Notices

Accomplisment! on the way to recovery!

Old 03-01-2011, 07:26 AM
  # 21 (permalink)  
SR Fan
 
artsoul's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Mississippi
Posts: 7,910
Welcome to the club.... I used to think I could be smarter and stronger than my addiction, but that always disappeared with the first drink.

Welcome to day 1 - you can do this!
artsoul is offline  
Old 03-01-2011, 08:41 AM
  # 22 (permalink)  
Member
 
Kmber2010's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Germany
Posts: 2,058
Looking forward to your new beginning Maureen

Like others.....yup been there but we can change and never have to go through that again!
Kmber2010 is offline  
Old 03-01-2011, 09:37 AM
  # 23 (permalink)  
Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Bingen
Posts: 53
Maureen . If you think you can start drinking late and stop by usual times . Give it a try for few days . I have been doing the same thing for last 2 months Nd it is working for me . I start at 9.45 and have 2 glasses of wine with dinner and finish by 10.30 . It may not work for you but it did for me . , May be i may go back to half whisky again every night but till then 2 glass of wine is better Do whatever works for you . if not drinking at all is only way for you then you must follow what other friends have said . Do not pick up the 1st drink , That is it
Bingen is offline  
Old 03-01-2011, 09:59 AM
  # 24 (permalink)  
Guest
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Posts: 3,452
Bingen, the problem is she tried and that didn't work.

When we try to control our drinking and our experience shows that we cannot, then we have to change...if we want sobriety.

I hope Maureen checks back in with us today.

Veritas1 is offline  
Old 03-01-2011, 02:11 PM
  # 25 (permalink)  
Administrator
 
Dee74's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,036
As Veritas said, Maureen already tried that.
I thought you were trying for complete sobriety Bingen - what happened?

May be i may go back to half whisky again every night but till then 2 glass of wine is better
I disagree - if you're like me, any alcohol, no matter what the type, just feeds the monster.

D

D
Dee74 is offline  
Old 03-01-2011, 02:36 PM
  # 26 (permalink)  
Member
 
OklaBH's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: The Sooner State
Posts: 1,725
man...i tried that. i had "rules" so that I could drink. None of them worked. I just progressively got worse. I hope you are more fortunate than I was.
OklaBH is offline  
Old 03-01-2011, 03:32 PM
  # 27 (permalink)  
Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: San Diego
Posts: 4,451
Bingen, I think the advice you're getting is better than the advice you're giving, but I'm glad you're still coming to SR, drinking or not.

Maureen, I hope you'll come back and let us know how your day went. You'll get nothing but encouragement and understanding either way....
ReadyAndAble is offline  
Old 03-01-2011, 10:29 PM
  # 28 (permalink)  
Member
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Ohio
Posts: 19
Hello.

my day went alright considering, i did not drink as many beers this evening, but am still drinking them nonetheless. im thinking about seeing a psychiatrist, my real reason of which my drinking stems from is due to a few bad realtionships, people i love but cannot have because they rejected me, i know everyone goes through this, but some of these were very particualrly nasty and with me having my pre-existing depression =not good. maybe that will help
MaureenBeer is offline  
Old 03-01-2011, 10:37 PM
  # 29 (permalink)  
Administrator
 
Dee74's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,036
Hi Maureen

I had a lot of underlying reason why I drank too - but I also developed a great case of alcoholism too.

I think it's really important to look at both things. A counsellor with some knowledge of addiction may be a good idea?

My advice is to get into doing something right away tho - I wasted a lot of time 'going to do something'...

D
Dee74 is offline  
Old 03-01-2011, 11:45 PM
  # 30 (permalink)  
Member
 
Kmber2010's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Germany
Posts: 2,058
I understand Maureen and agree with Dee 100%. I had specific underlying reasons as to why I initially turned to drinking which would have been better served obviously with some form of counseling. Over time though I became an alcoholic and that was another piece that I had to address.

Agree that seeking counseling would be beneficial but definitely make sure you have one who understands addiction. My counselor initially worked with me on alcoholism and getting that addressed then we focused on recovery and long term success which involved dealing with my past issues and moving forward in a positive way.

For me, I had many good days or weeks where I was able to cut down and was quite proud but without fail I ended up right at the belly of the beast.

You can do this and address the issues in your life without feeding the addiction.
Kmber2010 is offline  
Old 03-02-2011, 12:25 AM
  # 31 (permalink)  
Member
 
mtnmagic's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Lake Tahoe CA
Posts: 1,098
Maureen - I am glad you are still here and still posting. Please keep coming back no matter what. I think getting some individual counseling is an excellent idea. As Kimber pointed out it would be really important to get a therapist with experience in alcoholism/addictions. I think it's important to be honest about your drinking so they can best help you.

I get the part about depression also. I have been treated for depression in the past. No matter what people told me about alcohol being a chemical downer I could not give it up while undergoing counseling and only made my depression worse and worse.

At 5 1/2 weeks sober I have emotions flying all over the place and some of them are painful and uncomfortable. The interesting thing though is being super depressed isn't one of them. Giving up the alcohol for this time has helped this significantly. Unfortunately, I would never believe it until I experienced it. I hope you give yourself that chance too.
mtnmagic is offline  
Old 03-02-2011, 08:15 AM
  # 32 (permalink)  
Member
 
AA4life's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Chicago
Posts: 166
Originally Posted by MaureenBeer View Post
Well I usually start around 7pm and continue till 3am (bedtime) but this evening i didnt start till midnight and am only having 3 beers, which at this exact time last month was doing 12-15 beers a night, im finding that slowing down is actually working for me!
I hope this technique works for you. But, my experience, and probably most others who are now living sober is that when I tried to moderate or control my drinking it only worked in the short term. And I tried really hard for a really long time. So, if that doesn't end of working for you hopefully you can use our collective experience and try something else.

Don't stop trying because you will never quit if you don't keep trying.
AA4life is offline  
Old 03-02-2011, 09:47 PM
  # 33 (permalink)  
Member
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Ohio
Posts: 19
thank you all for the support/advice. btw, does anyone know of any other alcohol addiction recover forum out there, this one is great but i would also like to see if theres any others out there =]

MaureenBeer is offline  
Old 03-19-2011, 12:57 AM
  # 34 (permalink)  
Guest
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Posts: 3,452
Originally Posted by MaureenBeer View Post
Hello. Well I suppose you are all right, moderation does not work for me, i thought i was gonna be slowing down alot and stuff but only reason i drank lightly last night was because i was sick, today i am well and drank way too much, thats it, tomarrow must be day 1, it has to be, im tired of all this, it needs to end. thank you all for your support
Do you remember this Maureen?

You said moderation does not work for you.

Throw out the rest of that 30 pack.

You can do it.
Veritas1 is offline  
Old 03-19-2011, 12:40 PM
  # 35 (permalink)  
Member
 
MrDavid's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Wappingers Falls, NY
Posts: 618
Re:Accomplisment! on the way to recovery!

Making it through another day without drinking is your next step.

~god bless~
MrDavid is offline  
Old 03-19-2011, 04:15 PM
  # 36 (permalink)  
Member
 
Stevie1's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: SE Michigan
Posts: 1,066
Thank you for checking in, Maureen.

I think a counselor experienced with treating addictions is an excellent idea.

Many of us drank in a misguided effort to deal with emotional or mental issues...ultimately it's a very poor solution, as you realise.

You need to quit drinking. Have you tried AA or any other face to face support or meetings?
Stevie1 is offline  

Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off




All times are GMT -7. The time now is 02:36 AM.