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I just found this site and am hoping it will get me through the raw nights of trying to not drink. I am a chronic relapser who desperately needs to stop for me and my girls. The after work hours are grueling, especially when I am alone as I often am. I hope to get words of support and sympathy fro those of you that struggle with this horrible addiction. Thanks
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Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: New Zealand
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Hi Fiona, welcome to SR.
I don't think my sympathy will do you any good, in fact it might make you worse. But I can empathise. I understand what it is like to be where you are, so full of fear and despair, guilt and shame, tyring your best and failing everytime. And I found a way out before it was too late (only just).
My way was not working not matter how much I wanted it to work. My way was no good. I had to try something else, and I had reached a point where I would try anything.
In short I gave up the fight, I stopped arguing and rationalising and trying to fool myself. I just surrendered and became willing to accept spiritual help.
What it would be like and where it would take me I had no idea. But I desperately wanted a way out.
If you are an alcoholic of my type, you may be suffering from an illness which only a spiritual experience will conquer. I found my solution in AA, having tried every other way I could find. I needed honesty, willingness and an open mind. "I Know" and "yes but", the four favourite words of the serial relapser, I left at the door.
I don't think my sympathy will do you any good, in fact it might make you worse. But I can empathise. I understand what it is like to be where you are, so full of fear and despair, guilt and shame, tyring your best and failing everytime. And I found a way out before it was too late (only just).
My way was not working not matter how much I wanted it to work. My way was no good. I had to try something else, and I had reached a point where I would try anything.
In short I gave up the fight, I stopped arguing and rationalising and trying to fool myself. I just surrendered and became willing to accept spiritual help.
What it would be like and where it would take me I had no idea. But I desperately wanted a way out.
If you are an alcoholic of my type, you may be suffering from an illness which only a spiritual experience will conquer. I found my solution in AA, having tried every other way I could find. I needed honesty, willingness and an open mind. "I Know" and "yes but", the four favourite words of the serial relapser, I left at the door.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
Welcome....
You mentioned after work hours...
I found sobreity when I lived in D.C. I know there are
many AA meetings to choose from
and they do meet at different hours
Me? I connected to "Attitude & Action" in Georgetown
that met before I had to be at work
It's on the Friendship Heights bus line
Have you been to AA or any other support group?
It certainly gave me a new outlook and a way to stay sober.
Please do keep posting here with us...someone is around 24/7
and many of us are winning over alcohol
Not everyone is doing AA there are others successfully sober who
use other methods ideas and concepts...
.
Blessings to you and your daughters...
.
You mentioned after work hours...
I found sobreity when I lived in D.C. I know there are
many AA meetings to choose from
and they do meet at different hours
Me? I connected to "Attitude & Action" in Georgetown
that met before I had to be at work
It's on the Friendship Heights bus line
Have you been to AA or any other support group?
It certainly gave me a new outlook and a way to stay sober.
Please do keep posting here with us...someone is around 24/7
and many of us are winning over alcohol
Not everyone is doing AA there are others successfully sober who
use other methods ideas and concepts...
.Blessings to you and your daughters...
.
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Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: northern michigan. not the U.P.
Posts: 15,281
welcome to a place none of planned on ending up at. like gottalife(mike) i wont give sympathy. that helped me stay drunk. but i can relate. you say you need to stop drinking. welp, if eveyone who needed to stop drinking did, then there wouldnt be a place like this.
do you want to stop drinking? are you willing to do whatever ya gotta do to stay stopped? willing to change you? willing to look at you and see what makes you tick??? it aint that bad, so dont let that scare ya away.
do you want to stop drinking? are you willing to do whatever ya gotta do to stay stopped? willing to change you? willing to look at you and see what makes you tick??? it aint that bad, so dont let that scare ya away.
Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Oxnard (The Nard), CA, USA.
Posts: 13,949
Hi Fiona, welcome to SR
There are many options to choose from when recovering from problem alcohol use. One is to continue participation here at SR. Post, reply, offer encouragement for other members here and keep getting support for your self. Another popular recovery method is AA with its mystical spiritual 12-step program. I use a secular or a non-religious program for recovery. Sites that have more information about that are: Women for Sobriety, SOS, LifeRing,
SMART, CBT, DBT and AVRT
Knowing there are many ways to go for successful recovery is a good first step. Finding one that will fit your needs may increase your willingness to follow through with a recovery plan. I wish someone told me this when I first entered recovery. It would have saved me a whole lot of needless trial and painful error with recovery programs.
There are many options to choose from when recovering from problem alcohol use. One is to continue participation here at SR. Post, reply, offer encouragement for other members here and keep getting support for your self. Another popular recovery method is AA with its mystical spiritual 12-step program. I use a secular or a non-religious program for recovery. Sites that have more information about that are: Women for Sobriety, SOS, LifeRing,
SMART, CBT, DBT and AVRT
Knowing there are many ways to go for successful recovery is a good first step. Finding one that will fit your needs may increase your willingness to follow through with a recovery plan. I wish someone told me this when I first entered recovery. It would have saved me a whole lot of needless trial and painful error with recovery programs.
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Originally Posted by Fiona12 
I just found this site and am hoping it will get me through the raw nights of trying to not drink. I am a chronic relapser who desperately needs to stop for me and my girls. The after work hours are grueling, especially when I am alone as I often am. I hope to get words of support and sympathy fro those of you that struggle with this horrible addiction. Thanks
The forum has been a great help to me. Welcome!
The AA program has helped me.
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Fiona! Glad you found us. You'll find wonderful people and support here. Member
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Canada. About as far south as you can get
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Originally Posted by Fiona12
I hope to get words of support and sympathy fro those of you that struggle with this horrible addiction. Thanks
Google and read AA's "How It Works" and "The Doctor's Opinion".
I wish you the best.
Bob R
A girl can dream...
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Recovery Road
Posts: 388
Hey Fiona! Welcome to SR! I recently joined and with all the supportive words and encouragement have gone 7 days without a drink. That being said there are lots of options to help you with your addiction. You'll find one that's 'fits' and just remember there is a great circle of friends on this site. Keep coming back!
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