My Rant On Alcohol And Quitting
Being powerless equates to having no power, or being weak. It is a nice way to pass the responsibilty from the person to the bottle.
The powerless concept puts a positive spin on being weak and not having self control. Once you accept being powerless then it is not your fault, because there is nothing in your mind that you can do to prevent it. .
The powerless concept puts a positive spin on being weak and not having self control. Once you accept being powerless then it is not your fault, because there is nothing in your mind that you can do to prevent it. .
How can I "pass the responsibility from the person to the bottle" when the problem was me the whole time?
Supercrew - please don't bash our program and try to break it down to make it sound weak and unacountable. Have you in fact worked the steps of AA? Do you really know what you're talking about?
We all take different paths and a lot of our sobriety can be seen through our kindess and understanding (or lack-there-of).
We've got to be careful here on SR as our words not only sting, they can confuse and harm as well.
Kjell
I hate to burst your collective bubbles, but there is no scientific evidence that free will exists either. In fact, what evidence there is, tends to point to your brain deciding and then informing your consciousness of the illusion of choice. It turns out that the free will option is just as magical as any other recovery strategy. If it works you, that is wonderful, but somewhere along the line you probably should be vaguely aware of the leaps of faith you made.
Kjell, it wasn't bashing your program. If you are powerless over something how can you be held accountable for it? And doesn't powerless mean having no power whatsoever? Thus the meaning ultimately would be weak? By explaining the method of the program I am not bashing it anymore than quoting from the BB would be considered bashing anyone elses program. It was just an explanation to 123 from my point of view and basically saying no reason to rant on a programs ideals if it works.
I am powerless over alcohol. Not weak. Once I realized I was powerless, I tapped into a power by working the steps of AA and the obsession to drink was removed.
Once the obessesion of drinking was removed, I then used the remainder of the steps to work on myself. To better myself.
AA is not a cop out. The steps are not a way for alcoholics to be unaccountable for their alcoholism. It takes a lot of work, soul searching, and honesty to work all 12 steps, so trust me when I say we are being VERY accountable for our alcoholism
Keep up the good work on your sobriety and help show others your program so others may get and stay sober.
Kjell
I'm not saying AA is a cop out. But the symantics make it easier for people to accept the premise and get into the program. The 12 steps don't focus on not drinking, they focus on becoming a better person. That along with fellowship and charity help to make members realize there is a better life to be had without alcohol subconsciously, and then they lose the mental obsession. Basically it tackles the issue of alcohol obsession by repairing other aspects of a persons life. I think the program is fascinating, and please don't take offense to my explanation, because it was directed at 23's rant. I apologize if it looked like anything else.
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thanks kjell...yeh admitting your powerless is paradoxically the way of strength.....
writing a searching and fearless moral inventory.... going out and making face to face amends with ALL the folk you have ever harmed where possible.......weak? really?
i do love it when people tell us what something is all about when they have never experienced it,never done it,never even attempted anything like it...in fact...know nothing whatsoever about it.
everyone has there own way,their own program,or no program...whatever...it dosnt matter as long as we are getting well.but to tell folk that are working and living a 12 step program what it is all about when theyve never been near it makes me laugh...alot....
thats like me going up to the nearest construction site and telling the guy in charge how to build a shopping mall when ive never even mixed cement.......
writing a searching and fearless moral inventory.... going out and making face to face amends with ALL the folk you have ever harmed where possible.......weak? really?
i do love it when people tell us what something is all about when they have never experienced it,never done it,never even attempted anything like it...in fact...know nothing whatsoever about it.
everyone has there own way,their own program,or no program...whatever...it dosnt matter as long as we are getting well.but to tell folk that are working and living a 12 step program what it is all about when theyve never been near it makes me laugh...alot....
thats like me going up to the nearest construction site and telling the guy in charge how to build a shopping mall when ive never even mixed cement.......
Charmie, I do have experience and knowledge about the 12 step program, I attended Aa for an extend amount of time, I have gone over the steps, and my wife has been involved in the 12 step program as well, although not as an addict or alcohlic. Just because you disagree with my view it doesn't mean I have no knowledge of the program. But I am sorry if my view offended you and your beliefs.
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The reason AA exists is because so many people fail at staying sober after coming to the same decision. I did not willingly consider AA or the idea of 'powerless' until I had failed repeatedly at sticking to my decision to not drink.
I was demonstrating that 'weakness' on a daily basis. The weakness was in the result of picking up another drink. The weakness was a true fact demonstrated by my actions. Calling it weak or powerless, didn't make my actions any more weak. The weakness was already there.
Call it weak, call it powerless, the result was the same. I got drunk.
Paradoxically, by actually accepting that weakness, instead of trying to overcome it for the thousandth time, I found lasting, long-term sobriety.
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supercrew my post wasnt aimed at you...if it had of been i would have mentioned you by name my friend....it was a general message aimed at a lot of posts that seem to be flying about at the moment and not just on this thread!
I often wonder why it isn't easy for many of us to agree to disagree. I know very little about AA, nor will I ever pretend to know anything about it. Still, the ultimate goal for all of us is to achieve sobriety, and I could really give a rat's arse as to how we there as long as we do. I've even heard some members here go as far as to ask why some of us come to this forum if we already feel we have the remedy for being sober all figured out. The fact is that we don't have it fully figured out, and here lies the problem. If we had the remedy and cure to sobriety, we wouldn't be alcoholics, now would we? The bottom line is that each of us needs to find our own special way of tackling this problem, and if that need requires help from the outside, then that's wonderful! If one has the ability to do it on his/her own, that's wonderful, too! I joined this forum primarily because I came to the conclusion that I was indeed an alcoholic, and I personally find a great deal of gratification here by reading the experiences and opinions of others whether I agree with them or not. If nothing else, it reinforces my train of thought in that I can gain a knowledgeable perspective of where I really stand in the full spectrum of alcoholism and how it can literally ruin our lives. It also reinforces the notion that I want to live for the things that are of the utmost importance to me, and I would tend to think that this is primarily why most people want to quit drinking in the first place. After all, we really are all in this together, aren't we?
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