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There are programs for the both of you to
work and you don't have to work each others
programs. You work yours and the other works
theirs.
Take care of you and what you need to stay sober
and sane.
When I get into someone elses stuff that I have no
control over that drives me crazy. Im powerless over
other people, places and things.
When I work on my own problem, situations, which
is enough in itself then Im more at peace of mind.
If I dont take care of me then I cant be good for
anyone or anything else.
work and you don't have to work each others
programs. You work yours and the other works
theirs.
Take care of you and what you need to stay sober
and sane.
When I get into someone elses stuff that I have no
control over that drives me crazy. Im powerless over
other people, places and things.
When I work on my own problem, situations, which
is enough in itself then Im more at peace of mind.
If I dont take care of me then I cant be good for
anyone or anything else.
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I know drinking is an attractive escape for unpleasant emotions or situations. But drinking wont help when it comes to being pressured to find solutions. Stress can force one to face the situation head on whereas drinking prolongs the problem on and on.
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Originally Posted by PureLife 
Yeah it's stupid and solves nothing but I don't know what else to do. She is always mood swinging and it's just not normal.
What you need to do is not react to them, and when she is having a bad time, go find a safe place.
If you are already in a relationship where you are having physical altercations and you aren't married yet you might want to reevaluate the relationship before you move further.
When you say "mood swings" you should probably describe it a little more. Like I said I have dealt with mood swings for 20+ years, but we have never gotten into a physical altercation, but I have always been one to avoid conflict.
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Originally Posted by Supercrew
Well, speaking for myself, although many times my drinking caused the mood swings, if you have ever lived with a woman, there is nothing abnormal about them having mood swings, hell my wife would tell you that.
What you need to do is not react to them, and when she is having a bad time, go find a safe place.
If you are already in a relationship where you are having physical altercations and you aren't married yet you might want to reevaluate the relationship before you move further.
When you say "mood swings" you should probably describe it a little more. Like I said I have dealt with mood swings for 20+ years, but we have never gotten into a physical altercation, but I have always been one to avoid conflict.
What you need to do is not react to them, and when she is having a bad time, go find a safe place.
If you are already in a relationship where you are having physical altercations and you aren't married yet you might want to reevaluate the relationship before you move further.
When you say "mood swings" you should probably describe it a little more. Like I said I have dealt with mood swings for 20+ years, but we have never gotten into a physical altercation, but I have always been one to avoid conflict.
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Well, it guess it depends on what we are talking about by moodswings.
I didn't mean it as an insult, but I lived with 2 sisters and a mother and then with my wife. I have 40 some years of experience in living with woman, and I love them, but I have seen a tempermental side in everyone, so I don't think it is abnormal. I think the best offense is a good defense, let the mood pass or try to make her as happy as possible for the time being. And I should preface this by saying I have also lived with and hung out with men in the military and in college and they are probably just as bad.
I didn't mean it as an insult, but I lived with 2 sisters and a mother and then with my wife. I have 40 some years of experience in living with woman, and I love them, but I have seen a tempermental side in everyone, so I don't think it is abnormal. I think the best offense is a good defense, let the mood pass or try to make her as happy as possible for the time being. And I should preface this by saying I have also lived with and hung out with men in the military and in college and they are probably just as bad.
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I agree though.. letting them pass works good. not really "ignoring" them but not getting down on that type of level. I know how to handle it but... I dont have patience when it pops up and I feel like I lower myself to the high school level and argue back. I should take that back when I said 90% of the time.. it's not all the time but more than I like. I need to learn to just relax.
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