Was I really like that??
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Was I really like that??
That's the question I found myself asking this past weekend. Just returned back home from another fishing trip over this weekend with a group of buddies.I knew they would be hitting the local small town bar and I would just have to be strong since I'm 38 days sober and tell them go ahead and have fun but I would be stayin' at the motel. And if anyone asked me "why" I would just flat out tell them because I don't drink anymore because I'm a recovering alcoholic and that's all they need to know.
Well turns out one of the guys in the group whom I had not meet till this trip stoped drinking himself about a year ago because his dad was a huge alcoholic and still is, so this guy had drank for about 8 yrs and finally said to himself he didnt want to turn out like his dad so he stopped a year ago. So he and I actully ended up stayin at the motel havin a good time watching stupid old movie and talking about our old drinking days/recovery. It was a nice suprise to say the least.
Anyway...about 1 am the rest of the group comes back and I swear, I couldn't believe that I use to be like that. They way they were talking about the stupidest S***....loud as they could be with people sleeping in the room next door at 1am, laughing at things that were not even in the least bit funny, then the next morning getting up LATE to go fishing and being flat out hing over all day today. It's funny but now I got home a few hrs ago and found myself thinking....was I really like that??? sad thing is, yeah I was. But now I can say...this time I wasn't
Steve
Well turns out one of the guys in the group whom I had not meet till this trip stoped drinking himself about a year ago because his dad was a huge alcoholic and still is, so this guy had drank for about 8 yrs and finally said to himself he didnt want to turn out like his dad so he stopped a year ago. So he and I actully ended up stayin at the motel havin a good time watching stupid old movie and talking about our old drinking days/recovery. It was a nice suprise to say the least.
Anyway...about 1 am the rest of the group comes back and I swear, I couldn't believe that I use to be like that. They way they were talking about the stupidest S***....loud as they could be with people sleeping in the room next door at 1am, laughing at things that were not even in the least bit funny, then the next morning getting up LATE to go fishing and being flat out hing over all day today. It's funny but now I got home a few hrs ago and found myself thinking....was I really like that??? sad thing is, yeah I was. But now I can say...this time I wasn't
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Good job DayWalker...isn't it weird how people can be introduced into our lives without even knowing that we needed them? Totally cool.
Yeah, I think we all look back and wonder "how on earth could I have been that stupid"? We just couldn't see it at the time. Way to go staying sober when put in the situation of being around a lot of stupid drunks!!
Yeah, I think we all look back and wonder "how on earth could I have been that stupid"? We just couldn't see it at the time. Way to go staying sober when put in the situation of being around a lot of stupid drunks!!
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Man I can relate to that. I'm sure I (we) ruined a lot of other peoples camping trips. Nobody got any sleep. The idea was (this is a camping trip, everybody is supposed to get fallin down drunk). Too late now, but I feel sorry for the people around that didn't come to drink. But I feel we were more the norm than the exception. Too bad it's like that.
But to sum it up. Yea I was really like that.
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But to sum it up. Yea I was really like that.
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Man I can relate to that. I'm sure I (we) ruined a lot of other peoples camping trips. Nobody got any sleep. The idea was (this is a camping trip, everybody is supposed to get fallin down drunk). Too late now, but I feel sorry for the people around that didn't come to drink. But I feel we were more the norm than the exception. Too bad it's like that.
But to sum it up. Yea I was really like that.
Fred
But to sum it up. Yea I was really like that.
Fred
Funny how the mind can change from one thought to the next so fast!
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When I look back at fishing, camping, canoe and ski trips in which drinking took center stage, I think about how I squandered, yes squandered, experiences that others would have really enjoyed... Not that I didn't enjoy them, but how I devalued them, made them less than they were.... How I've been wasted camping on the banks of rivers through beautiful canyons, or on a remote wilderness lake or along a mountainside...
When I am fortunate enough to go on trips like this now... if I get any of the self pity pangs of early to middle sobriety, I remind myself of why I am there, and ask myself.... why would I want to diminish this experience one bit... I am grateful, not jealous...
Good topic Steve!
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When I am fortunate enough to go on trips like this now... if I get any of the self pity pangs of early to middle sobriety, I remind myself of why I am there, and ask myself.... why would I want to diminish this experience one bit... I am grateful, not jealous...
Good topic Steve!
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I used to HAVE to drink in order to play golf on the weekends. If I didn't the shaking would be too much. Anyways...it used to be that I would start drinkin at home in the morning, to settle the nerves...drink all day at the course, then drink at the golf course bar after the round. Now....I am sober, and when I see the same people I used to drink with after the round..I am happy to be sober.
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When I was married to a charter boat Captain
most of the small boats that needed assistance/tows
were full of drinkers.
They went out ill prepared for emergencies ...often not
knowing the water or rules for safe boating.
The more alcohol...the less responsible.
Not only stupid ...but really dangerous behaviors...
Even when I was a drinker....
I made a point of being sober
before and during any boating trips.
The worse mistake I ever made on a boat?
I got married on one......
Thanks for sharing Steve....
I'm glad you had a sober guy along.
most of the small boats that needed assistance/tows
were full of drinkers.
They went out ill prepared for emergencies ...often not
knowing the water or rules for safe boating.
The more alcohol...the less responsible.
Not only stupid ...but really dangerous behaviors...
Even when I was a drinker....
I made a point of being sober
before and during any boating trips.
The worse mistake I ever made on a boat?
I got married on one......
Thanks for sharing Steve....
I'm glad you had a sober guy along.
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Might be a God thing you got to spend time with someone not drinking!!!!
I don't like having to spend long periods of time with drunk people. Nothing worse then to be around someone that, drinks like I used to.
You've found out, you can go fishing and enjoy yourself with a drink
We came to believe, all of our activites had to have alcohol. I can do anything there is to do without drinking and have a great time today
I don't like having to spend long periods of time with drunk people. Nothing worse then to be around someone that, drinks like I used to.
You've found out, you can go fishing and enjoy yourself with a drink
We came to believe, all of our activites had to have alcohol. I can do anything there is to do without drinking and have a great time today Member
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Hey daywalker great thread. I recently was around my first group of drunks for the evening. I waited 4 months, congrats on your fortitude. Everyone started drinking and got tipsy... joking around and all... the thing is I was right there and had been all evening. I DONT need a drink to enjoy myself anymore. Its fantastic. I didn't get any cravings, but once or twice I thought about it (of course how couldn't I)
Then of course everyone went over the edge. Thinking they had offended this person or that etc etc... just stupid stupid nonsense. With a clear head it all seemed so childish. I too though, was I really like that? The truth is I was probably worse... At least these people had started at night... I would have been drinking since I woke up.
Fantastic you meet someone else in recovery. Defiantly someone looking out for you. Take it easy man and have a great day of recovery.
Then of course everyone went over the edge. Thinking they had offended this person or that etc etc... just stupid stupid nonsense. With a clear head it all seemed so childish. I too though, was I really like that? The truth is I was probably worse... At least these people had started at night... I would have been drinking since I woke up.
Fantastic you meet someone else in recovery. Defiantly someone looking out for you. Take it easy man and have a great day of recovery.
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That's SO awesome about the dude that wanted to stay back and watch movies with you!!!
I think companionship with the right kinds of people is SO important..
I've lately been trying to surround myself with non-drinkers...
It's wonderful to find out that it's possible to have FUN without being hammered.
I think companionship with the right kinds of people is SO important..
I've lately been trying to surround myself with non-drinkers...
It's wonderful to find out that it's possible to have FUN without being hammered.
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This is such an excellent thread....because for so long I thought I had to be drunk to have a good time. It is so exciting to know that is simply not true.
Now....in social situations, I really do enjoy being the sober one. I'm proud of it.
Now....in social situations, I really do enjoy being the sober one. I'm proud of it.
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I have a video of me absolutely pickle-faced about twenty years ago.
I arm wrestle two guys, make out with two women, one of who is I think around 65 at the time, and get in a verbal dispute with a guy followed by a fist fight (over the arm wrestling)
This is in a public place with 100's of people in attendance and the video was widely and professionally distributed (the fact I was in it is a long story but I offended the producer so he edited it to make sure I have my 15 seconds of fame as revenge)
I watch it every few years when I begin to remember myself as James Bond in Casino Royale during my drinking days
I arm wrestle two guys, make out with two women, one of who is I think around 65 at the time, and get in a verbal dispute with a guy followed by a fist fight (over the arm wrestling)
This is in a public place with 100's of people in attendance and the video was widely and professionally distributed (the fact I was in it is a long story but I offended the producer so he edited it to make sure I have my 15 seconds of fame as revenge)
I watch it every few years when I begin to remember myself as James Bond in Casino Royale during my drinking days
Yea!!!
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