gnicks189

My clean date is 8-1-11. Since I've never had honestly more sober time then 1 month through 3 rehabs and almost dieing its pretty sweet. I've finally reconized my defaults and problems. I haven't had to many bad days or really had that urge to just go grab a bottle and slam it. I'm a very young and HAPPY person and being sober I'm looking foward to living life and not dwelll on my past. But I wonder if its gotten harder for people? I don't see it truly happpening to me! I'm sure I'm gonna have ( like everyone does) my ups and downs but that's life. I'm not looking in the near future but I'm always wondering if I will be able to HANDLE just having drinks or if I'm doomed? Anywho I'm happy with my 4 months today. MANY more to come!

ForeverDecember

Congrats on your sober time

Wondering about whether you can handle "just one" would send me crazy. I figure better to just know that I can't and leave it at that lol

gnicks189

Lol howd I know that do that? But its always a pondering thought!

Dee74

I'm glad you're finding it easy so far gnicks - congrats (and welcome)

But don't be like me - I've been coasting along before and taken my eye off the ball.

Things were good - and they were good because I wasn't drinking - but I was still wondering if I'd be able to 'handle' just having drinks again one day too..

Inevitably the thoughts kept coming. I got arrogant and I tried 'handling' drinking again.

I couldn't.

I had 20 years experience I *could* have drawn on to know exactly how drinking always turns out for me.

What I learnt on my last time out is that outcome never changes - not if you're a drinker like me.

D

neferkamichael

Congratulations on the 4 months. I'm 1 year, 4 months, and 29 days sober, 79 days off crack and I'll never be going back to using again. Please stop at a young age before you waste a life.

SSIL75

Why do you say 'doomed'.

Are you asking if you're 'doomed' to have a big dramatic relapse if I drink one or are you asking if you're 'doomed' to have a life that is alcohol free?

Anyway it didn't get harder for me. Since I really embraced recovery it has not been hard at all in the typical sense. I always think it's 'hard' like training for a marathon is hard. Yes, difficult but rewarding every step of the way.

LaFemme

I don't consider the fact that I can never drink again being "doomed". For me it is a great gift.

I have found sobriety gets easier and easier.

Kellye C

First of all, congratulations on your 4 months sober!

LaFemme pretty much nailed it for me. My last drink was in August of 2004. It was really hard at first but the further I got away from that last drink and started taking actions to remain sober it has gotten easier until now I don't give it too much thought. It is just part of me now. I am a non-drinker. Period.

I am definitely not doomed to an alcohol free life, rather I would be doomed if I picked up a drink again.

Keep up the good work on that four months and I wish you many, many more.

Kellye

TwelveSteps

For me it's not about time, it's about the ups and downs of life. It was pretty easy for me to stay sober when I had a good daily routine and things in my life were going well. When something went other than the way I'd hoped (breakups, getting laid off, etc.) I suddenly found that I had to work a lot harder to keep those cravings at bay.

GG