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Old 10-10-2009, 02:41 PM
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Havent had a drink since June 1 09 was doing good, until my sweet Mom died a week ago. I have resisted the urge to drink away the pain, oh God such pain!! In the past I wouldve flown to the store ASAP and start a binge lasting till $ ran out but Ive alienated too many people---rest of family---and I just didnt want to start that cycle up again. I know Id wind up in the hosp for sure. Nothing to do but sit here with this unrelenting powerful hurt, aloneness, shock. It would be too easy the store is right up the street. If only to drown these feelings. Im being pulled apart here .
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Old 10-10-2009, 02:47 PM
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Dingleberry - I am so sorry for your loss. It must be very difficult for you, but just remember that drinking doesn't help you grieve or deal with the pain - all it does is postpone the pain and make other things worse in the process.

You are not alone. Focus on not drinking today. Remember how good it feels to not drink.

Then, read SR, read the Big Book, call the AA hotline, go to an AA meeting, go out for a run -- do anything and everything you can to not drink today.

Keep writing posts. You will be suppported.
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Old 10-10-2009, 04:02 PM
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I m also sorry for your loss and agree that drinking will only make things worse tomorrow. Isn't it a blessing that your mum got to see you sober? She would not want you to stop now.:praying
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Old 10-10-2009, 04:34 PM
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my heart goes out to you my friend

its been a hard three months for me also

i stopped drinking on the 3rd of june 09

just in time for the things that have happened to me and my loved ones i would o been dead if i had not stopped drinking

maybe a bit of intervention from the guy upstairs

a ood friend and the guys from sr have helped me get through and i'm sure they can help you too
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Old 10-10-2009, 05:06 PM
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I am so sorry to hear that your Mother has passed on. Please know that she is now completely pain free & with past family & friends that have passed and that you will be reunited on the day of your passing (my belief).

Please stay sober in honor of your mother, its the last thing she would want you to do because of her passing. I lost my mother years ago & still have moments of weakness when I think of her, I do my best to switch gears & think of all of the fond memories I have of her.

Keep yourself busy & spend time with family/friends and be careful not to alienate yourself.

Take care, my best wishes are with you & your family. Your Mother is still with you in spirit & watching over you.

Here is a song that I sometimes listen to when I am hurt, hope it helps you in some way.

Take Care,

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Old 10-10-2009, 06:02 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss. Please stick close to SR.
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Old 10-10-2009, 07:11 PM
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We can get thru this together and help to keep each other sober.
Stay in touch with the God of your understanding and your sponsor.
Feel free to pm me anytime if you feel the need to talk to someone.
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Old 10-10-2009, 07:23 PM
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I too am sorry for the loss of your mother. And yes, drinking would just make it worse. Stay sober and that will be one less pain you'll have to feel.

(((hugs)))
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Old 10-10-2009, 07:30 PM
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My prayers are with you, too. Be strong. She would want you to be well and sober.
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Old 10-11-2009, 02:34 AM
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My sincerest condolances on yor loss. Prayers and good wishes to you x
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Old 10-11-2009, 05:20 AM
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When my Mother died I found reading Psalms 23 comforting

I'm sending you prayers for peace
Your Mothers love is still around you
The spirit is there.....always.
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Old 10-11-2009, 10:44 PM
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So sorry to hear of your loss.

Stay strong. Your mother would undoubtedly want you to.

Stay sober for her.
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