Socializing Again
 

Where do I start, there is some music on at night club near where I live and I want too go but Im afraid that I am going too be the only one there not drinking, I feel like Im just gonna be twiddling my thumbs.

Im 1 month and nearly 3 weeks sober. I have been staying in loads and I am getting bored need too go out and do stuff Ive been fishing and I have been in a few pubs and not drank just drank orange juice and lemonade. I just aint been going out too socialize only with my flat mates and thats in the flat.

If I go, I dont want too drink but its gonna be hard and annoying. Im thinking about not going but it would be a good night but then if I start drinking I dont know what will happen. But I want too socialize and the past 11 years Ive been socializing while using drink, because Im introvert and drink makes me extrovert so I can talk and relax etc and feel at ease. But I dont want too get back in the same state I was in hospital etc. I have low self confidence so its really a tough thing for me socializing again.

i know exactly how you feel my friend

a friend who live a few houses down from us sister died suddenly

i went to the wake afterwards and every one was pizzed

but to be honest i looked at them all and was so glad i was not drinking

mates sneaking off to do coke in the tiolets etc

talking crap,being boring,threatening to kill each other

i had a great time ,for every person who says that you are boring now you are sober i bet there is 50 who wish they could stop drinking

well done to you :c009::c009:

Hey, Tripp.

I have almost 4 months and I'm still avoiding situations with alcohol. I need to make sure I'm strong enough before I get around people drinking again.

Whenever I'm strong enough I know I won't care if I'm the only one not drinking. I've learned that I don't have to drink to have a good time...I'm fun enough the way I am sober. Confidence in myself builds up by the day.

Congratulations on the sober time!

Hey man, this is a very good topic and one which I think people need more advice/feedback on, especially at AA where no-one seems to want to acknowledge the subject. I think it is especially prominent topic being from the UK as pub/club culture is so prominent and being "bang-on-it" whilst out in a pub/club is such a time consuming activity in itself. So it may feel like you are "twiddling your thumbs" to a certain degree.

I am currently 17 days sober but am dead-set that I ain't drinking again "one day at a time" but I am 23 so obviously I wan't to be able to start going out socialising/pulling again and obviously there will be booze around. I am staying away at the moment as I want to get more grounded in my sobriety but obviously I will need to socialise eventually and so will have to face it.

One thing is for sure though, whatever happens, i ain't drinking that first drink.

One day at a time. ;)

I would personally avoid drinking situations for a while until you don't feel so "raw" in your recovery. In the past, I have quit drinking - only to give in to the temptation I saw around me.

Best of luck!

OWD

Hi there :c033:

Why don't you first try going out to a place that won't have booze? You can't be tempted if it ain't around you.

I would avoid the pubs or any place with booze. I had to learn this the hard way by thinking I could do it, but I ended up relapsing. I have made a point to get my socializing or "out time" done during the day. Sometimes I keep myself so busy during the day running errands, etc. that I am too tired to go out and watching a movie is gratifying. How about an AA meeting? Often times people go out afterwards.

Best wishes!