Do you have alcohol in the house?
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Join Date: Dec 2011
Posts: 1
hi,
Even i was benefited form AA , but chance are there that you will slip back to your original habit, But there is hope you should try to concentrate more on your work and other activities ( that is what i do
) i will keep on working or concentrate on something else and also attend AA meeting once a month and also try to help other who are addicted . one thing you can do is by setting goal in your life , You should set a short term goal like one week of not taking alcohol and once you are able to quit drinking for one week then extend the days I hope you got the point ,I think this forum will help you with more tips.
Even i was benefited form AA , but chance are there that you will slip back to your original habit, But there is hope you should try to concentrate more on your work and other activities ( that is what i do
) i will keep on working or concentrate on something else and also attend AA meeting once a month and also try to help other who are addicted . one thing you can do is by setting goal in your life , You should set a short term goal like one week of not taking alcohol and once you are able to quit drinking for one week then extend the days I hope you got the point ,I think this forum will help you with more tips.
dude in recovery
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Gulf Coast, TX
Posts: 1,504
I have drank my roommates' alcohol on many a desperate night (they have since moved on), I paid them back as mentioned above, buying more & more & more to replace what I took. Wiped them out of drink completely on a couple of nights.
Anyway, at 3 month sober I don't have any around, don't want it around unless a friend comes over that brings their own and leaves with it.
Anyway, at 3 month sober I don't have any around, don't want it around unless a friend comes over that brings their own and leaves with it.
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Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: London, England
Posts: 50
No, we don't have alcohol in the house. My husband is in recovery too, but it's early days for both of us (4 months sober) and while neither of us are obsessing about alcohol any more, I don't think it's a good idea to surround ourselves with temptation.
We've had friends over for dinner etc since we started recovery, and are happy for them to drink. We'll even buy the booze and pour it for them while they're here - we like to be the genial hosts! But once they've left, we pour the leftovers down the drain.
We've had friends over for dinner etc since we started recovery, and are happy for them to drink. We'll even buy the booze and pour it for them while they're here - we like to be the genial hosts! But once they've left, we pour the leftovers down the drain.
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Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: in the mountains
Posts: 38
We have wine, beer and scotch in the house. My husband is a non-alcoholic.
He's the type who opens a bottle of wine and it lasts for weeks, whereas in my drinking days it would have been gone in an hour.
Him having an ocassional drink doesn't bother me at all. Sometimes, not all the time, the smell bothers me. It's the same way if I'm out to dinner with a group of people and they're drinking wine... sometimes the smell of it is just awful.
He's the type who opens a bottle of wine and it lasts for weeks, whereas in my drinking days it would have been gone in an hour.
Him having an ocassional drink doesn't bother me at all. Sometimes, not all the time, the smell bothers me. It's the same way if I'm out to dinner with a group of people and they're drinking wine... sometimes the smell of it is just awful.
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Join Date: Nov 2011
Posts: 64
We have a house fully stocked for the holidays since we are hosting so many guests that flew in yesterday.
Toughest thing to do is watch everyone drink.
After the holidays I will ask my wife to lock it up somewhere, or give it away.
Toughest thing to do is watch everyone drink.
After the holidays I will ask my wife to lock it up somewhere, or give it away.
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Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Notheast US
Posts: 524
I'm still in the early stages of recovery, so I am not keeping alcohol in the house, as this is where I used to do my drinking.
I once had a 12 pack of beer in the house. I would drink only one beer a day, but I did that every day until the beer was gone. It showed me that as long as their is alcohol in the house, I will drink it.
My son is home for the holidays from college and if he asks for beer in the house, I plan to tell him no.
I once had a 12 pack of beer in the house. I would drink only one beer a day, but I did that every day until the beer was gone. It showed me that as long as their is alcohol in the house, I will drink it.
My son is home for the holidays from college and if he asks for beer in the house, I plan to tell him no.
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Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Olympia, WA
Posts: 3
My roommate has a full liquor stock. He and I used to always do shots when we got home from work. Now on different schedules I don't have to worry about him asking if I want a shot, which I also told him before my schedule changed to not ask me, but now I am home alone during the day. It's tough not just grabbing a bottle, so I try to stay busy! I am considering a change of residence very soon to remove the temptation. My palms sweat when I pass the cabinet & willpower only lasts for so long before I do grab that bottle!!
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Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Been to Hell and Back
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We have alcohol in the house, but nobody drinks it here. It's for people when they come over. It doesn't bother me if people drink when they come over, just because I can't drink, doesn't mean the whole world has to live by my rules. I imagine though that my partner will eventually go back to drinking at some point, as he doesn't think he has a problem, but that will be his problem not mine.
At the end of the month we will be resurrecting our annual Holiday Party complete with a bartender. I don't see this as a problem, I stopped drinking, but the world must go on.
At the end of the month we will be resurrecting our annual Holiday Party complete with a bartender. I don't see this as a problem, I stopped drinking, but the world must go on.
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Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Oregon
Posts: 1,348
Interesting thread! We have alcohol in the house and I was very worried about this at first. I talked with my dad about it, who's got 26 years sober, and he said to make sure my program is STRONG, and then not to worry about it. That it's excellent "training" for being out in the real world where you can't control what others do around you, only your reaction.
All that said, I wouldn't go so far as to recommend it to anyone, it's hard at times. Especially because it's my drink of choice, wine. But for me, this is not about willpower, so avoidance won't help me. It's about loving myself enough to live my life, and knowing myself enough to know that alcohol is simply not part of my life anymore. Have I looked at those bottles as I walk in and out of the kitchen, (hangs head in shame) yes, I have. But I have tools now that I didn't have before, I have people, and meetings, and SR, and options other than wine. And that leaves me feeling really good.
Now all of that said, I'd like nothing more than for my husband to magically come home one day and toss it all out and say he's done drinking too! I'm coming to believe he's at least a heavy binge drinker if not an alcoholic binge drinker. And sometimes it smells so bad I'd like to bop him!!
All that said, I wouldn't go so far as to recommend it to anyone, it's hard at times. Especially because it's my drink of choice, wine. But for me, this is not about willpower, so avoidance won't help me. It's about loving myself enough to live my life, and knowing myself enough to know that alcohol is simply not part of my life anymore. Have I looked at those bottles as I walk in and out of the kitchen, (hangs head in shame) yes, I have. But I have tools now that I didn't have before, I have people, and meetings, and SR, and options other than wine. And that leaves me feeling really good.
Now all of that said, I'd like nothing more than for my husband to magically come home one day and toss it all out and say he's done drinking too! I'm coming to believe he's at least a heavy binge drinker if not an alcoholic binge drinker. And sometimes it smells so bad I'd like to bop him!!
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Join Date: May 2010
Location: British Columbia, Canada
Posts: 1,149
I don't have any alcohol in my house.
I don't want anyone drinking in my house either.
My space is mine and I simply do not want any alcohol around.
Others can drink as much as they want to.. it just won't be in my home.
If people aren't comfortable with that, they don't have to come here and that's fine with me.
Even after almost 5 months sober I am scared of relapse.
I don't want anyone drinking in my house either.
My space is mine and I simply do not want any alcohol around.
Others can drink as much as they want to.. it just won't be in my home.
If people aren't comfortable with that, they don't have to come here and that's fine with me.
Even after almost 5 months sober I am scared of relapse.
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