onesidezero512

Man I don't have any friends so I don't have anyone to talk to... I need someone to help me right now... I have been drinking more lately because it has been making me feel better and I don't have anyone in my life anymore!! I lost it all!! Im losing myself right now battling life.... I don't want to be lonely no more... Or drink as much as I have been! I don't have friends!

SASA

Hi, I know how you feel. I moved from place to place in my life, lifing in different cities, dependent on my career. I had always to start making new friends, easisest way was to go to a bar or pub and drink. When I drink I am cooler, its easier tot alk to people. After my 3rd move within 3 years I realized that the friends I hung out with only were there because of the booz not because of me. So I started drinking alone at home. When I felt lonly I drunk.... However I came to realize onze you are alone and drinking it makes no difference. The alcohol does not worktworked before, its a visious cycle, you are depressed, you are gripping for the bottle to get even more depressed. Then I found this site and was able to pull me out. The good thing is the people here do not judge, encourage you and are here to help, we understand you and especially listen. You will find many friends if you stick around, and the beautiful thing is, no matter where you are if you have internet you can reach out to the community...

suki44883

I'm sorry to hear you are feeling so lonely. SR is a great place for support, but have you considered trying AA? You will find there people who understand exactly what you are going through, along with tremendous support. You will also make friends who don't drink and find activities that you can enjoy. Why not give it a try? It certainly can't hurt.

DayWalker

Drinking is not making you feel better, it is what is pushing you farther away from people. The more you drink the more you feel sorry for yourself and isolate from other people, that's the same way I did when I was drinking.

Make a decision today for yourself to change this self destructive habit. You can find many friends in AA as well as here at SR. Have you tried AA or if AA isn't your thing have you tried talking to a counselor/doctor about your depression?

Steve

Petewill

sorry you are feeling so down.. Just getting out of this same exact feeling. The drinking will give you no different results, just the same lonliness and self-pity. try some meetings, thjere are some nice people there.

CarolD

Please consider beginning a program for your sober future.

When I started going to Alcoholics Anonymous I found so
many new friends who supported my efforts to be sober.
It's a good way to quit drinking and drinking is a
risky behavior for people.

Keep posting...we do care....

Kjell

I'm sorry you are lonely. Do you want to stop drinking for good?

sunrise1

I agree with the others... glad you made it here because many of us have been exactly where you are right now. I would also suggest AA. I have found some incredible people I can call any hour of the night or day... go get coffee with... whatever.

In any case, keep on posting-

flavinho

One of the reasons of my etilic rampant is my misanthropic behavior, I'm not really attached to friends or even family, I can be chatty and polite though, but just when regarding obligations and job matters. The alcohol was my best friend, I couuld really achieve a false and always quick happiness. I'm getting old and never had a girlfriend, I never had any will to share my life with women, the only women I know are the hookers and my sister, I must be a cold sob. The alchol abuse was by far the most stupid thing I ever did. So buddy, quit drinking while you still can.

fakesmiles

Oneside - the alcohol tricks you into making you feel better. Actually, it is making you depressed. One causes the other. Once you can leave the alcohol, your mind and body have to find other ways to feel better. One of them is by finding friends here. We can't have a friend in alcohol. It's just a nasty game it plays on you.

j0hn0than1964

I fully understand where you are at and why. I would spend all my time alone and isolated and at the time I too thought it felt better. However the rub was that I really had no real comparative, my own best thinking was not open or honest enough to help me understand how poorly I really was. It was not until I started spending time at meetings and hearing others who sounded just like me now matter who they were. It began to make sense, "I don't have live like this anymore" that is how it started.

JT

GRACIE01

drinking always made me feel depressed and lonley the day after so I drank more. when i stopped i feel so much better. not depressed, feel like i can actually make some friends and live life. also i can see much better,,,,go to AA if you can, its great, there is a meeting all the time almost, and keep posting. Take care of you You are important

fakesmiles

Gracie is so right! Once you work through the depression from not drinking, you do see clearer and the sadness lifts. Honest!