Guests, guests, and more guests!!!
DOS: 11/6/10
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Florida Panhandle, USA
Posts: 736
Guests, guests, and more guests!!!
WOW, I have not had any time for myself or my program for the last 2 weeks... When you move to Florida, and you invite friends to stay, they actually DO! Good heavens, we've had a crazy couple of weeks!
Last night, we were in good old new Orleans... I had about 10 minutes of feeling sorry for myself and a mixture of temptation and instant redress. Almost made a phone call or two, but didn't really have a way to get away from the group, etc, etc... - -and the feelings subsided within 10 minutes and we all had a great time, but boy, for a few minutes I really felt down about not drinking in such a crazy drinking town.
I have to bring one guest to the airport tomorrow that's 2 hours away- - then work on Friday, and one last day with our remaining friends before putting them on a plane Saturday night, we work Sunday, and I'm sleeping on Monday!!!
I need to get back to my meetings and I will right quick... I have been better about saying my prayers and trying to do the next best thing, and so hopefully I'm maintaining my spiritual condition and keeping my sobriety my priority even if I can't get to a meeting until next week.
The empty house will be gratefully enjoyed next week
Last night, we were in good old new Orleans... I had about 10 minutes of feeling sorry for myself and a mixture of temptation and instant redress. Almost made a phone call or two, but didn't really have a way to get away from the group, etc, etc... - -and the feelings subsided within 10 minutes and we all had a great time, but boy, for a few minutes I really felt down about not drinking in such a crazy drinking town.
I have to bring one guest to the airport tomorrow that's 2 hours away- - then work on Friday, and one last day with our remaining friends before putting them on a plane Saturday night, we work Sunday, and I'm sleeping on Monday!!!
I need to get back to my meetings and I will right quick... I have been better about saying my prayers and trying to do the next best thing, and so hopefully I'm maintaining my spiritual condition and keeping my sobriety my priority even if I can't get to a meeting until next week.
The empty house will be gratefully enjoyed next week
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
You know you are playing a dangerous game
You could get to a open meeting with a guest
You could leave the guest at home..or drop them at a mall.
Being a good hoestess does not mean you are attached
at the hip....
Sorry Sun...I'm not buying what your selling.
Yes...I lived in Fl. for 6 years I know all about company.
.
Member
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
Hi sunrise, from what you wrote it sounds like
you have a full plate. It also sounds like you have
a good idea of what you need to do in order to
have a successful life in recovery.
Im not one to TELL people what to do because
I dont like to be TOLD what to do myself. We
are not children here. There are many adults
looking for guidance, strength, care, understanding,
compassion from others that have stayed sober
a few many one days at a time collected together
to get them where they are today.
In early recovery it was suggested to stay away
from people places and things having anything to
do with alcohol. Reason being, its too tempting
to us who are extremely vunerable.
However in life there r situations we are unable to
get out of and so we need to arm ourselves with the
tools and knowledge of our recovery program. Those
tools can save our lives and protect our recovery.
When i go on a motorcycle trip with my husband, I
bring my laptop with me. I also have my phone, my
support from my spouse who is also in recovery. That
part is great because we support each other and protect
each other from the temptations of alcohol out there in
the world.
Having a friend to call who will be stronger in advice and
suggestions in case u get squirrely. SR is and has been
PERFECT for me in my recovery even with 20 yrs sobriety.
I too am put in lifes situations that call for a choice of
action. That choice will determine if you want to be un-
comfortable or at peace. Me, today is all about comfort.
I dont put myself in situations that would interfere with
my recovery mainly because my recovery program is
extremely important to me and my well being.
Getting back to basics in ur program will be comforting
for you and as you continue on ur recovery journey and
you will better know next time what tools to bring with you
or situation to avoid while learning to be happy and content
in ur recovery.
you have a full plate. It also sounds like you have
a good idea of what you need to do in order to
have a successful life in recovery.
Im not one to TELL people what to do because
I dont like to be TOLD what to do myself. We
are not children here. There are many adults
looking for guidance, strength, care, understanding,
compassion from others that have stayed sober
a few many one days at a time collected together
to get them where they are today.
In early recovery it was suggested to stay away
from people places and things having anything to
do with alcohol. Reason being, its too tempting
to us who are extremely vunerable.
However in life there r situations we are unable to
get out of and so we need to arm ourselves with the
tools and knowledge of our recovery program. Those
tools can save our lives and protect our recovery.
When i go on a motorcycle trip with my husband, I
bring my laptop with me. I also have my phone, my
support from my spouse who is also in recovery. That
part is great because we support each other and protect
each other from the temptations of alcohol out there in
the world.
Having a friend to call who will be stronger in advice and
suggestions in case u get squirrely. SR is and has been
PERFECT for me in my recovery even with 20 yrs sobriety.
I too am put in lifes situations that call for a choice of
action. That choice will determine if you want to be un-
comfortable or at peace. Me, today is all about comfort.
I dont put myself in situations that would interfere with
my recovery mainly because my recovery program is
extremely important to me and my well being.
Getting back to basics in ur program will be comforting
for you and as you continue on ur recovery journey and
you will better know next time what tools to bring with you
or situation to avoid while learning to be happy and content
in ur recovery.
DOS: 11/6/10
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Florida Panhandle, USA
Posts: 736
Carol, I think I'm picking up what you're putting down. It was just past the 6 month mark last time that I made critical mistakes in my recovery, and I'm about at that point now. I DO feel "away" from my program, and am sorely missing my meetings.
I know I won't make this same mistake again- - at least not as far as visitors are concerned. I got overloaded because I couldn't say "no" to anyone, and now have overstretched myself to keep everybody else happy, at the expense of my needed time with my home group.
Thank you, Carol, (and all) for your input. I know that's why we're all here and I think that's what I needed to hear today.
I know I won't make this same mistake again- - at least not as far as visitors are concerned. I got overloaded because I couldn't say "no" to anyone, and now have overstretched myself to keep everybody else happy, at the expense of my needed time with my home group.
Thank you, Carol, (and all) for your input. I know that's why we're all here and I think that's what I needed to hear today.
Member
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
As I continue to practice tolerance of others in
my recovery, I wanted to come back here to be
responsible in answering your question Grateful2BHere
about what SR stood for.
SR is an abbreviated version of Sober Recovery. A useful
website I apply to my recovery program on a daily bases.
Thank you for your kind words as they are much appreciated.
my recovery, I wanted to come back here to be
responsible in answering your question Grateful2BHere
about what SR stood for.
SR is an abbreviated version of Sober Recovery. A useful
website I apply to my recovery program on a daily bases.
Thank you for your kind words as they are much appreciated.
DOS: 11/6/10
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Florida Panhandle, USA
Posts: 736
Sharon, thank you for your suggestions as well.. I did stay in touch with my sponsor via text, and although I could have done better in that respect it IS an improvement over what I would have done 6 months ago.
Please don't think Carol was out of line with her comments; I have a looooong history here on SR and I know she knows all of it. Sometimes I don't recognize my own B.S., so I am grateful to be able to have it pointed out for me here by someone who can tell what's coming and doesn't want me to make the same mistake I did nearly six months ago.
I'm grateful for all the help and support I receive here... thank you for taking the time to do so earlier.
s
Please don't think Carol was out of line with her comments; I have a looooong history here on SR and I know she knows all of it. Sometimes I don't recognize my own B.S., so I am grateful to be able to have it pointed out for me here by someone who can tell what's coming and doesn't want me to make the same mistake I did nearly six months ago.
I'm grateful for all the help and support I receive here... thank you for taking the time to do so earlier.
s
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Wappingers Falls, NY
Posts: 618
Originally Posted by CarolD 
You know you are playing a dangerous game
You could get to a open meeting with a guest
You could leave the guest at home..or drop them at a mall.
Being a good hoestess does not mean you are attached
at the hip....
Sorry Sun...I'm not buying what your selling.
Yes...I lived in Fl. for 6 years I know all about company.
.
~God bless~
Member
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
I for myself dont like harsh. I understand some
may need harsh, but you're not gonna get that
from me mainly because I dont tolerate it. There's
no need for it in my recovery and dont want it.
We cant see members expressions online so telling
someone there not working a good program or playing
a dangerous game so you better get ur azz to a meeting
or else.....and that being said in a round about way, is
kinda harsh or rude IMO.
I think id like to hear those words as a suggestion from
a sponsor face to face instead of a stranger online. IMO.
I look at it as what and who gives me the right to TELL
others what they need to do in their recovery, especially
if they havent a clue as to whom I am. I have more respect
for the newcomer and will share my own experiences,
strengths and hopes of what it was like before during and
after alcohol. To caringly, loving, supportively, helping and
guiding the newcomer along.
All of this is IMO of course. Because each has their own way
of approaching the newcomer.
Kindness and Tolerance of others is important.
may need harsh, but you're not gonna get that
from me mainly because I dont tolerate it. There's
no need for it in my recovery and dont want it.
We cant see members expressions online so telling
someone there not working a good program or playing
a dangerous game so you better get ur azz to a meeting
or else.....and that being said in a round about way, is
kinda harsh or rude IMO.
I think id like to hear those words as a suggestion from
a sponsor face to face instead of a stranger online. IMO.
I look at it as what and who gives me the right to TELL
others what they need to do in their recovery, especially
if they havent a clue as to whom I am. I have more respect
for the newcomer and will share my own experiences,
strengths and hopes of what it was like before during and
after alcohol. To caringly, loving, supportively, helping and
guiding the newcomer along.
All of this is IMO of course. Because each has their own way
of approaching the newcomer.
Kindness and Tolerance of others is important.
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