Thinking About Admitting Myself To The Hospital?
Re:Checking myself into a hospital
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Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Columbus, Ohio
Posts: 645
Pink, This is the best idea you've had in months. Please act on it before you talk yourself out of it. I truly hope you go to the hospital and get the help you need.
Irish, Don't make your recovery contingent upon someone elses (i.e., Pink's). Do it for yourself. There are recovery resources available if you look for them.
Susan
Irish, Don't make your recovery contingent upon someone elses (i.e., Pink's). Do it for yourself. There are recovery resources available if you look for them.
Susan
To all those afraid to get help or go to a meeting.
I was the only woman at the meeting, my first in this country.
I sat down and with my big puffy face, listened.
I did not know it, but one of the men called a local woman and she came to a meeting and took me under her wing. There was a guy at the first meeting, who was beet red with embarrassment, but got the nerve to say hello and give me a meeting list. I asked if it was a men's meeting and he assured me no.
The men slowly introduced themselves and awkwardly offered encouragement.
The coffee and cookies were great.
The woman was very different from me, but we were both alcoholic and knew eachother's pain. We went to meetings in different places and met more people. Never had to be introduced twice to the same people.
I had a few major slips at first but kept going back and telling on myself!
She was a toughie and once made me go to another meeting because I didn't share at the previous one! The shy guy was delighted with the chance to try out other mtgs and we would stay up late drinking gallons of tea and talking and LAUGHING.
I had some major arguments with them and walkouts and hated them at times. They told me the truth when I didn't see it and didn't want to hear it. I made myself go to mtgs everyday almost. Especially if I didn't want to go.
I am sober since October and have made countless friends. Have made 2 very close friends. Not as close to the woman and the guy now but still go to original mtg about 3x a week. There are lots of regular women now as they are more comfortable with the mix. The friendship and concern and encouragement are priceless. The non alcoholic people in my life are totally fascinated by the changes I have made with the simple act of "taking the bull by the horns".
They were all very well-intentioned but completely unable to help and were actually detrimental to me until I separated my recovery from them. They were annoyed at first but could see that the "drunks" were getting done in weeks what they at tried for years.
I now have my beautiful cottage in a beautiful town by the sea. A responsible job (someone at the meeting's ex gave my resume to a friend who gave it to the boss),
I have a cute little red car that I got a couple of weeks ago. My friend came down with her daughter (5) and spent last night in my little house. Another friend came over, after we hat spent the day outside in the sun. We stayed up until 3am playing scrabble (they cheated and made up ridiculous words),
We drank tea and laughed our heads off. (not the 5yr old, she was in bed).
I waved them off today and am going to meet my AA buddy for a natter and a mtg later.
What can I say? It has been such a turnaround!
I also went to my cousin's wedding on Saturday (first outing) and had a fabulous day and got so many compliments about how well I was looking (must have been a dog before!)
My family were so happy that I was there. I get on fine with my parents, who I was allergic to 6mths ago. (They haven't changed, I have).
Some residual though is my tendency to awfulise things to an hilarious level.
1: Was convinced I was going to be fired, (wasn't).
2: Was totally freaked about taxes, (have 2 mths extra as I am living outside of US). Website, baby!
3: Was all bothered about my car insurance, tax, etc. All sorted in about 20 minutes and one letter posted off.
4: Thought I was going to run out of money, (didn't).
More and more, I am getting out of a lifelong habit of putting things off and "making mountains out of molehills".
Hope this helps Irish and Pink as much as it helped me to write it all down.
Don't put off a better life one more moment.
GRAB THE BULL BY THE HORNS!
I was the only woman at the meeting, my first in this country.
I sat down and with my big puffy face, listened.
I did not know it, but one of the men called a local woman and she came to a meeting and took me under her wing. There was a guy at the first meeting, who was beet red with embarrassment, but got the nerve to say hello and give me a meeting list. I asked if it was a men's meeting and he assured me no.
The men slowly introduced themselves and awkwardly offered encouragement.
The coffee and cookies were great.
The woman was very different from me, but we were both alcoholic and knew eachother's pain. We went to meetings in different places and met more people. Never had to be introduced twice to the same people.
I had a few major slips at first but kept going back and telling on myself!
She was a toughie and once made me go to another meeting because I didn't share at the previous one! The shy guy was delighted with the chance to try out other mtgs and we would stay up late drinking gallons of tea and talking and LAUGHING.
I had some major arguments with them and walkouts and hated them at times. They told me the truth when I didn't see it and didn't want to hear it. I made myself go to mtgs everyday almost. Especially if I didn't want to go.
I am sober since October and have made countless friends. Have made 2 very close friends. Not as close to the woman and the guy now but still go to original mtg about 3x a week. There are lots of regular women now as they are more comfortable with the mix. The friendship and concern and encouragement are priceless. The non alcoholic people in my life are totally fascinated by the changes I have made with the simple act of "taking the bull by the horns".
They were all very well-intentioned but completely unable to help and were actually detrimental to me until I separated my recovery from them. They were annoyed at first but could see that the "drunks" were getting done in weeks what they at tried for years.
I now have my beautiful cottage in a beautiful town by the sea. A responsible job (someone at the meeting's ex gave my resume to a friend who gave it to the boss),
I have a cute little red car that I got a couple of weeks ago. My friend came down with her daughter (5) and spent last night in my little house. Another friend came over, after we hat spent the day outside in the sun. We stayed up until 3am playing scrabble (they cheated and made up ridiculous words),
We drank tea and laughed our heads off. (not the 5yr old, she was in bed).
I waved them off today and am going to meet my AA buddy for a natter and a mtg later.
What can I say? It has been such a turnaround!
I also went to my cousin's wedding on Saturday (first outing) and had a fabulous day and got so many compliments about how well I was looking (must have been a dog before!)
My family were so happy that I was there. I get on fine with my parents, who I was allergic to 6mths ago. (They haven't changed, I have).
Some residual though is my tendency to awfulise things to an hilarious level.
1: Was convinced I was going to be fired, (wasn't).
2: Was totally freaked about taxes, (have 2 mths extra as I am living outside of US). Website, baby!
3: Was all bothered about my car insurance, tax, etc. All sorted in about 20 minutes and one letter posted off.
4: Thought I was going to run out of money, (didn't).
More and more, I am getting out of a lifelong habit of putting things off and "making mountains out of molehills".
Hope this helps Irish and Pink as much as it helped me to write it all down.
Don't put off a better life one more moment.
GRAB THE BULL BY THE HORNS!
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Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: South Dakota, USA
Posts: 1,429
I didn't read this thread until this morning. But I hope by now you are BOTH in some sort of treatment facility or getting some form of professional care.
Irish, I am not familiar with your situation but you sound desperate. Just get help, worry about the cost thing later.
Pink, the madness of this disease inside of you has gone too far. Months now you have been asking for help. And I think you really want it. I pray you have finally done something and taken the first step.
Irish, I am not familiar with your situation but you sound desperate. Just get help, worry about the cost thing later.
Pink, the madness of this disease inside of you has gone too far. Months now you have been asking for help. And I think you really want it. I pray you have finally done something and taken the first step.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
Yes..I too hope all is well with Pink.
She was here yesterday but did not post on SR.
Perhaps she was in Chat or reading.
Her usual MO is to begin threads asking for help and info
members share ...she gets upset and leaves
Comes back a few weeks later .. repeates.
We all want the best for Pink and ..her 2 small children
Living with addiction harms everyone involved..we do know that.
This topic was about getting into a hospital /treatment ..lots of sharing offered
It's time time to close.
She was here yesterday but did not post on SR.
Perhaps she was in Chat or reading.
Her usual MO is to begin threads asking for help and info
members share ...she gets upset and leaves
Comes back a few weeks later .. repeates.
We all want the best for Pink and ..her 2 small children
Living with addiction harms everyone involved..we do know that.
This topic was about getting into a hospital /treatment ..lots of sharing offered
It's time time to close.
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