I don't want to quit
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I don't want to quit
I have an ongoing nerve disorder. There is no cure.
It results in pain, vomiting and diarrhea.
I use alcohol as an escape up to two times a week. I think its better than other drugs i could do and get addicted to.
However, i cant pass my weeks without it now. I will try the occasional week 'sober' for my gf, but overall i just want to drink to take the pain away.
I'd really like advice on alternatives.
It results in pain, vomiting and diarrhea.
I use alcohol as an escape up to two times a week. I think its better than other drugs i could do and get addicted to.
However, i cant pass my weeks without it now. I will try the occasional week 'sober' for my gf, but overall i just want to drink to take the pain away.
I'd really like advice on alternatives.
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bluemuppet,
Why would you want to quit? Just because your gf asked you to do so? Why would she ask such a thing?
EDIT: The reason I ask is that if alcohol is causing problems, then you need to take inventory of those problems so that you can weigh them against the supposed benefits and make an informed decision.
Why would you want to quit? Just because your gf asked you to do so? Why would she ask such a thing?
EDIT: The reason I ask is that if alcohol is causing problems, then you need to take inventory of those problems so that you can weigh them against the supposed benefits and make an informed decision.
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I have an ongoing nerve disorder.
There are medications, that are NOT ADDICTIVE that do help quite a bit, with no vomiting and no diarrhea.
Get with your Doctor. Be honest about your 'self medicating' and get help.
Your continuing to 'self medicate' will only make your condition worse over time.
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Originally Posted by vinepest 
bluemuppet,
Why would you want to quit? Just because your gf asked you to do so? Why would she ask such a thing?
EDIT: The reason I ask is that if alcohol is causing problems, then you need to take inventory of those problems so that you can weigh them against the supposed benefits and make an informed decision.
Why would you want to quit? Just because your gf asked you to do so? Why would she ask such a thing?
EDIT: The reason I ask is that if alcohol is causing problems, then you need to take inventory of those problems so that you can weigh them against the supposed benefits and make an informed decision.
The fact that it is raised now makes em wonder about what i could become or what i might be?
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Well, It is possible that alcohol in NOT the problem, there might be other issues in the relationship and your partner is using alcohol as a focus. No one from the outside can answer that. Couples counseling might help sort out what the issues are.
Being a partner with someone who has a chronic condition comes with challenges that bring on extra tension and couples therapy can help with that, or even individual therapy.
It seems that for your partner alcohols IS an issue, and that can be true even if you are not abusing it. Your partners concerns and feelings are valid, even if addiction isnt' an issue, the fact that this is standing between the two of you is.
I had similar issues with my ex. or perhaps more accurately him with me. He refused couples counseling, which I believe would have helped us get at the real underlying fears and resentments, and we ended up splitting., I honestly don't feel that had to happen had we addressed things sooner.
Being a partner with someone who has a chronic condition comes with challenges that bring on extra tension and couples therapy can help with that, or even individual therapy.
It seems that for your partner alcohols IS an issue, and that can be true even if you are not abusing it. Your partners concerns and feelings are valid, even if addiction isnt' an issue, the fact that this is standing between the two of you is.
I had similar issues with my ex. or perhaps more accurately him with me. He refused couples counseling, which I believe would have helped us get at the real underlying fears and resentments, and we ended up splitting., I honestly don't feel that had to happen had we addressed things sooner.
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Originally Posted by seanmichael
you only drink twice a week? i mean thats usually how it starts then it starts moving on to every day and starts to gain momentum as a problem. Does your Dr. know about your drinking?
Well, It is possible that alcohol in NOT the problem, there might be other issues in the relationship and your partner is using alcohol as a focus. No one from the outside can answer that. Couples counseling might help sort out what the issues are.
Being a partner with someone who has a chronic condition comes with challenges that bring on extra tension and couples therapy can help with that, or even individual therapy.
It seems that for your partner alcohols IS an issue, and that can be true even if you are not abusing it. Your partners concerns and feelings are valid, even if addiction isnt' an issue, the fact that this is standing between the two of you is.
I had similar issues with my ex. or perhaps more accurately him with me. He refused couples counseling, which I believe would have helped us get at the real underlying fears and resentments, and we ended up splitting., I honestly don't feel that had to happen had we addressed things sooner.
Being a partner with someone who has a chronic condition comes with challenges that bring on extra tension and couples therapy can help with that, or even individual therapy.
It seems that for your partner alcohols IS an issue, and that can be true even if you are not abusing it. Your partners concerns and feelings are valid, even if addiction isnt' an issue, the fact that this is standing between the two of you is.
I had similar issues with my ex. or perhaps more accurately him with me. He refused couples counseling, which I believe would have helped us get at the real underlying fears and resentments, and we ended up splitting., I honestly don't feel that had to happen had we addressed things sooner.
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She doesn't have to drink in order for alcohol to be an issue for her. The fact that YOU drink alcohol appears to be a problem for her. Your drinking is affecting her life in a problematic way, therefore, alcohol is an issue for her.
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Originally Posted by suki44883
She doesn't have to drink in order for alcohol to be an issue for her. The fact that YOU drink alcohol appears to be a problem for her. Your drinking is affecting her life in a problematic way, therefore, alcohol is an issue for her.
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So do I. I suffer from some sort of neurological disorder that manifests as diahrea, rage, paranoya, and depression/mania and the only cure seems to be stupid alcohol. The pills that the doctor gave me don't work worth a mouse's turd. But alcohol creates even more problems and can make what was a bad situation worse. I surmise that one solution would be to just live with it and not drink.
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Originally Posted by bluemuppet
I 100% agree with this. Alcohol helps me escape the constant pain, but she feels it takes away 'who i am'. at the moment. My excuse is 'this is who i am' but i don't want to say that anymore.
o you "think" but do you know for certain? Have you tried other medications? I know of two meds that are supposed to be quite effective with nerve disorder pain and are non addictive.
I am sorry to hear about your ongoing nerve disorder, sounds pretty awful but there must be something else out there to help you. I can't imagine alcohol being any good for anyone with an already
existing nerve disorder as it is directly toxic to the nervous system. Have you considered alternative medicine? I hope you find something better to help you
I am sorry to hear about your ongoing nerve disorder, sounds pretty awful but there must be something else out there to help you. I can't imagine alcohol being any good for anyone with an already
existing nerve disorder as it is directly toxic to the nervous system. Have you considered alternative medicine? I hope you find something better to help you
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Hi BlueMuppet
Welcome
Sorry for your pain issues
I drank for years to deal with my chronic pain issues, also at least partly nerve related.
Eventually the alcohol stopped working as pain relief and I was left with a lot of other problems resulting from my alcohol use.
In the last five years sober I've found other ways to manage my pain - it took a lot of searching, a lot of trial and error, and a lot of doctors, but it was worth it.
I have my life back.
Please do keep searching for other ways to solve your problem - and do ask yr Dr about the efficacy of anti-d's when taken with a depressant like alcohol.
D
Welcome
Sorry for your pain issues
I drank for years to deal with my chronic pain issues, also at least partly nerve related.
Eventually the alcohol stopped working as pain relief and I was left with a lot of other problems resulting from my alcohol use.
In the last five years sober I've found other ways to manage my pain - it took a lot of searching, a lot of trial and error, and a lot of doctors, but it was worth it.
I have my life back.
Please do keep searching for other ways to solve your problem - and do ask yr Dr about the efficacy of anti-d's when taken with a depressant like alcohol.
D
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