Rift

An old friend of mine told me "you are a drunk and will always be a drunk" yesterday. That really hurt. Anybody ever have someone tell you that?

I guess he showed his true colors and I find that I am glad I no longer hang out with this person. You don't just say that to somebody. That's straight ugly.

Stimmed

Hi DD.

Never had that said to me, but i had my share of names all the same.
Sure they hurt sometimes, but i always found that they came from people
with issues of their own and were not dealing with them.
Just try and let it bounce off and stay strong and true to yourself. :-)

Rift

you are probably right. this particular person used to try and bring me down a good bit and say negative stuff about me. good riddance is all i can say.

loveon2legs

OMG..that is just down right cruel....best to stay clear of negative people like that....you don't need it.... surround yourself with people who support you!! and I would rather be a drunk than an a**hole like that!!!

Stimmed

See youve done it already! gfu.

Heh 2legs last sentence just tickles me! :-)

CarolD

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I too stay far away from toxic people...works really good for me.
and gives me a chance to know others who share my goals.

passionfruit

Yea, it is mean. I said it many times to my AH in the heat of the argument.

I believed it too.

Was your friend angry at you? Did they say it nicely, but while being "honest with you?"

It is not right to say anytime, I agree. All's fair in love and war, we think when we're in the middle of that chaos. But, sadly, we do say things.

At the same time, coming from a F&F (friend and family) standpoint, what was your role in this conversation? I mean are you sober? Are you walking around angry? What was your demeanor during the conversation....?

Did this person say it in response to something you did? Was your friend attacking you for no reason? You get the idea....

SSIL75

I was wondering the same thing.

Rift

we were kind of having an arguement. we were talking about why we dont hang out anymore and things got heated and then that was the last thing said.

I'm over it. It's all good.

jerseytomato

My mother has said that to me many times. She calls me all sorts of names (loser is her favorite) and said some really awful things to me throughout the years. She has her own mental issues and I have to try to realize that she is not well just like I am not well at the moment. I have done some awful things to other people as well.

It's ashame what people will say (when they are sober no less) but you don't have to buy into it. It will only hurt your recovery and make you want to drink. I'm sorry that happened to you, it never feels good to have awful things said to them, especially by a friend.

SollytheGolly

I think that if that had been my 'old friend', he/she would have very quickly joined the ranks of ex 'old friends'.

Stimmed

Sorry for the edit Jersey, but you hit the nail on the head here.

MrDavid

I believe they refer to it as "In Recovery". What A fool........Pray for that person.

Can you say insert foot here.................

Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.