ZombieAttack

Hey

I guess it had to happen, but I just experienced the first person reminding mew what I used to be like when under the influence. They did this in a mocking way, and while I know that I am to blame for all this, it did hurt.

They did it in front of a fair number of people too, and I don't really know what to do about it.

Any advice?

JasonMarchelak

Honestly mate I wouldn't take it personally, at the end of the day, they are the ones that don't understand how your feeling and what you are going through! They are ignorant to the fact that you have stopped and okay they may have taken the p*** but really If they did this intentionally to hurt you then I would confront them and tell them how you feel. Don't worry, I get told what I have done and it shocked me but I just let it go in one ear and out the other and keep focusing on myself!

ZombieAttack

Yeah, you are right.

This is all new territory for me though, you understand.

Still, I made it through day 6 without a drink. Was on trains all day too, and met a load of different people. Wasn't what I would call comfortable, but I am getting there.

Hope you are doing well too.

Dee74

I'm sorry....thats never nice - but I think 6 days is pretty early ZombieAttack.
You may have to deal with that a few more times yet I'm afraid.

Sometimes people are thoughtless. If there's someone who's relentlessly giving me grief though? I'd not have that person in my life.

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pipparina

Mean behavior on their part, but nothing much you can do other than let it strengthen your resolve to never let yourself behave that way again.

Keep up the good work. It can be tough in the beginning, but well worth it.

JasonMarchelak

I understand it is but you will find alot of help here, keep going and avoid the stigma that you'll face as its only talk not action. The thing to do is look at them as little as they made you feel, you'll learn that they are the ones who are immature towards you and you are stronger than a petit load of stigma. I am doing well thanks nearly 6 months, never looking back! Onwards and upwards! Trust me, it does and WILL get better, try not to let the negatives outweigh the positives as it could lead to a laspse or relapse.... It used to with me, believe me any argument or snidy little comment hurt me and I drank to forget those feelings.

rubbersoul

This has happened to me recently as well. I tried to diffuse the situation as much as possible by joking it off but it did hurt me too. I told myself afterwards I'll take it in stride, people will no longer have any more of my drunken behaviour to use as fodder because I won't let them have any more. They will never see me drunk again!

Dee74

The more I rebuilt a sober reputation, the less these things occurred
These encounters can hurt at the time, but they're temporary...they pass

Don't let others bring you down

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ZombieAttack

Thanks a lot guys.

Means a lot to have you all there for me.

Xune

I still get it. I don't let it bug me, because that's the old me and yes, my drunken antics were the amusement of others on occasion.

I have no doubt that as time passes, the stories and reminders will fade into the collective memories of those who remember.

Time...

Threshold

Hurts huh? Maybe even embarrassing?

I know...ouch. But you can take it as one more reason to NEVER go there again, knowing how you appeared to others and what they thought of you.

not pretty, but an invitation to keep moving forward with a really critical life change.

6 days is awesome!

The longer I grow in sobriety the more I realize myself, what a douche I was when I was wasted and drunk. AND the more sensitive I become to why others may act like they do.