booze party
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booze party
Ive been invited a party, last time i went there, it was a right booze up and I got mega drunk. 11 days sober and am abit concerned that if go I wont be able to not drink.
Its the type of house where the host tends to make sure everyone in her eyes is having a good time and that usually means she runs around making sure people drink
None of the people who will be at the party now I've given up drink, if I don't go they will wonder what's up. But if I do go and don't drink then they will be worried.
Advice please"
Its the type of house where the host tends to make sure everyone in her eyes is having a good time and that usually means she runs around making sure people drink
None of the people who will be at the party now I've given up drink, if I don't go they will wonder what's up. But if I do go and don't drink then they will be worried.
Advice please"
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I found avoiding booze gatherings works best for me
As a non drinker...I simply have no business being there.
Why not ask another friend to join you on a movie night instead?
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As a non drinker...I simply have no business being there.
Why not ask another friend to join you on a movie night instead?
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Join Date: Nov 2011
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I'd say if you really want to stay sober, and you feel going is a threat to your sobriety, it is probably best to not go this time. Maybe after you get a little more time under your belt you will be able to handle these types of situations but in early sobriety you might be asking for trouble going to a big drunk-fest.
Of course, I'm no expert
I struggle with the same issue too.....how to let people know that I no longer drink or want to drink without getting a bunch of questions......since I have always been a heavy drinker......
Its a tough one. I think with time it will get easier......its like becoming a different person with different focus and then having to explain to other people why.......
Good luck and stay strong!! Just think of a crappy hang-over.....feeling bad all day.....regret......all of that......
Of course, I'm no expert
I struggle with the same issue too.....how to let people know that I no longer drink or want to drink without getting a bunch of questions......since I have always been a heavy drinker......Its a tough one. I think with time it will get easier......its like becoming a different person with different focus and then having to explain to other people why.......
Good luck and stay strong!! Just think of a crappy hang-over.....feeling bad all day.....regret......all of that......
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You have a 3 hour flu. You have to wash your hair. You are going to a previous engagement. Your friend over seas needs to talk and the only time you can do it is during the party. You have work to do. You accidentally locked yourself in the bathroom.
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Join Date: May 2012
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Don't do the excuses thing.
Everyone always thinks their excuses are good, believable and socially skillful.
In reality, everyone's excuses are transparent and it's more unpleasant when someone doesn't come to your party and lies to you about it than when they just don't come.
"I'm sorry but I can't make it." is good enough, "I'm sorry, I can't make it but could we get together next week for lunch?" will keep the friendship running along perfectly.
Everyone always thinks their excuses are good, believable and socially skillful.
In reality, everyone's excuses are transparent and it's more unpleasant when someone doesn't come to your party and lies to you about it than when they just don't come.
"I'm sorry but I can't make it." is good enough, "I'm sorry, I can't make it but could we get together next week for lunch?" will keep the friendship running along perfectly.
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I don't have much business at this kind of party and it doesn't really interest me anymore.
The easy way to live and to stay sober is to avoid this kind of party.
The hard way to live and to needlessly jeopardize your recovery is to go to the party, try to white nuckle your way through it, and hope that you don't have a no mental defense moment.
It sounds like you have made the wise choice, amigo.
The easy way to live and to stay sober is to avoid this kind of party.
The hard way to live and to needlessly jeopardize your recovery is to go to the party, try to white nuckle your way through it, and hope that you don't have a no mental defense moment.
It sounds like you have made the wise choice, amigo.
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I would make a plan to do something else so you don't feel like you are missing out on something. It was so hard for me to stay away from the 'party." If I sat at home thinking about the fun people were having it was sheer torture for me especially in those first few weeks.
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Cheese, in my experience, i avoided parties and social drinking occassions in early sobriety. Now i am able to go to the pub, or a party, and not drink and be comfortable. But i did not start doing that until i had some solid sobriety under my belt and i felt comfortable. In the future you will be able to do that too, but for the moment the main priorirty about everything else is to keep yourself safe. xx
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