DeadAZ

Theres normally a bottle of wine (opened or not) in the house and it doesn't bother me.Wine has never been my flavor.I have gone 2-3 weeks sober in the past with beer from "the last party" in the fridge.A buddy drank it.I drank eventually after that.

So far since my last bender 2 weeks ago,Ive made sure no beer or whiskey is in the house.My fiance completly respects my wishes of going sober.She's always been a social drinker and never has a problem not drinking.Definatly my rock,support.So,I prefer not to have any in the house.I just don't want the temptation.I need a solid period of time before that can happen.And im not open to going to bars,or anywhere that drinking is the main reason of going.My little brother just turned 21 and he's really bummed that I finally quit drinking right around his birthday.Ill take him out,and show him casinos and whatnot when Im a little more seasoned and comfertable with being around it again...

SimplySo

That is interesting. I have heard from people that it takes a couple years without alcohol before an alcoholic stops thinking about booze. I read an article that said people on antabuse who stay on it for two years greatly increase their chances of staying sober for life. So, I went on antabuse and committed to two years on it.

Needless to say, it is irrelevant to me whether there is alcohol in the house (or anywhere else) since I can NOT drink it no matter what. That is one huge advantage to the med, I don't think about whether or not I am going to drink.

Dee74

welcome to SR SimplySo

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kanamit

My only concern is if you avoided being around alcohol long term you could set yourself up for a fall. I.e. if you ended up being around it through no fault of your own, that little voice inside your head may convince you to have "just one".

I can't speak for other countries but I know in England alcohol is so ubiquitous. There really is no avoiding it. Go to any wedding and so-called "normal" drinkers all get paralytic.

I quit after reading the Allen Carr and Rational Recovery books and interestingly both don't discourage you to avoid being around alcohol. In fact, the Allen Carr book actively encourages it; with Rational Recovery it is irrelevant whether you're at a wine-tasting session in a vineyard or at a monastery as you are simply an individual who does not drink.

stillsleeping

When I'm white-knuckling I can't even have mouthwash around. I'll knock back a dozen cups of tea just for the caffeine buzz.

betterlate

I like it to be stored out of sight, but my wife still drinks, even when we're together. Her drinking has nothing to do with my drinking.

hereigo

You said it.

You live it.

So do I. There is alcohol in the house, but I do not drink it. In fact, I would rather it be there, so I do not have to ponder going out to get some. It is all in the mind.

No need to drink, if you F*****ing decide to not drink.

Thank you for your post!

Peas and loaf


You said it...you just do not drink alcohol.

hereigo

There are no rules. There is always a bottle or a can of booze available. You can choose to use or to not use. I always recommend focusing on on the possibilites of future life achievement. Make life happen.

Dee74

Not if you've accepted the reality of your condition, IMO

I haven't had alcohol 'around' for 5 years but waiting for a taxi outside the local hotel doesn't cause me to salivate...any more, lol.

The only time I ever actually think of the incongruity is when I'm here

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keepfinding2

I'd recommend not having alcohol in the house. Mouthwash or vanilla extract would be fine.

katrinka

We have beer in the house and it doesn't tempt me. But wine? We had two gift bottles and I made my husband hide them. I know they're somewhere but it doesn't bother me, only if I can see them. I hope sometime in the future it won't matter.

camedown

My roommate is still active in his disease, though he wants to quit but keeps relapsing. I had no problem when he was open about it and the beer just sat in the fridge, but now that the shame is building in him, he hides it. I think watching him hide it and failing miserably(drunk people are so transparent), irks me more than seeing it in the open. I tell him not to hide any behaviors because of the shame in it, but talking to an active alcoholic about his actions surrounding his disease is a pointless venture. I work in a restaurant too, so booze is a constant presence in my life, but I'm at a point where all I see is poison that will kill me.

Sunny27

Hi

I have two bottles of Miller in my place that have been here about a month. I had a dinner party early on in my sobriety and friends bought around their own alcohol.

Actually, looking back I felt fine but somewhat uncomfortable being around drink in my home then. Am happy to say that another month on I forget it is in the fridge (I said I'd keep it there till my friend that drinks it pops around again).

I don't mind it being there at all and am not remotely tempted - and that for me is a great feeling. Actually, i should check the use-by date. It may have gone off (that'd be a first in my place!!!!)

Sunny xx

dave47

There are a few bottles of spirits knocking around in my house, but I only ever drank spirits when I was already hammered, so they don't and have never bothered me.
As I was a heavy beer drinker, we have always kept that to a minimum and only at unavoidable times.
If I see alcohol in the home it barely registers, and certainly doesn't tempt me. At the same time, if I lived alone I wouldn't have anything around.

bmwcycle

Doesn't bother me a bit to have in the house.

bryangt

I think it depends on the strength of your sobriety. Why test yourself? If under a year sober, why risk it?

Viginti

Yeah, have a lot of booze, lots of it unopened. I can't pour money down the drain, just can't.

I may gift them out to friends during the holidays and such but I have no desire to open them and drink.

heath480

I did not have Alcohol in the house for about the first two years of being sober,although I never drank I did think about Alcohol.I took advice from people who had been sober for many years and their advice was to not have it in the house.Nowadays I have an adult son living with me and he drinks from time to time,he always keeps his booze in the garage.Today my obsession with Alcohol has gone so it dosent bother me.

I certainly would not have Alcohol in my house just to prove to myself I would not drink it.That is madness.

mirage

Yeah, my dh drinks sometimes so we had liquor downstairs in the bar, beer in the garage fridge and a few bottles of wine in a wine rack. I enjoyed all of these as a drinker, btw. Guess I just didn't want to ask him if I could get rid of it all. Figured if I really wanted to drink, the 7-11 is down the road anyway. It worked out fine, I had made up my mind that I just couldn't drink anymore, so it didn't bother me.

Having said that, we recently got rid of the liquor in the bar cuz our kids are soon getting to the age where they might think it's cute to experiment by sneaking some sips (like I did at 14), and I didn't want it around. I like that feeling of not having any.

lasober

My husband hid the alcohol when I was first became sober, but of course I knew it was hidden, but he still would "sneak" out to the garage to fix his rum/coke in the evening. But now he still keeps it out in the garage and it is kind of a joke between us - if we have company he brings it out of hiding, but once they leave it is back in the garage. I think we just both got used to it not being in plain site and we like it this way.