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Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Central Ohio
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Sometimes the posts make me jealous. But most of the time they just make me feel sad for the ones posting. And the same ones post all the time about drunken escipades, really makes me sad for them. Makes me sad for them. I will remember my beautiful weekend. I won't risk leaving "bike nite" with a buzz on a bike. When I see the posts it just reminds me of a place I never want to go back to.
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Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Oregon
Posts: 1,348
I can totally relate. I ended up getting off facebook altogether b/c my mom's posts were triggering me so bad. Then I realized just how much of a false-ego builder it is, and how it's inherently comparison-based, and now I know I'm not missing anything...except more triggers.
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Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Miami, FL
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I think a lot of it is the people you know and where they are in life. It is pretty rare for me to see pictures of people drinking on facebook. That is because my friends are all having babies, buying dogs and doing other things.
If you see so many pictures of your friends drinking, maybe you need to look for new friends? I do not mean this as snark, but as a concerned thought. People who commemorate drinking with photos and feel comfortable posting pictures like that online, are not necessarily the best people to be around in recovery.
If you see so many pictures of your friends drinking, maybe you need to look for new friends? I do not mean this as snark, but as a concerned thought. People who commemorate drinking with photos and feel comfortable posting pictures like that online, are not necessarily the best people to be around in recovery.
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Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: northern michigan. not the U.P.
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Originally Posted by OklaBH 
For me its not so much the drinking as knowing my family and close friends purposely leave me out of so many things /events.I've done it to myself so its time to move on and enjoy my new sober life.
they prolly didnt invite ya because they know you got into recovery and respect your decision.
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Join Date: Nov 2011
Location: Vashon WA
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Facebook creeps me out. It makes me feel like I do in a Vegas casino (which also creeps me out). Built in the middle of an inhospitable desert, no windows to the real world, no clocks, and constant anonymous surveillance. That said, I let my friends tell me about the "important" stuff they discover on the FB.
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Join Date: Jun 2012
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Originally Posted by OklaBH
I dont know if Im just extra touchy this week or what. But, while in recovery (which is a long long road) does anyone get annoyed and kinda sad when they check facebook? I want to delete mine all together but I enjoy looking at my kids pages. Like everything else with this journey I cant cut corners.
I read the big book, goto meetings, read on SR, work on my inventory (which I REALLY need to get back to) Then I look at Facebook and read ground breaking news like "the pools warm and drinks are cold" ..."george clooney is in OKC for the thunder game"...
Im just a moody you know what this week geez.
I read the big book, goto meetings, read on SR, work on my inventory (which I REALLY need to get back to) Then I look at Facebook and read ground breaking news like "the pools warm and drinks are cold" ..."george clooney is in OKC for the thunder game"...
Im just a moody you know what this week geez.
If it's not Facebook, it's Twitter, if not Twitter, Google+. It surrounds us and in the Social Media age you can't get away from it, unless you totally turn off your internet connection. I'm a geek, I'd go into a bigger withdrawal, than I did coming down from drugs and booze.
I can tell you that it gets easier. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. That's the key. Acceptance. Of self. Of life.
Keep on keeping on, you're doing great
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Wilmington, DE
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Originally Posted by FredG
Being moody is allowed, or at least I certainly hope so or I'm in trouble.
If it's not Facebook, it's Twitter, if not Twitter, Google+. It surrounds us and in the Social Media age you can't get away from it, unless you totally turn off your internet connection. I'm a geek, I'd go into a bigger withdrawal, than I did coming down from drugs and booze.
I can tell you that it gets easier. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. That's the key. Acceptance. Of self. Of life.
Keep on keeping on, you're doing great
If it's not Facebook, it's Twitter, if not Twitter, Google+. It surrounds us and in the Social Media age you can't get away from it, unless you totally turn off your internet connection. I'm a geek, I'd go into a bigger withdrawal, than I did coming down from drugs and booze.
I can tell you that it gets easier. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. That's the key. Acceptance. Of self. Of life.
Keep on keeping on, you're doing great
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Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: East Bay, CA
Posts: 21
Originally Posted by OklaBH
For me its not so much the drinking as knowing my family and close friends purposely leave me out of so many things /events.I've done it to myself so its time to move on and enjoy my new sober life.
My advice that I can put so simply is this: Don't acquire OTHER PEOPLE's problems (or feelings) as your own. Everyone is their own person, and they are not obligated to do anything for anyone except themselves.
You are in recovery, yourself should be #1 priority, so that you can be helpful for everyone else. I deactivated my FB during my early recovery for more reasons than drink (breakup & depression). Spent all that time focusing on my recovery... and I only reopened it when I was absolutely sure 100% that I was ready. And I eventually got rid of acquaintences that I know, only from partying, and self-serving friends. Only kept the people that genuinely cared. And I admit, I still get frustrated today over people who post photos of their drinks every time they drink, but it all goes back to working on myself.
Good luck!
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Join Date: May 2012
Location: London, England
Posts: 724
I know what you mean, finding out that your friends have got parties and so on to which everyone is invited but you is a major pita. Makes you feel unwanted, and this was before I quit.
Still, now I *have* quit. And, to be honest, I can't see myself going to parties for a long time. At least not till I have some more sober friends.
Still, now I *have* quit. And, to be honest, I can't see myself going to parties for a long time. At least not till I have some more sober friends.
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Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Rhode Island
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Originally Posted by FredG
Being moody is allowed, or at least I certainly hope so or I'm in trouble.
If it's not Facebook, it's Twitter, if not Twitter, Google+. It surrounds us and in the Social Media age you can't get away from it, unless you totally turn off your internet connection. I'm a geek, I'd go into a bigger withdrawal, than I did coming down from drugs and booze.
I can tell you that it gets easier. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. That's the key. Acceptance. Of self. Of life.
Keep on keeping on, you're doing great
If it's not Facebook, it's Twitter, if not Twitter, Google+. It surrounds us and in the Social Media age you can't get away from it, unless you totally turn off your internet connection. I'm a geek, I'd go into a bigger withdrawal, than I did coming down from drugs and booze.
I can tell you that it gets easier. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. That's the key. Acceptance. Of self. Of life.
Keep on keeping on, you're doing great
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Join Date: Jun 2012
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Originally Posted by FlyerFan
My friend calls me a Nork (geek plus nerd plus dork, LOL) and I cant stay away from the internet for more than a few days. It is annoying sometimes to read about everyone else's good fun, but I know in the end that I can't drink no matter what so I should try to have my own sober fun.
Keep in mind though, that what you're reading is someone elses interpretation of a good time. Personally I make my own. ... and I remember them now
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Wilmington, DE
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Originally Posted by FredG
That's a good term.
Keep in mind though, that what you're reading is someone elses interpretation of a good time. Personally I make my own. ... and I remember them now
Keep in mind though, that what you're reading is someone elses interpretation of a good time. Personally I make my own. ... and I remember them now
Anyway he asks for my friends registration and my friend is pulling meeting list after meeting list out of his glove compartment, plus pamphlets, etc. Finally after about 10 of them were piled up the cop says "nevermind, you folks have a nice night"
We laughed so hard we almost peed. :P
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Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Ohio
Posts: 352
I deleted my FB account, not because of my alcohol/addiction issues. When using, DRAMA was what I created and lived for. I want a peaceful life now. To me FB was nothing but DRAMA. All my friends were family and AAers. The DRAMA was my family. It is hard to be the only child out of 5 that is working a program. Thank God my mom is the Alanon Queen.
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Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: MD
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Call me odd, but I never stopped going on facebook, I never deleted nor stopped my account. I dunno. Other people and what they do hadn't bothered me. I am rather happy for them. They aren't me. They may not be alcoholic. My high school friends drink hard and drink often. Good for them. I like feeling the joy they have in their gatherings and I love to see their pictures.
One day I might join them at a gathering just to have (my sober) fun. I've chosen not to be with them yet. I walk by stores and I've eaten in bars. I choose not to drink today.
I worked the AA steps early and quickly and I haven't been bothered by what others do or don't do. I watched neighbors light up blunts most of last summer (I missed that more than the alcohol) and they've finally moved. I've seen neighbors drinking on their balconies. That's what they do.
Alcohol and drugs have been around a really long time and I don't see them going away tomorrow. Something happened after I was guided through the steps. I guess I've been in a place of neutrality.
I am so grateful for this. Let others have their "fun" and I'll have mine. I am looking forward to our ice cream social that's coming soon....
One day I might join them at a gathering just to have (my sober) fun. I've chosen not to be with them yet. I walk by stores and I've eaten in bars. I choose not to drink today.
I worked the AA steps early and quickly and I haven't been bothered by what others do or don't do. I watched neighbors light up blunts most of last summer (I missed that more than the alcohol) and they've finally moved. I've seen neighbors drinking on their balconies. That's what they do.
Alcohol and drugs have been around a really long time and I don't see them going away tomorrow. Something happened after I was guided through the steps. I guess I've been in a place of neutrality.
I am so grateful for this. Let others have their "fun" and I'll have mine. I am looking forward to our ice cream social that's coming soon....
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Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: The Sooner State
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I guees Im weak. Im going to have to either delete several people off of mine or abandon the account all together.
In a nut shell I was told to not go by my dads house for Fathers Day because he would be in and out, super busy...etc... Thanks to the wonders of Facebook that isnt the case. He will be celebrating with my younger sibling and a few others...basically Im not invited nor wanted. This isnt my perception or what I think. It is what it is.
Call it being selfish, having a pity-party whatever...it sucks.
In a nut shell I was told to not go by my dads house for Fathers Day because he would be in and out, super busy...etc... Thanks to the wonders of Facebook that isnt the case. He will be celebrating with my younger sibling and a few others...basically Im not invited nor wanted. This isnt my perception or what I think. It is what it is.
Call it being selfish, having a pity-party whatever...it sucks.
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Originally Posted by sugarbear1
Call me odd, but I never stopped going on facebook, I never deleted nor stopped my account. I dunno. Other people and what they do hadn't bothered me. I am rather happy for them. They aren't me. They may not be alcoholic. My high school friends drink hard and drink often. Good for them. I like feeling the joy they have in their gatherings and I love to see their pictures.
One day I might join them at a gathering just to have (my sober) fun. I've chosen not to be with them yet. I walk by stores and I've eaten in bars. I choose not to drink today.
I worked the AA steps early and quickly and I haven't been bothered by what others do or don't do. I watched neighbors light up blunts most of last summer (I missed that more than the alcohol) and they've finally moved. I've seen neighbors drinking on their balconies. That's what they do.
Alcohol and drugs have been around a really long time and I don't see them going away tomorrow. Something happened after I was guided through the steps. I guess I've been in a place of neutrality.
I am so grateful for this. Let others have their "fun" and I'll have mine. I am looking forward to our ice cream social that's coming soon....
One day I might join them at a gathering just to have (my sober) fun. I've chosen not to be with them yet. I walk by stores and I've eaten in bars. I choose not to drink today.
I worked the AA steps early and quickly and I haven't been bothered by what others do or don't do. I watched neighbors light up blunts most of last summer (I missed that more than the alcohol) and they've finally moved. I've seen neighbors drinking on their balconies. That's what they do.
Alcohol and drugs have been around a really long time and I don't see them going away tomorrow. Something happened after I was guided through the steps. I guess I've been in a place of neutrality.
I am so grateful for this. Let others have their "fun" and I'll have mine. I am looking forward to our ice cream social that's coming soon....
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Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Ohio
Posts: 352
Originally Posted by sugarbear1
Call me odd, but I never stopped going on facebook, I never deleted nor stopped my account. I dunno. Other people and what they do hadn't bothered me. I am rather happy for them. They aren't me. They may not be alcoholic. My high school friends drink hard and drink often. Good for them. I like feeling the joy they have in their gatherings and I love to see their pictures.
One day I might join them at a gathering just to have (my sober) fun. I've chosen not to be with them yet. I walk by stores and I've eaten in bars. I choose not to drink today.
I worked the AA steps early and quickly and I haven't been bothered by what others do or don't do. I watched neighbors light up blunts most of last summer (I missed that more than the alcohol) and they've finally moved. I've seen neighbors drinking on their balconies. That's what they do.
Alcohol and drugs have been around a really long time and I don't see them going away tomorrow. Something happened after I was guided through the steps. I guess I've been in a place of neutrality.
I am so grateful for this. Let others have their "fun" and I'll have mine. I am looking forward to our ice cream social that's coming soon....
One day I might join them at a gathering just to have (my sober) fun. I've chosen not to be with them yet. I walk by stores and I've eaten in bars. I choose not to drink today.
I worked the AA steps early and quickly and I haven't been bothered by what others do or don't do. I watched neighbors light up blunts most of last summer (I missed that more than the alcohol) and they've finally moved. I've seen neighbors drinking on their balconies. That's what they do.
Alcohol and drugs have been around a really long time and I don't see them going away tomorrow. Something happened after I was guided through the steps. I guess I've been in a place of neutrality.
I am so grateful for this. Let others have their "fun" and I'll have mine. I am looking forward to our ice cream social that's coming soon....
My Drama is my family that still uses. I can't stand to see what they are doing to themselves. The hardest is my brother that was in the program for 7 years and sober. He went back to drinking. On FB I am slowly watching him kill himself.
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