Gravel

Ever wonder what the world had in store for you as a kid? Remember when you were about 5 or 7 and thought the world revolved around you?

HOW could it be that just being sober is, "the world revolves around you."

I can't answer this. I'm not sure there could possibly even be an answer to this either.

Caldus

I'm sort of confused about your question. I can't speak for other recovery programs out there, but in AA the world certainly doesn't revolve around me by any means. I've learned just how selfish and self-centered of a person I am. I was so self-centered that I took everything so personally and thought people were constantly thinking about me. The reality is that the world does not revolve around me. I thought that way when I was drinking. Nothing mattered except for me. But in sobriety (or at least in AA), I can learn to live differently and feel peace, serenity, and happiness. I can care about other people and feel useful to society.

If you're asking if sobriety is really the answer ... well, how is drinking working out for you? Is your life manageable with drinking?

Fandy

we all have days that go craptasically....but i think when we are sober and relatively sane, we deal with problems much better and are less emotional.

Xune

I don't feel that many people are of the opinion, that because they are sober, that they are the centre of being.

TSDD

I know that being loaded does not work for me, I also know that I physically can not moderate once I start; hence, sobriety is really the only option left. The rest of the world doesn't enter into the equasion.

Fernaceman

I don't really understand the question, but one thing I HAVE learned in sobriety is that the world definitely does NOT revolve around me.

Gravel

When you were a kid did it ever occur to you that you would have to go to a group of people to make you do something?

Most kids depend on their mothers and fathers.

Zube

G-

Q- How many alcoholics does it take to screw in a lightbulb?
A- Only one to hold the bulb in place and wait for the rest of the world to revolve around him!

ZUBE!!

paul99

Sounds like you're trying to get at something.

I am still a bit confused...what's going on?

Gravel

I am drunk and looking for a female drunk.

So sad but true.

Dee74

For me recovery's been about realising the world doesn't revolve around me - I thought that way for many years as a drunk tho.

Getting sober and staying that way has put me back in touch with that feeling I used to have as a kid waking up on a Saturday morning...an endless vista of possibilities before me.

I hope you try it too
why not start now?

D

Sasha4

Gravel it's okay.

If you can, it might be a good idea to pour out the booze, try get some sleep and come back tomorrow.

It will get better. It will get easier.

sugarbear1

Try not drinking and getting a clear head. Some drunk females don't really want a drunk male.....

What does a drunk have to offer to a relationship really? Lack of funds, heartache, fighting, nothing positive.

Just for one day, don't drink then try it the next day.....

Hugs,

Fernaceman

I certainly wasn't the most fun nor probably attractive or personable person while using.

Gravel

Without going into details I want a female who desires my fantasies. And it might happen when a women is under the influence.

I call love my desire.

Dee74

Lets just focus on your recovery here, Gravel.

D

Gravel

Okay Dee. I become very submissive when I drink. Maybe I should check out the 12 steps.

Dee74

The advice I gave you when you first came back is still good I think...even if I say so myself...

D

Fernaceman

Lol you are so humble, D! Lol

Aussiebenji32

Well I have woken up to another day of being sober.i am ready to face today's challenges really enjoying the posts here. it makes me more determined to keep going.i think when I'm settled in I am going to be asking a few questions lol