abd112

I'm on day 16 and I think the hardest thing is figuring out who I will be now without drinking.

In the past couple weeks I have not spent time with my friends because they all drink or use something, its so bad I don't even want to go back to my hometown. I don't even hang out the neighbors at my apartment like I used to because I use to drink with them and although they do not always drink I do not know if they will be if I were to decide to hang out with them and I don't know how avoid temptations I know ultimately I will give in and have that first drink which will lead to many many more.

So what do I do know? I can't lock myself up in my apartment all the time besides when I leave for work, but I don't think I'm strong enough yet to go out into the world without drinking.

SomethingBetter

Its hard, but it gets better, find new hobbies & avoid temtation for a while, i still avoid them at 136 days.

I know its easier said than done but hang in there, your stronger than you think

congrats on 16 days!

checkmate1

For the first month I was trying to figure that out too. It's best to take it one day at a time and you will get a new routine going. The first few weeks I did next to no socialising as I was still coming to terms with the new me.

My best mate I've seen him once in the last 75 days I've been sober which is pretty lousy considering I'm making the first contact all the time. I have friend that only knows me as sober which is very encouraging and I talk and hang-out with her. My other mate decided to get sober also he's at about a week. Just do what your capable of doing and look after number 1.

After the first month things for me got easier and at 6 weeks it was pretty good. Hang in there and give your mind and body time to heal.

Belier

Don't rush anything, it is curious that in my first few weeks i was also unsure of who I was going to be with out the drinking, I had lost myself, it is actually rather exciting to start rediscovering things about yourself, interests ways of thinking, I am now just past 6 months and am so happy I did not rush anything and gave myself time. I did not socialise with any drinkers for many months, that was important for me, the world did not stop and I can join back in now at my own pace, Congratulations on your days it truly does get better!

CarolD

Well done on your early sobriety..

I did avoid drinkers and drinking situations for awhile...like you I was not ready.
soooo....
I found a local AA group with a lot of single members We did all sorts of interesting things outside of meetings...and we helped each other stay in focus..