My wife had a stillborn.. CCCCCCRUSHED
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Hey,
I am so sorry Im... I know you are devastated. My best friend went through this, and it was so hard. I wish I could strengthen you somehow... but I will call on all that I know to do it for me.
Know that we are all pulling for you - and your wife. She really needs you now. So glad you are sober, so you can be there for her. Nurture yourself too dude, this is just as hard for you. I know how much you wanted this... but we know we aren't in control of when...
Not about anything.
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Lori
I am so sorry Im... I know you are devastated. My best friend went through this, and it was so hard. I wish I could strengthen you somehow... but I will call on all that I know to do it for me.
Know that we are all pulling for you - and your wife. She really needs you now. So glad you are sober, so you can be there for her. Nurture yourself too dude, this is just as hard for you. I know how much you wanted this... but we know we aren't in control of when...
Not about anything.
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Lori
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The stuff you've shared on this forum has been such a big help for me and at a time like this I wish there is something I could do for you. I can't take you out for a beer of course but I'll make sure to say a special prayer for you and your partner tonight.
Take care man
Take care man
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IRTQ - I am so sorry, man. Hang in there for her and for yourself.
I'm not particularly religious or spiritual, and I know that serenity prayer can seem a bit over-used in the recovery/AA world, but I have found myself drawing a lot of solace and strength from it:
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
Let us know if there is anything we can do.
I'm not particularly religious or spiritual, and I know that serenity prayer can seem a bit over-used in the recovery/AA world, but I have found myself drawing a lot of solace and strength from it:
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
Let us know if there is anything we can do.
I cannot begin to say how sorry i am for the loss of your baby! I experienced this myself, also perfect at week 20, baby carried on until it was due, real battle though, on due date, was told another week, one week to late, i had a stillborn boy, just perfect. Was named Timothy, my firstborn. I am also fairly convinced he would have been paralysed. We were devastated, my H also remained sober, we grieved. 6 months later I conceived again, gave birth to a beautiful girl, and then again, both at 37 weeks, so now I have two gorgeous girls. In life, we have to know, some babies are not meant to be, earth bound. HP needs babies in heaven, these are ''heaven's baby angels'' who watch over us. I know its hard now, but there is an even greater blessing awaiting you two, hold onto each other and be strong! This will make you stronger than ever. Take all the time to Grieve and heal. Your precious child is safe with the heavenly FATHER now. love and hugs xxx - ''The tears... streamed down, and I let them flow as freely as they would, making of them a pillow for my heart. On them it rested.'' Augustine
Please be strong, this is going to be so, so hard for your wife especially, inducing takes a long time and the giving birth is really traumatic, perhaps an epidural will be a good option. I am praying for you both! I know this sounds odd, but maybe try to take a photo of the baby, 10 years later, I celebrate Timothy's birthday every year, but, never took a pic, I would have so liked to have one now. Hugs xxx
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