soberbythesea

Thanks you guys. This has all been very helpful. I think for now, I am just going to keep trying to stay away from drinking situations, so hopefully it won't come up too often. When I get to the point where i'm being asked about it more often, I'll start admitting to people that I've quit permanently, and probably say something truthful like that it's better for my general health, or helps me sleep better. Those may not be the primary reasons why I quit initially, but they aren't lies. I'm not much of a lying type (can't actually remember the last time I told one deliberately) and would much rather state a partial truth, as some of you suggested.

lildawg

I understand the not lying. My mom is like that.

You may find, as you get more sober time, your desire to go to events where drinking is the focus wanes. Mine sure did.

There's a local microbrew around here that has an open house every Saturday. Participants can sample pretty much all the beer they want by purchasing a souvenir mug. My husband, the beer maker, loves to go. In my early sobriety, I'd go and just hang out. Now that I've got some sober time in, hanging out and watching those people get drunk and bray is absolutely what I don't want to do. It's not that I want to drink some of the beer; I'd just rather be doing other, more fun, stuff.

Anyway, point is: The problem may solve itself.

sunrise1

Throw it back in their court: "Why do you ask?"

The average person will not be able to cross that bridge to ask again.

julez

Say it gives you migraines. Or, do what I do. Say "My body cant metabolize it the way it used to, and I'm tired of feeling sick in the morning. My days are too busy for that" Entirely true, but not too revealing for the private me.

Itsmytime

I am sticking to I have given it up along with sugar, white flour etc...ppl are more accepting of the weight issues of giving it up at first, then after awhile they won't even bother to ask.

Times where it's ppl who don't really know me I will be the DD wherever we go.

Peta

I simply said

I've made the decision to not drink anymore