threatens my sobriety. One day at a time.
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Drank at someone, never thought of that before but it explained a lot and makes so much sense. I didnt drink!
I got up this morning and went job hunting, I own my own home based buisness but getting burned out since I have been doing it for over 20 years and ready to shut it down and with this economy it's not doing well anyway. I figure if I can get out of the house and do something different it will give me a new out look on life.
Hubby is not happy since we don't need the money, I told him I needed to try this. And well between you all and me he is not happy any way me being here are at a job won't make a difference. And the chance of me getting a job in this small town is pretty slim so I'm slightly hopeful and won't be disappointed if I don't find anything.
I got up this morning and went job hunting, I own my own home based buisness but getting burned out since I have been doing it for over 20 years and ready to shut it down and with this economy it's not doing well anyway. I figure if I can get out of the house and do something different it will give me a new out look on life.
Hubby is not happy since we don't need the money, I told him I needed to try this. And well between you all and me he is not happy any way me being here are at a job won't make a difference. And the chance of me getting a job in this small town is pretty slim so I'm slightly hopeful and won't be disappointed if I don't find anything.
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