Im Boring !
Im Boring !
Hi Guys, been sober for 9 weeks, im currently in India on business, staying in a 5 star hotel and bored out of my brains stuck in hotel room.
The sheer fact that Im bored whilst on a trip to India is a worry to me, im in a country that most people would consider fascinating and im probably very fortunate tro have an opportunity to see such a country, but i have been here many times before and normally just spend my evenings in the hotel bar getting wasted.
So this coming weekend is a long weekend, and i can pretty much travel anywhere within a 3 hour flying time, but honestly, im such a boring person im not sure what im gonna do when i get to wherever i go. Normallly i would go somewhere and drinking would be the adventure, now i have all of life to see and am just so bloody boring that i cant think of anything to see...
Anyone else have this kind of problem?
The sheer fact that Im bored whilst on a trip to India is a worry to me, im in a country that most people would consider fascinating and im probably very fortunate tro have an opportunity to see such a country, but i have been here many times before and normally just spend my evenings in the hotel bar getting wasted.
So this coming weekend is a long weekend, and i can pretty much travel anywhere within a 3 hour flying time, but honestly, im such a boring person im not sure what im gonna do when i get to wherever i go. Normallly i would go somewhere and drinking would be the adventure, now i have all of life to see and am just so bloody boring that i cant think of anything to see...
Anyone else have this kind of problem?
just looking at map, i could go Kerala, Nepal, Sri Lanka, some jungle... the skies the limit. shall i just go some random place becuase i can and there might be a chance i could enjoy myself? or stay here staring at the TV?
Of course, it was like that for me at first... I found that I was so damned resentful that I couldn't get my buzz on that I didn't let myself go free and enjoy all that was in front of me.
It is not a problem anymore. It took work, for me anyway, but I no longer feel that way.
It is not a problem anymore. It took work, for me anyway, but I no longer feel that way.
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haha I can relate. "where are we going does it involve alcohol? " no? "then i'm not going" "can i drink while there" no? "then i'm not going!!" I dont care if its a once in a lifetime this that its pretty it'll be fun if it doesnt involve me getting drunk and being left the FRICK alone i aint going!
yeah been there hahaha. Oh this beutiful place you speak of is there a bar i can sit at get drunk and admire the beuty? no? I aint going!!
now fast forward if i had the means to take a neat trip and see someting cool that interests me i'd certainly go. I wouldnt worry about getting back to the hotel in time to get properly sloshed for the evening etc.. either.
yeah been there hahaha. Oh this beutiful place you speak of is there a bar i can sit at get drunk and admire the beuty? no? I aint going!!
now fast forward if i had the means to take a neat trip and see someting cool that interests me i'd certainly go. I wouldnt worry about getting back to the hotel in time to get properly sloshed for the evening etc.. either.
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to add my kids had a camping trip i new about it for MONTHS before hand and i recall being terrified i had enough room in the cooler for the cases of beer i'd need to get me through the weekend. Then i was concerned what the other parents would think when they watched just how much i could put em away. what if htey where not drinkers and i was the only one drinking etc.. I dreaded the upcoming trip. Luckily a few months before i sobered up and didnt have to worry about any of that and itw as an enjoyable trip despite the terrible weather.
Hi Guys, been sober for 9 weeks, im currently in India on business, staying in a 5 star hotel and bored out of my brains stuck in hotel room.
The sheer fact that Im bored whilst on a trip to India is a worry to me, im in a country that most people would consider fascinating and im probably very fortunate tro have an opportunity to see such a country, but i have been here many times before and normally just spend my evenings in the hotel bar getting wasted.
So this coming weekend is a long weekend, and i can pretty much travel anywhere within a 3 hour flying time, but honestly, im such a boring person im not sure what im gonna do when i get to wherever i go. Normallly i would go somewhere and drinking would be the adventure, now i have all of life to see and am just so bloody boring that i cant think of anything to see...
Anyone else have this kind of problem?
The sheer fact that Im bored whilst on a trip to India is a worry to me, im in a country that most people would consider fascinating and im probably very fortunate tro have an opportunity to see such a country, but i have been here many times before and normally just spend my evenings in the hotel bar getting wasted.
So this coming weekend is a long weekend, and i can pretty much travel anywhere within a 3 hour flying time, but honestly, im such a boring person im not sure what im gonna do when i get to wherever i go. Normallly i would go somewhere and drinking would be the adventure, now i have all of life to see and am just so bloody boring that i cant think of anything to see...
Anyone else have this kind of problem?
So your boring! Better to be boring than drunk at the bar. In fact since you Have been to India before, and the bar was as far as you got, you might wanna sight see a little. Depending on how long you have to be there. I think your room and watching TV might be the safest place for a 9 weeker.
At least you have a comfort zone there. If you go traveling you may feel anxious and that could make things a little difficult.
haha I can relate. "where are we going does it involve alcohol? " no? "then i'm not going" "can i drink while there" no? "then i'm not going!!" I dont care if its a once in a lifetime this that its pretty it'll be fun if it doesnt involve me getting drunk and being left the FRICK alone i aint going!
yeah been there hahaha. Oh this beutiful place you speak of is there a bar i can sit at get drunk and admire the beuty? no? I aint going!!
now fast forward if i had the means to take a neat trip and see someting cool that interests me i'd certainly go. I wouldnt worry about getting back to the hotel in time to get properly sloshed for the evening etc.. either.
yeah been there hahaha. Oh this beutiful place you speak of is there a bar i can sit at get drunk and admire the beuty? no? I aint going!!
now fast forward if i had the means to take a neat trip and see someting cool that interests me i'd certainly go. I wouldnt worry about getting back to the hotel in time to get properly sloshed for the evening etc.. either.
Well at least I now realise.
I have no deep pangs of desire to remove the boredom via drinking, as obviously thats a false economy which got me here in the first place ! but its easy to forget the freedom you gain when you quit and a bit daunting on how to use that freedom.
Liked you camping story, I have a 4 year old son and can very much relate.
Well, you certainly don't sound boring Mr.Tumble. I love your sense of humor - in spite of how you're feeling at the moment.
In the beginning I was a fish out of water, an alien dropped out of a spaceship. I had been relying on alcohol for fun & entertainment for so long - everything else seemed boring and like too much effort. I loved to travel, but as you said - drinking was always involved. See a few 'sights', then on to the real fun - sitting in the hotel bar. Of course that's ridiculous, and no way to live. We are better than that. It will take a while to feel comfortable with the new you. Tiny baby steps. One day you'll wonder how you could've spent so much time in a fog.
Let us know how you are doing.
In the beginning I was a fish out of water, an alien dropped out of a spaceship. I had been relying on alcohol for fun & entertainment for so long - everything else seemed boring and like too much effort. I loved to travel, but as you said - drinking was always involved. See a few 'sights', then on to the real fun - sitting in the hotel bar. Of course that's ridiculous, and no way to live. We are better than that. It will take a while to feel comfortable with the new you. Tiny baby steps. One day you'll wonder how you could've spent so much time in a fog.
Let us know how you are doing.
I think you just have to give it more time. I drank for a long long time,and when I quit. I just didn't know what to do without my old "friend". But after a while you start to forget the crutch. I am a boring person myself. I used to drink to help "fit in". Thats how it all started for me. But looking back at all those years I can easily see I didn't "fit in" drunk either. Or I was just with a bunch of others that didn't fit in.
After 6 months or so sober I really started to hate booze and don't like being around intoxicated people anymore. Iduno,maybe I just had enough.
All I can say is don't give in. At 9 weeks your old "friend" is still tempting you. Tell him you have better things to do. AND GO DO SOME
I wish you the best.
Fred
After 6 months or so sober I really started to hate booze and don't like being around intoxicated people anymore. Iduno,maybe I just had enough.
All I can say is don't give in. At 9 weeks your old "friend" is still tempting you. Tell him you have better things to do. AND GO DO SOME
I wish you the best.
Fred
The "some jungle" thing made me laugh. Kinda caught me off guard.
As you can see a lot of people here get what you mean. Many want to drink to loosen up to have a fun time.
Try to hang in there, and enjoy a sober experience.
As you can see a lot of people here get what you mean. Many want to drink to loosen up to have a fun time.
Try to hang in there, and enjoy a sober experience.
Try blogging - that will force you to try new foods, take cool pics and describe things you did.
As for the boredom, yeah, I know lots of people early in their recovery who related about their boredom. One guy said in a meeting once that he was considering going back out drinking to get some more excitement in his life. I don't find handcuffs and hospital bands exciting, to be honest. But I do know what you are talking about, I went through that as well. I still have times I feel like that, but I then look at all I have (gratitude) and look at the freedom I have to do whatever it is I want. When I was in treatment, all I could do during those 21 days was think of all the things I would love to do when I got out. And I did them. And I have to sometimes apply that same thinking when I get in a rut. Unlike when I was drinking, I have ambition and passion! I can explore whatever I want, try whatever new thing I want...I am free to fill my life with positive things, or I can choose not to. It's my choice. And it's yours too.
As for the boredom, yeah, I know lots of people early in their recovery who related about their boredom. One guy said in a meeting once that he was considering going back out drinking to get some more excitement in his life. I don't find handcuffs and hospital bands exciting, to be honest. But I do know what you are talking about, I went through that as well. I still have times I feel like that, but I then look at all I have (gratitude) and look at the freedom I have to do whatever it is I want. When I was in treatment, all I could do during those 21 days was think of all the things I would love to do when I got out. And I did them. And I have to sometimes apply that same thinking when I get in a rut. Unlike when I was drinking, I have ambition and passion! I can explore whatever I want, try whatever new thing I want...I am free to fill my life with positive things, or I can choose not to. It's my choice. And it's yours too.
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