celticghirl

Hi i have posted something similar on friends and family where i normally visit but after splitting with my exabf i have gone through some thinking with regards to drinking with him (which i did alot) i feel guilty and abit stupid for thinking that everything would be okay the next day and he wouldnt carry on but nearly everytime i was wrong.

He has said to me on a number of occasions,that i shouldnt have made him drink which i know deep down is absurd but at the same time it does make me think that i was pretty out of order for this.

What are your thoughts on this?
Oh and congrats on everyone here trying to overcome the demon that is alcohol xx

TheEnd

I don't think it's you're fault, that they drank but I don't think you should support their drinking by drinking with them.

In the end, it really is up to them to make that decision, you can't make them drink or not drink for that matter.

I mean if I knew someone had to be on a strict diet, would I follow that diet as well?? Probably not, but if I knew they were struggling with this issue and it was a life or death situation, I probably would at least make some changes in my behavior to make things easier for them. Maybe........I won't really know until I'm in that situation.

LaFemme

Many alcoholics are involved with people who enable them. I think this is why it is so important for the non-alcoholic to deal with recovery as well as the alcoholic...both people are involved.

I did not have an enabler, but I have seen it first hand in my family.

CarolD

Remember the 3 C's of Alanon.....

smacked

No one ever had the power to make me drink, or get me to quit.