tomorrow I'm quitting...
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Join Date: Dec 2009
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tomorrow I'm quitting...
12 beers a day for the past 2 years. I'm miserable. I've quit for a day or two here and there, but I'm exhausted with it all.
and I've put this same note up on SR at least 3 times. I'm so tired of failing.
not much to add really - just could use some support.
thanks!!
and I've put this same note up on SR at least 3 times. I'm so tired of failing.
not much to add really - just could use some support.
thanks!!
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I did the quitting thing many times until I've made it for two years now.
For me it was literally deciding that I was really and truly done this time.
I quit drinking for a few days first this time because I had a very bad experience one night and then during those few days I thought very hard about whether I was going to quit for some amount of time or quit, period. I thought about what I get out of drinking and what it costs me in all way (that I could think of at the time....now I've seen even more costs) I gave myself 7 to 10 days sober to make that decision and I'm glad I did.
Not here to tell you it's been easy all along but I am here to tell you that it's been sooooooooooooo worth it.
It does get easier over time.
Give yourself the best opportunity for you.
Be honest here and you will find help.
For me it was literally deciding that I was really and truly done this time.
I quit drinking for a few days first this time because I had a very bad experience one night and then during those few days I thought very hard about whether I was going to quit for some amount of time or quit, period. I thought about what I get out of drinking and what it costs me in all way (that I could think of at the time....now I've seen even more costs) I gave myself 7 to 10 days sober to make that decision and I'm glad I did.
Not here to tell you it's been easy all along but I am here to tell you that it's been sooooooooooooo worth it.
It does get easier over time.
Give yourself the best opportunity for you.
Be honest here and you will find help.
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Join Date: May 2010
Location: West Bloomfield, MI
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You may not want to hear it Tex but if your plans for "tomorrow" are no different than any of the past times you quit, unsuccessfully..... I wouldn't expect any different results than the last time. If just deciding THIS IS IT works for you, it would have worked already.
Maybe it's time to try something different? er....try it different tomorrow I mean.
Maybe it's time to try something different? er....try it different tomorrow I mean.
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Texas
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I'm with the others, today is the day. Everybody here has had the I'll quit tomorrow blues, yourself included. I was the same, 12-20 beers a day for years. The final few months especially I just KEPT on going..ok, a six pack tonight to calm me down, then none tomorrow. I finally said screw this, dumped out the last 5 of my 6 pack (as I yelled and cussed at the cans) one night and haven't had any in almost 30 days. It's been rough but boy do I feel better and I don't miss the damned humiliating mornings. Best wishes to you.
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I think it's OK to set your quit date as tomorrow, but you have to have a plan for tomorrow. Not just saying you'll quit. Because I'm with the others, sooo many times, I woke up in the morning saying "I won't drink today" and by nighttime it was "screw it, I need this..."
What will you do differently tomorrow? How will you set yourself up to succeed this time?
What will you do differently tomorrow? How will you set yourself up to succeed this time?
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
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Welcome back to SR.....
Please talk with your doctor about how to best de tox.
It's really risky to do on your own.
Glad to know you are seeking sobriety
and Yes! you too can win over alcohol!
Please talk with your doctor about how to best de tox.
It's really risky to do on your own.
Glad to know you are seeking sobriety
and Yes! you too can win over alcohol!
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Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: southern U.S.
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Originally Posted by CarolD 
Welcome back to SR.....
Please talk with your doctor about how to best de tox.
It's really risky to do on your own.
Glad to know you are seeking sobriety
and Yes! you too can win over alcohol!
Please talk with your doctor about how to best de tox.
It's really risky to do on your own.
Glad to know you are seeking sobriety
and Yes! you too can win over alcohol!
I agree with Carol.
12 beers a day for the past two years... that's more than enough to make quitting on your own dangerous.
I would not advise putting your body through such stress--- going cold turkey after your body has been expecting 12 drinks every day.
I tapered down to just a few drinks a night before I quit (took many, many tries before I got the hang of tapering down). Also tried detox once.
Best of luck to you, however you go about it.
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Join Date: May 2010
Location: West Bloomfield, MI
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Hey Tex. Congrats.
You said you've quit for a couple days, here and there, in the past. Is that what you're shooting for this time or are you hoping to quit all together?
You said you've quit for a couple days, here and there, in the past. Is that what you're shooting for this time or are you hoping to quit all together?
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my intention is to quit for 90 days. I'm not saying that I then intend to dive right back in, but I want to use it as a time to cleanse, to have the sobriety to further address my issues, and take it from there. FOREVER seems impossible, so I'm just trying to give myself an achievable goal.
not sure if that's the best way to tackle things, but that's the mission for now.
not sure if that's the best way to tackle things, but that's the mission for now.
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Good luck with your 90 days.
My solution to the "forever seems impossible" problem is to take it one day at a time, really and truly. While I personally do intend never to drink again, I don't allow myself to think about issues now like how hard New Year's is going to be, or Christmas or even the next night out with my friends (which probably won't be for a good long while.) Instead I just tell myself that all I ever really need to remember is to stay sober today. Tomorrow turns into today and I only think about that when it comes and never before.
My solution to the "forever seems impossible" problem is to take it one day at a time, really and truly. While I personally do intend never to drink again, I don't allow myself to think about issues now like how hard New Year's is going to be, or Christmas or even the next night out with my friends (which probably won't be for a good long while.) Instead I just tell myself that all I ever really need to remember is to stay sober today. Tomorrow turns into today and I only think about that when it comes and never before.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
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BT.....
There is a concept...it takes 90 days to change a
bad habit into a good one.
This came from behavior specialist in treatment centers.
Tho it's not "by the book" AA....many of our SR
members found that 90 AA meetings in 90 days beneficial.
Hope you will consider that too...
There is a concept...it takes 90 days to change a
bad habit into a good one.
This came from behavior specialist in treatment centers.
Tho it's not "by the book" AA....many of our SR
members found that 90 AA meetings in 90 days beneficial.
Hope you will consider that too...
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whew - day one down.
I did allright - no overwhelming urges. My only complaint was that I went to bed at 930 and woke up around 1030 completely soaked. The sheets were wet, pillow, everything. so I literally had to towel off, take a shower, and lay back down. I read a book for a while and finally went back to sleep. Strung together a few good hours.
Feeling pretty good - a little jumpy, but I'll survive.
I will say that my wife touched my face at about 1130, I opened my eyes, and as we both laid in bed she whispered "I like you sober." With that, she closed her eyes and fell asleep. If that's not motivation, I don't know what is.
I did allright - no overwhelming urges. My only complaint was that I went to bed at 930 and woke up around 1030 completely soaked. The sheets were wet, pillow, everything. so I literally had to towel off, take a shower, and lay back down. I read a book for a while and finally went back to sleep. Strung together a few good hours.
Feeling pretty good - a little jumpy, but I'll survive.
I will say that my wife touched my face at about 1130, I opened my eyes, and as we both laid in bed she whispered "I like you sober." With that, she closed her eyes and fell asleep. If that's not motivation, I don't know what is.
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