bloss

I found this website about a week and a half ago. Just after my last evening of drinking, alone, at home, a lot. I've always been reclusive, tried many groups, did what I was told, kept relapsing. Anyway, I usually get some months in, then start again for a period of months, drink heavily for an evening, then stop for a week, two etc. I am tired of that so thought I'd blog here daily, and read. Just wish I'd never had to drink so long, lucky to still be relatively ok. Anyone else anywhere over 50 in my situation, I feel like most people get it together younger...feel like a real failure..

Dee74

I'm nearly 45...I 'got it together' at 39.

There's a lot of over 40s/50s here Bloss...you're not alone

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Sally1009

I'm 55, and some of my story is the same as yours. I'm reclusive, then the isolation becomes unbearable, and I return to AA, stay in it for a while, then something happens, I leave and relapse..
This time, partly because I'v had a lot of heath problems preventing me from getting out, I havent had a drink in nearly 5 werks. And I'm going into rehab in six weeks.
But my heart goes out to you. Don't feel like a failure, my dear. It's a horrible bear of an illness. But there is always hope, and I have countless alcoholics beat it, who are far older than you!
Well done for posting here-its a great community.

aussieblue

Hi Bloss welcome to SR. I am 52 this month and still trying to get my act together . I will keep trying though I am not giving up.

tomsteve

glad yer here, bloss. yer not a failure. yer a sick man. i am 44 now. sobered up at 36. a very good friend of mine ended up in a detox at 68. that was 10 years ago. i know many many alcoholics that sobered up in their 50's and up.

recoverywfaith

I won't give my age...but will say I'm in the crowd and sober.

It is never to late to sober up, ever. Glad you are seeking sobriety for yourself.

LDT

In the crowd as well...... "late bloomer "......sober......not a failure and neither are you, Bloss.

doggonecarl

I spent the last few years drinking at home. I was 54 when my decision to finally quit succeeded (God knows the other 100 times weren't final). Been sober 20 months. Better late than never.

Welcome.

winslynn

The best years of your life are ahead of you with sobriety and the Fellowship of AA.

zanzibar

Well thanks a lot Bloss I never felt old before but I do now. Never feel embarrassed. It doesn't matter if your 110 the point is your'e doing it. I always thought I had a lot of time ahead of me, but now I'm thinking I should buy a wicker rocking chair this weekend.

Mark75

Hey!! Who said over 50 is old!!!

Hevyn

Not me Mark.

I was in my 50's when I finally saw what I needed to do. Slow learner.

stairs

What?! 50 is old?!

CarolD

WWelcome...
I stopped drinking 23 years ago....and I am 76.
No...I was not your type of drinker....I know many bartenders in D.C.
that probably wished I had been a stay at home drunk...

When I read a book..."Under The Influence" by Milam & Ketcham ..it explained to me why I often returned to drinking
tho I desperately wanted to quit.

Here is a link to excerpts ..not everything applied to me but a lot did....Amazon usually has the book. I hope you will find
it as useful as I have.

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...influence.html

I took that info...re-connected to God and AA....finally stopped.
The Steps gave me solid recovery rather than shakey sobriety..

There are many ways to find your way into recovery...AA is
not the only one. Many members here are winning over alcohol
useing a variety of methods

Please keep posting....Yes! you too can find a solution.

Retread59

53 here and 6 months sober.

whatevername

I read an article about Stevie Nicks getting sober at fifty something and her exact quote was " I completely missed my fourties"
I can sorta relate, I missed most of my twenties and 30's, I am in my 40's now with just over a month sober so I dont "miss" these.
I saw a great video of a paratrooper at 47 trying to rehabilitate himself from a back injury and excessive weight gain. I hope its okay to post this here but I think it has alot to say about "never giving up" "Ex-paratrooper's amazing transformation and recovery" - Videos - Viddler

instant

I'm not young but I'm not old either. I have always been slow to do anything!

heath480

Hi boss,I was in my 50s and a Grandmother when I got sober .

2granddaughters

Sobered up in 1989 at age 45. It's never too late !!

All the best.

Bob R

Jfanagle

Got sober at 46 and I turn 60 this year. I wouldn't have gotten much older than 46 so it seemed like a good idea, and it turned out to be the best one I had last century.

Life has so much to offer if we just put the top on the bottle and make the most of how ever much time is ahead of us. Just because you may have wasted some of the past that is no reason to do the same with the future.

Best wishes,

Jon