sunrise1

Well, last night, despite warnings, it happened to me. I thought the bartender knew me well enough for me to order a "virgin rum and diet"... and just a sip told me that he is lacking in the sense of humor dept!!! I quickly pushed it towards hubby and said that I had really wanted a diet... was just trying to be funny and all... anyway, joke's on me but I am fine. Although the taste was grand, I didn't miss it or obsess about it all night.

CarolD had made mention of always smelling my drinks- - and that even crossed my mind before I sipped- but I thought, "oh for sure, it's the same thing I've been ordering for months"... WRONG. I won't make that mistake again!

smacked

When I quit drinking, I also quit going to bars.. I have no reason to hang out in that environment anymore.

Be careful out there

NewMe11109

Well done sunrise!

Once I worked on the root causes of my alcoholism, someone tricking me into taking a sip did not trigger my cravings. It was only if my mind decided I was "ok to drink" that I truly relapsed. So, your response is powerful - and you should be thrilled with how you responded - a true sign of someone who is doing great in recovery.

But yes, I too do a double check every time the bartender gives me a drink. They sometimes get busy and just forget.

I can learn a lot from you. Thanks!

CarolD

Like you .... I did work around alcohol for awhile in early sobriety.
That's how I knew to pass along "Smell before you sip" ....

No ... you need not re start your sobriety date.
Yes ... I'm glad you shared on your continuing progress.

Let's both enjoy another day of winning over alcohol

baldjim

i dont want to drink so i dont drink simples

i dont get tempted to drink if i'm out in pubs but drunks really annoy me

i think i'm so glad i'm not like that any more

if you dont want to drink ...just dont drink

the answer is so very simple even if it is hard to do (borrowed from an sr geniuse)

AlwaysGrowing

18 years later if I am at some event and ask the bartender for a coke, I ALWAYS watch to make sure it is straight coke. Where there is a bar there is noise.....

NewBeginning010

I have never heard of a "virgin rum & diet" is that a common way to order a virgin rum & coke... actually didn't you just want a coke? Sorry I am confused lol maybe the bartender was too

smacked

LOL good point! That definitely would have caused some confusion to me in my bartending days! I think however that the OP meant it as a joke or something... might not wanna do that one again. Sorry if I'm wrong on assuming that!

sunrise1

I've been playing at this particular place for months and months... several months ago my bar bill dropped to zero when I started only ordering diets. I thought it would be funny- - a virgin rum and diet being just a diet. Ah well, maybe not so funny.

In the end, it was no big deal; it was the tiniest of sips and I know my sobriety date is intact. I wasn't obsessed for the rest of the night, and all was ok.

TheSunAlsoRises

Great to hear you didn't start obsessing about it. That's fantastic.

McGowdog

My experience too. And if I go to that bar, I take responsibility for anything I drink or eat while I'm there. Doesn't have to be at a bar either.

Virgin rum and diet? How bout' just ordering a Roy Rogers or something? Maybe a Shirley Temple? Do they make a diet shirley temple?

tigers13

Way to go! Be proud of yourself! You done good!