Fed up with family drinking...
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There was once something said about accepting the things we can not change. Changing the things we can. And the wisdom to know the difference.
I believe this might be a situation where setting an example is the best way.
I like Carols suggestion about starting your own tradition. You could have your own get togethers with no booze. If they think that might be too boring, well,you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink it. I bet some would come.
I think this is something we alcoholics all go through when we quit. Things we never gave a whole lot of thought about or ignored become new problems.
Hang in there it's just another thing to get used to.
Fred
I believe this might be a situation where setting an example is the best way.
I like Carols suggestion about starting your own tradition. You could have your own get togethers with no booze. If they think that might be too boring, well,you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink it. I bet some would come.
I think this is something we alcoholics all go through when we quit. Things we never gave a whole lot of thought about or ignored become new problems.
Hang in there it's just another thing to get used to.
Fred
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End, I am not willing to completely cut my family off!! would you?? I realize I can't change their behaviour, but it hurts to see them this way......I don't remember the drinking being this out of control...it has gotten worse....and it makes the holidays a time of dread rather than a happy time.... Carol had a great idea, and I will try something new!
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Loves, I don't have any solutions..you know that!
The best I have figured out is to focus on and spend my time with the kids and to provide an out for myself...a hotel room etc.
and to do something else other than go to the things that I know ahead of time are bad news!
And that has meant abandoning some of the traditional gatherings that I wish could be alot more sane than they are..but rather than punishing myself...finding other ways to celebrate them...and including the kids when and where appropriate
Personally my sis isn't speaking to me right now..and I LIKE that! LOL
and it is because I got fed up with it all and spoke up about it..
whatever.
Now, if only my grown daughter wasn't included in the "in" group. ugh.
The best I have figured out is to focus on and spend my time with the kids and to provide an out for myself...a hotel room etc.
and to do something else other than go to the things that I know ahead of time are bad news!
And that has meant abandoning some of the traditional gatherings that I wish could be alot more sane than they are..but rather than punishing myself...finding other ways to celebrate them...and including the kids when and where appropriate
Personally my sis isn't speaking to me right now..and I LIKE that! LOL
and it is because I got fed up with it all and spoke up about it..
whatever.
Now, if only my grown daughter wasn't included in the "in" group. ugh.
Is your daughter speaking with you??
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nope....but she will in time...she is in those terrible "20's" LOL
I give her a free pass to rebel towards the MOTHER until she is 30!
this isn't the first time.....
we are both pretty stubborn.
what I don't like is that my sis buys her vacations to go with her and etc...
when she was 14 I couldn't convince her that sis shouldn't buy her those risque clothes either..KNIM??????
the current empasse with daughter isn't about drinking tho'
I give her a free pass to rebel towards the MOTHER until she is 30!
this isn't the first time.....
we are both pretty stubborn.
what I don't like is that my sis buys her vacations to go with her and etc...
when she was 14 I couldn't convince her that sis shouldn't buy her those risque clothes either..KNIM??????
the current empasse with daughter isn't about drinking tho'
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