brokenheartfool

I am the occasional drinker, a few a week. I am seeing someone who is 7 years sober. If this relationship progressed, especially to the point of living together, what would happen then? I sometimes like a drink on some evenings. Would it destroy kissing and everything else physical for that evening?
I don't see how an ex-drinker could enjoy kissing someone who has had a drink and the ex-drinker can smell it.
I suppose at some point I will just have to ask, but any personal feelings on this are welcome.

Jackedjohn

I think your safest bet would be to ask your partner. Everyone is different... you're going to get a bunch of replies. Some saying it wouldn't bother them others saying it would really bother them. Bring it up to your partner... I think they will really appreciate your concern for their sobriety... score some bonus points.

Dee74

There are some things to do with recovery that are very individual, and very intimate. Ask your partner

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Supercrew

My wife drinks on rare occassions, and I like it when she does because she gets a little more "frisky" if you know what I mean,, but I have never really thought about trying to take the alcohol right out of her mouth.

I'm sure if odor is a problem you could always have a mint or brush your teeth. I'm guessing if your partner already knows you drink on occassion it won't be a problem.

Kmber2010

I am with the others on discussing this with your partner.

brokenheartfool

Never really thought about taking the alcohol right out of her mouth--had me laughing there supercrew!

I agree it's probably a personal thing. This thought just struck me and I thought oh no, what if there's an issue? All worried and the relationship is just beginning.
He knows I drink lightly sometimes.

JoeRaisin

My wife drinks once in a while. Usually it's just a drink or two and that's no problem. It's those rare occasions where she has more that I don't like the smell of it. Over a certain amount and it gives her breath a stale booze kind of thing.

I've mentioned it to her but it's not really a big thing, given that it only happens a two or three times a year and she had to deal with my stinky booze breath pretty much daily for years.

cabledude

You may find the kisses you get are superficial kisses. As you can imagine, given the lengths we go to in order to keep booze out of our mouths, it's not an attractive idea to take it from yours.

ZZworldontheweb

Breath mints? Brushing your teeth?

CarolD

Regardless of garggleing and brushing of teeth.....
the stentch of alcohol was a turn off for me.

No we were not married nor did we live together.
We had been a committed couple for 5 years.

Color me shallow......but

Jfanagle

This is a post that made me laugh. I used to joke a few years back that I only dated women who drank single malt scotch! As the writer Ogden Nash says, "Candy is dandy, but liquor is quicker."

Strictly an issue between the participants.

Nikkle

I have 37 days sober with a partner who still drinks to excess. I love him very much, but I'd have to say the stench is a big turn off romantically. About as tempting as licking the floor in an old tavern!

Isaiah

I am in a relationship with a girl who drinks about the same as you, a few a week maybe.

Personally, I just find there is a huge difference kissing someone who had a drink five minutes ago and someone who took one five seconds ago. Alcohol doesn't last long in the mouth, especially not if you are eating or drinking something like water too.

Everyone's different though, that's for sure. It'd be nice to ask him first.

onlythetruth

This is definitely something to ask your significant other about--it's very personal. As you can already tell from our answers, we all have different reactions.

For myself, I have the same reaction to the smell of alcohol on someone's breath that I do to the smell of cigarettes. Whether fresh or stale, the smell grosses me out completely. It doesn't trigger me--I don't want to drink--the smell simply sickens me. It brings back the horrible days when my own breath smelled like that.

Breath mints don't help, and neither does mouthwash. I can smell it anyway, and I simply can't get intimate with someone who has taken a drink or smoked within the last several hours.

Fortunately for me, my husband doesn't smoke and rarely drinks, so it's not a problem.

OTT

SparklingSeven

The smell or the fact that she is drinking doesn't really bother me - as its not that regularly. I am very wary of getting ANY alcohol even touching me so I would not kiss immediately after she has drunk anything. No problems getting intimate when she has finished her drink

TwoJacks

I personally can't kiss my husband if he's been drinking, but everyone's different.

TheEnd

My partner still drinks and most of my friends drink, it used to bother me when they kissed me, but not so much anymore. I guess it all depends on what there drinking, they all happen to be scotch drinkers and it tends to carry a significant odor, but like Isiah said it matters when they had their last drink.

The smell also kind of reminds me that I don't want to drink anymore.

soberbythesea

I won't kiss my husband if he's been drinking. I don't even like to get close to him if I can smell it on his breath. He doesn't drink much (2 beers max in a night, usually), but beer breath is such a huge turnoff to me now that I really can't be intimate with him in that situation. He understands, and doesn't push it.

loveon2legs

All I can say is YUCK!!!

jacknscoob

My husband and I are both alcoholics. When I am not drinking & he is the stench of wine makes me feel sick, even just sitting next to him.

Strange as when I am drinking I drink wine.

However, every one is different...best ask your partner.

Good luck.

J x