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Out Of Recovery
Hi, I was wondering if you had any advice on things I can do to help my loved one when he gets out of recovery next week. I have already removed the old booze, boxed up the wine glasses and shot glasses, and cleaned the whole house to be sure I got every empty out. Anything else you can think of that might help? I was thinking about rearranging the furniture so that when he came home he would no longer be sitting where he always sat to drink.
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Other than the things you've already done,
Do things that you two would not normally. Example, if you normally sit in and drink, go for a walk around the woods or the park, anywhere that isn't near a shop that sells alcohol. take a camera with you and take some photo's, make it fun and interesting.
walking is an example, but you can do anything, as long as its not something you are used to doing with drink
best of luck to him, and you
AoS
Do things that you two would not normally. Example, if you normally sit in and drink, go for a walk around the woods or the park, anywhere that isn't near a shop that sells alcohol. take a camera with you and take some photo's, make it fun and interesting.
walking is an example, but you can do anything, as long as its not something you are used to doing with drink
best of luck to him, and you
AoS
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Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Texas, a state of mind
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I like the idea of moving the furniture, but he might want to be involved in the decisions about what goes where. Sounds like fun. You've done a lot of great things already.
Meals will be important, so if you can have some planned - some old faves and some new menus, mixing it up, that will be good for him.
Best wishes to both of you for a new life, health, and sanity!
Meals will be important, so if you can have some planned - some old faves and some new menus, mixing it up, that will be good for him.
Best wishes to both of you for a new life, health, and sanity!
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Fenic, while removing the booze from the home is good if he wants to drink then he is going to drink. I would suggest maybe going to an open AA meeting with him. You will learn the extent that some alcoholics have gone through to continue to drink.
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Hi Im Sharon and Im an Alcoholic.
21 yrs ago my family pulled and
intervention on me where I spent
28 days in rehab. While away it was
suggested that my spouse remove
all alcohol from the house so when
I returned there wouldnt be that
temptation there since i would be
in early recovery.
That was a big help, but the extra
steps and work to stay sober had
to be done by me and me alone.
I was the one who had to be responsible
for my own actions.
So, I went to my 6 week aftercare
recovery program and AA meetings
religiously as I could go. If not I was
sure to fall back into old behavior.
In meetings I listened intentively and
absorb as much as I could the messages
of others who learned to stay sober
themselves for long periods of time.
I took those steps and messages and
knowledge and incorperated them into
my own daily life going to any lengths
to the best of my ability to stay sober.
My recovery journey started 21 yrs ago
as I still continue to live each day sober
today.
Those promises in the Big Book of AA
were written for each of us and have
and still continue to come true for me
today.
I have grown and changed into a more
honest, accepting, tolerant, loving person
over the years and Im grateful for it for
each passing day.
Recovery is a journey of a life time becoming
the best person I can possibly be. Im not
disappointed in the least of what Ive become.
What a joy. What a blessing. What a gift
to grow and live by.
21 yrs ago my family pulled and
intervention on me where I spent
28 days in rehab. While away it was
suggested that my spouse remove
all alcohol from the house so when
I returned there wouldnt be that
temptation there since i would be
in early recovery.
That was a big help, but the extra
steps and work to stay sober had
to be done by me and me alone.
I was the one who had to be responsible
for my own actions.
So, I went to my 6 week aftercare
recovery program and AA meetings
religiously as I could go. If not I was
sure to fall back into old behavior.
In meetings I listened intentively and
absorb as much as I could the messages
of others who learned to stay sober
themselves for long periods of time.
I took those steps and messages and
knowledge and incorperated them into
my own daily life going to any lengths
to the best of my ability to stay sober.
My recovery journey started 21 yrs ago
as I still continue to live each day sober
today.
Those promises in the Big Book of AA
were written for each of us and have
and still continue to come true for me
today.
I have grown and changed into a more
honest, accepting, tolerant, loving person
over the years and Im grateful for it for
each passing day.
Recovery is a journey of a life time becoming
the best person I can possibly be. Im not
disappointed in the least of what Ive become.
What a joy. What a blessing. What a gift
to grow and live by.
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The most helpful thing my husband did for my recovery was express an interest in my new interests. He went out of his way to do things with me (icecream with the kids and other family outings) and also encouraged me to occasionally (handful of times) go get a cup of coffee or tea by myself if he could tell I wasn't handling stress well.
As an alcoholic I had woefully poor coping skills and this past year has been a trial by fire trying to learn new ones on the spot.
He didn't do anything alcohol related. He continued to drink, brew beer etc. This was (is) fine by me. My Alcoholism had affected us enough. Alcohol wasn't central to my recovery. It's been all about discovering new ways to enjoy life and my husband has been a huge part of that.
When I hit a year I wrote him a card and I listed all the things he did those first months that helped. Honestly the one that stands out most was putting his laptop away to hear the details of a pampered chef party I went to
It moves me to tears remembering how I 'got it' in that moment. That he found me interesting/entertaining even when I was sober. We'd have things to talk about. I'd have fun. Everything would be OK.
So I'd say 'get on with life' and hope he's along for the ride. If not then get on with your own life!
Best of luck to you and your boyfriend!
As an alcoholic I had woefully poor coping skills and this past year has been a trial by fire trying to learn new ones on the spot.
He didn't do anything alcohol related. He continued to drink, brew beer etc. This was (is) fine by me. My Alcoholism had affected us enough. Alcohol wasn't central to my recovery. It's been all about discovering new ways to enjoy life and my husband has been a huge part of that.
When I hit a year I wrote him a card and I listed all the things he did those first months that helped. Honestly the one that stands out most was putting his laptop away to hear the details of a pampered chef party I went to
It moves me to tears remembering how I 'got it' in that moment. That he found me interesting/entertaining even when I was sober. We'd have things to talk about. I'd have fun. Everything would be OK.So I'd say 'get on with life' and hope he's along for the ride. If not then get on with your own life!
Best of luck to you and your boyfriend!
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