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Old 06-24-2010, 03:56 PM
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Old 06-24-2010, 04:41 PM
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your wife. I am so sorry.
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Old 06-24-2010, 05:31 PM
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That is so cruel to make her deliver a still born. Know I am thinking of u both. You are not alone.
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Old 06-24-2010, 06:10 PM
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Hey,

I am so sorry Im... I know you are devastated. My best friend went through this, and it was so hard. I wish I could strengthen you somehow... but I will call on all that I know to do it for me.

Know that we are all pulling for you - and your wife. She really needs you now. So glad you are sober, so you can be there for her. Nurture yourself too dude, this is just as hard for you. I know how much you wanted this... but we know we aren't in control of when...
Not about anything.

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Old 06-24-2010, 06:36 PM
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Oh God

I'm soo sorry - friend. My you and your wifes hear theal quickly.
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Old 06-24-2010, 06:42 PM
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I am so sorry for the loss of your baby. Life does not seem fair at times. You and your wife are in my prayers.
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Old 06-24-2010, 06:42 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear that. Prayers.
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Old 06-24-2010, 06:43 PM
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This happened to my Mother many years ago. You are in our thoughts and prayers!!!
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Old 06-24-2010, 06:53 PM
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The stuff you've shared on this forum has been such a big help for me and at a time like this I wish there is something I could do for you. I can't take you out for a beer of course but I'll make sure to say a special prayer for you and your partner tonight.

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Old 06-24-2010, 06:58 PM
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Thank you everybody for your support. We had it rescheduled for tomorrow morning. It was my wife's decision to do the delivery as opposed to the abortion type method..... Thanks again
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Old 06-24-2010, 08:13 PM
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IRTQ - I am so sorry, man. Hang in there for her and for yourself.

I'm not particularly religious or spiritual, and I know that serenity prayer can seem a bit over-used in the recovery/AA world, but I have found myself drawing a lot of solace and strength from it:

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

Let us know if there is anything we can do.
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Old 06-24-2010, 09:47 PM
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I am sorry Ready. Prayers to you and your family.
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Old 06-25-2010, 03:46 AM
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I am truly sorry. Sending you and your family strength and healing.
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Old 06-25-2010, 04:20 AM
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Originally Posted by ImReadyToQuit View Post
The baby was perfect last week at 19 weeks. Perfect heart beat.. We goto the 20 week ultrasound only to find out the baby died.. No heartbeat, nothing...

Would have been our first child...

I will remain sober and keep God close.
I cannot begin to say how sorry i am for the loss of your baby! I experienced this myself, also perfect at week 20, baby carried on until it was due, real battle though, on due date, was told another week, one week to late, i had a stillborn boy, just perfect. Was named Timothy, my firstborn. I am also fairly convinced he would have been paralysed. We were devastated, my H also remained sober, we grieved. 6 months later I conceived again, gave birth to a beautiful girl, and then again, both at 37 weeks, so now I have two gorgeous girls. In life, we have to know, some babies are not meant to be, earth bound. HP needs babies in heaven, these are ''heaven's baby angels'' who watch over us. I know its hard now, but there is an even greater blessing awaiting you two, hold onto each other and be strong! This will make you stronger than ever. Take all the time to Grieve and heal. Your precious child is safe with the heavenly FATHER now. love and hugs xxx - ''The tears... streamed down, and I let them flow as freely as they would, making of them a pillow for my heart. On them it rested.'' Augustine
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Old 06-25-2010, 04:34 AM
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This is gonna be hard, we have to goto the hospital shortly and they are going to induce labor. I'm terrified.. Ughhhhhhhhhh
Please be strong, this is going to be so, so hard for your wife especially, inducing takes a long time and the giving birth is really traumatic, perhaps an epidural will be a good option. I am praying for you both! I know this sounds odd, but maybe try to take a photo of the baby, 10 years later, I celebrate Timothy's birthday every year, but, never took a pic, I would have so liked to have one now. Hugs xxx
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Old 06-25-2010, 04:40 AM
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I am so very sorry for the loss of your baby. Will keep you and your wife in my thoughts.
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Old 06-25-2010, 03:38 PM
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Oh ImReady,
Your post breaks my heart. You and your wife are in my prayers today.
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Old 06-25-2010, 03:43 PM
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Still praying for you and keeping you in my thoughts <3

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Old 06-25-2010, 03:55 PM
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I'm so very sorry. My thoughts are with you and your wife.
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Old 06-25-2010, 04:10 PM
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A prayer and healing thoughts going for you right now, IMTQ. So very hard, I know. So so sorry.
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