Someone tried to kick my door down drunk tonight. Called 911.
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Someone tried to kick my door down drunk tonight. Called 911.
I am finally back to normal and completely detoxed. I got my daughter back and felt great today. No alcohol or caffeine use. Thanks for all the prayers.
This is a very safe neighborhood. I moved my child away from a crime filled area and pay a lot for my apartment. I want better for her. My sleep has been off still and I have ptsd anyway so everything jolts me awake. I live on a bottom floor. At 2am someone started kicking the glass window above my daughters bed in her bedroom. I panicked. I ran for my phone and basically grabbed her from sleep because the kicking was so hard the window was about to shatter. I called 911 and the person was now at my only door kicking and punching and turning the handle. I screamed someone was trying to get in.
I had my child in the kitchen (no windows) and dispatch stayed on with me until I could get an officer there. I caught a glimpse of a man. He appeared to be wasted and that's the only description I could give them. He was leaning against my door when I looked thru the peekhole.
Police searched for 20 minutes and it took four of them to find a man stumbling drunk INSIDE my apartment complex. They said he didn't even know where he was and thought my apartment was his so he got angry when he couldn't get in. No charges filed have a nice day. This was 2 it is now 6. My daughter is in my bed afraid of her room and quite honestly my ptsd is out of control. If I see this drunk ahole tomorrow its going to take everything I have to not want to flip entirely out for traumatizing my child and aggrivating my symptoms of panic disorder and ptsd. I am so angry. He even continued to stomp thru the complex until 4am. My pulse is still racing.
How do I deal with him? There are only 12 apartments here. I don't want this happening again. I seriously thought someone was trying to kill us. Thanks.
This is a very safe neighborhood. I moved my child away from a crime filled area and pay a lot for my apartment. I want better for her. My sleep has been off still and I have ptsd anyway so everything jolts me awake. I live on a bottom floor. At 2am someone started kicking the glass window above my daughters bed in her bedroom. I panicked. I ran for my phone and basically grabbed her from sleep because the kicking was so hard the window was about to shatter. I called 911 and the person was now at my only door kicking and punching and turning the handle. I screamed someone was trying to get in.
I had my child in the kitchen (no windows) and dispatch stayed on with me until I could get an officer there. I caught a glimpse of a man. He appeared to be wasted and that's the only description I could give them. He was leaning against my door when I looked thru the peekhole.
Police searched for 20 minutes and it took four of them to find a man stumbling drunk INSIDE my apartment complex. They said he didn't even know where he was and thought my apartment was his so he got angry when he couldn't get in. No charges filed have a nice day. This was 2 it is now 6. My daughter is in my bed afraid of her room and quite honestly my ptsd is out of control. If I see this drunk ahole tomorrow its going to take everything I have to not want to flip entirely out for traumatizing my child and aggrivating my symptoms of panic disorder and ptsd. I am so angry. He even continued to stomp thru the complex until 4am. My pulse is still racing.
How do I deal with him? There are only 12 apartments here. I don't want this happening again. I seriously thought someone was trying to kill us. Thanks.
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Welcome back behindblueyes,pleased to hear you are detoxed.
What a frightening thing to happen,but you dealt with it the right way.
I dont know what you can do about the man,make sure your doors and windows are locked and keep your phone close to call the police.
Dont confront him,he probably wont remember he did it.
Hugs to you and your little girl.
What a frightening thing to happen,but you dealt with it the right way.
I dont know what you can do about the man,make sure your doors and windows are locked and keep your phone close to call the police.
Dont confront him,he probably wont remember he did it.
Hugs to you and your little girl.
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this reminds me if a story in the news awhile back. some young guy drank often at his friends apartmemt (same complex) and then like always walks to his apartment. thisvtime however and im not sure how but he went into his next door neighbors apartment instead of his own crawling in bed with the elderly woman.
funny when you hear the story not so funny to the person it happens to.
im sorry this scared your daughter. i too am a mother and being that children already get scared at every bump in the night. this must be real frightening for her.
i would just re assure your daughter it was just a misunderstanding and the silly guy went to the wrong place. you took the right actions in the situation and its a blessing he didnt actually get in and he was loud/you heard.
hopefully with less to no incidents at your apartments your daughter will feel safe again
funny when you hear the story not so funny to the person it happens to.
im sorry this scared your daughter. i too am a mother and being that children already get scared at every bump in the night. this must be real frightening for her.
i would just re assure your daughter it was just a misunderstanding and the silly guy went to the wrong place. you took the right actions in the situation and its a blessing he didnt actually get in and he was loud/you heard.
hopefully with less to no incidents at your apartments your daughter will feel safe again
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I am on two hours sleep and still shaken up. Strangely, if this man had been sober and actually doing these things charges would have been pressed. I was relieved when they told me it was just a drunk guy and not someone out to hurt me. Although with how crazy he acted I wonder what wouldve happened if he DID get in here. He did not seem like a happy drunk.
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Originally Posted by behindblueyes 
. He did not seem like a happy drunk.
Glad that things worked out - that the man didn't get in. You did exactly what you should have. I can only imagine how frightening it must have been.
Hope you guys are doing better.
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Funny, I've heard guys talk about doing this from the podium at a meeting.... never really stopped to think what it was like for the occupants of the home.
All you can say is "But for the grace of God go I".... which in layman's terms is "better him than me!" I'm fully aware that I'm 1 budweiser away from any of those horror stories being my future.
All you can say is "But for the grace of God go I".... which in layman's terms is "better him than me!" I'm fully aware that I'm 1 budweiser away from any of those horror stories being my future.
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My daughter does not seem to mind. She is too young to understand and thinks "someone was playing a trick" on us. She will sleep better than me tonite!
The officers did not give me his name but I saw him walking in and out until 4am. They said two floors up so I went up exactly two floors and checked out what number he is in (I have only lived here six months and never really wandered up there). Came back down to the mailboxes and go figure he is the only one who wrote his first and last name on his mailbox. Thinking about reporting him to the landlord. If he is an alcoholic this won't be the last encounter!
Also have to wonder why he didn't go to floor 2 (he lives on three) where there is a huge tall guy a floor above me. Instead he picked a woman who lives alone downstairs. That has me freaked out.
The officers did not give me his name but I saw him walking in and out until 4am. They said two floors up so I went up exactly two floors and checked out what number he is in (I have only lived here six months and never really wandered up there). Came back down to the mailboxes and go figure he is the only one who wrote his first and last name on his mailbox. Thinking about reporting him to the landlord. If he is an alcoholic this won't be the last encounter!
Also have to wonder why he didn't go to floor 2 (he lives on three) where there is a huge tall guy a floor above me. Instead he picked a woman who lives alone downstairs. That has me freaked out.
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BehindBlueEyes! I was going to PM you as I was worried about you! Glad you are doing better than the last post i saw.
As to that incident....I would have peed myself. Oh my goodness, what a freaky thing. Glad you and your daughter are ok after that too!
As to that incident....I would have peed myself. Oh my goodness, what a freaky thing. Glad you and your daughter are ok after that too!
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I am embarrassed to say that I did this same exact thing to someone one night drunk, years ago 
All of the buildings in my apartment complex looked alike, and I got myself to the right floor and apartment number but wrong building. I couldn't understand why my key wouldn't open the door and began pounding on and kicking the door at 2 am A very angry man answered and I demanded to know why HE was in MY apartment! He cussed me out and slammed the door in my face...I'm very glad that's all he did, as I am a small woman and he could have easily taken me out. I eventually found my way back to my apartment and was so embarrassed the next day I am so sorry this happened to you.
All of the buildings in my apartment complex looked alike, and I got myself to the right floor and apartment number but wrong building. I couldn't understand why my key wouldn't open the door and began pounding on and kicking the door at 2 am A very angry man answered and I demanded to know why HE was in MY apartment! He cussed me out and slammed the door in my face...I'm very glad that's all he did, as I am a small woman and he could have easily taken me out. I eventually found my way back to my apartment and was so embarrassed the next day I am so sorry this happened to you.
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That is exactly why I don't own a gun. I don't know when to use it. This man doesn't have windows on his third floor apartment so why was he kicking my windows? I really am wondering if he was trying to get in. I know relationships are a bad thing during early sobriety but I am young and feel VERY helpless being female living alone with just pepper spray. I never wanted a gun because to be honest I don't want it around my child and I've seen some stuff at work I won't get into.
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Originally Posted by behindblueyes
That is exactly why I don't own a gun. I don't know when to use it. This man doesn't have windows on his third floor apartment so why was he kicking my windows? I really am wondering if he was trying to get in. I know relationships are a bad thing during early sobriety but I am young and feel VERY helpless being female living alone with just pepper spray. I never wanted a gun because to be honest I don't want it around my child and I've seen some stuff at work I won't get into.
Just a thought, How long did it take the cops to get there? That is the window of opportunity anyone has to do harm. Sorry but that is reality.
I would encourage training. And there are plenty of ways to ensure it doesn't get into a child's hands. That's crucial. But don't be a victim.
Are there any cool neighbors who would keep an extra set of eyes on you?
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Looks to me like the OP doesn't want a gun.
Lets move on from that aspect.
I'm sorry this happened to you BBE.
He may have been disorientated - I had someone like that once who insisted their friend lived here.
I would make a complaint to the landlord at least. It's not just your safety here - it's your child's too.
I am glad to here you're doing well in recovery tho
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Lets move on from that aspect.
I'm sorry this happened to you BBE.
He may have been disorientated - I had someone like that once who insisted their friend lived here.
I would make a complaint to the landlord at least. It's not just your safety here - it's your child's too.
I am glad to here you're doing well in recovery tho
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It would be a good idea to see what you can do in the way of security. Perhaps you can upgrade the locks and windows. Something like a Door Club can make it almost impossible to gain entrance thru a door. Given this incident you probably have some leverage with the super/landlord to upgrade security.
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It is 430am and I still do not sleep at night because of this. I reported him to the landlord and they said "well we can get maintenace to come look at your door" I said I didn't care about their door I didn't want this happening again! They don't seem to care.
Which makes me mad. And scared. So I don't sleep.
I have a story and some insight of why I am who I am. At Thanksgiving dinner today my grama poured alcohol for everyone and said "you all have to try this" at 1230pm. My uncle just went thru inpatient rehab and said no yet my grama said he has to. I grew up around a VERY alcoholic family. I made my way outside where another uncle was drinking and said "did you try this stuff yet?" "Well why not"? He then went to describe the alcoholic drink (pumpkin pie crap) in detail. My child was there for all this. Everyone drunk at noon.
I would like to talk to my uncle who is a year sober but I told my mom months back I was going to an AA meeting and she gasped and said "I hope its not the same one your uncle goes to or everyone in the family will think you're an alcoholic".
I think I need to disown my family.
Which makes me mad. And scared. So I don't sleep.
I have a story and some insight of why I am who I am. At Thanksgiving dinner today my grama poured alcohol for everyone and said "you all have to try this" at 1230pm. My uncle just went thru inpatient rehab and said no yet my grama said he has to. I grew up around a VERY alcoholic family. I made my way outside where another uncle was drinking and said "did you try this stuff yet?" "Well why not"? He then went to describe the alcoholic drink (pumpkin pie crap) in detail. My child was there for all this. Everyone drunk at noon.
I would like to talk to my uncle who is a year sober but I told my mom months back I was going to an AA meeting and she gasped and said "I hope its not the same one your uncle goes to or everyone in the family will think you're an alcoholic".
I think I need to disown my family.
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