On the verge
Wozers, 5 meds? I'm on 3--one for blood pressure and 2 for depression.
You should be able to find a combo that doesn't numb you out.
It's amazing being on the right thing...negative thoughts are rare. I don't feel like I'm taking any medication. Many of the side effects I first felt, like upset stomach and sleepiness, are going away.
I just feel good. The good feelings are real...it's not like being high or drunk.
Hang in there, Clay. It is possible to find the right combination so you can move in a positive direction in life. Keep talking to your doctor and therapist.
The voice in my head that tells me I am worthless is my own, or the depression, I'm not sure some times. My parents always encouraged me and told me I was great. The problem is I've come to believe that voice and I feel stuck into believing it. You all say for me to believe in myself and that seems such a far-out concept, especially after getting fired today. I just don't know where to start. I can believe in my writing ability to an extent, but I'm starting to lose faith with every turned-down job offer. I guess I just have to be persistent and pretend I believe in myself. I originally wanted to kill myself after graduating in two weeks so I could feel I left the planet having accomplished something significant and my parents wouldn't feel so devastated that I left having been so close to graduating. But I suppose that's twisted logic because they'd be devastated I never gave my career a chance. So I guess suicide is out of the question. I deserve to suffer in misery for awhile for losing a simple job. I don't feel I deserve happiness for awhile.
Clay, I can tell you with 100% certainty that this is the depression talking. You've told me this before in a couple of PM's. You were right, and I'm telling you now this is your illness in control. Take back control. I cannot stress enough how important it is to find the right meds and right dosages. It makes a world of difference.
Not all better, getting better
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: The Beautiful Inner Banks of NC
Posts: 1,702
I don't know what to say, other than what I've already said. Just keep plugging away. I've been exactly where you are at, said and felt the same things. Sometimes it just gets better on it's own, sometimes meds need to be adjusted, sometimes it just takes time for the right things to happen.
I'm a Dallas Cowboys fan (no haters please!!) and when I feel like you are feeling now I think fo Emmitt Smith. When he'd be on a run play and there were like 3 guys in front of him and there was no chance of a play, he'd just put his head down, keep his feet moving and power into it. Sometimes he'd get stopped dead in his tracks, but more often he'd make a couple of yards where there were really none to be had and sometimes he'd break it out for a long run. That's what I try to do when I feel like the world is just blocking me. Put my head down and just try to keep my feet moving, one in front of the other, eventually it gets better.
As for your threripist, are you truly being truthful with them? Do you really let them know the feelings that are going on inside you? Do you follow the suggestions they are giving you to the best of your ability? If you can answer yes to all of these, I'd say you need to find another theripist, as this one isn't working out for you. That is neither your nor their fault. A therpits is a very personal relationship, and you need to feel completely comfortable with them. If they are not helping you, you are wasting your time and money and theirs too. Just some suggestions. Hang in there man, it really will get better. I know it doesn't seem that way now, but you can do this. Take care.
I'm a Dallas Cowboys fan (no haters please!!) and when I feel like you are feeling now I think fo Emmitt Smith. When he'd be on a run play and there were like 3 guys in front of him and there was no chance of a play, he'd just put his head down, keep his feet moving and power into it. Sometimes he'd get stopped dead in his tracks, but more often he'd make a couple of yards where there were really none to be had and sometimes he'd break it out for a long run. That's what I try to do when I feel like the world is just blocking me. Put my head down and just try to keep my feet moving, one in front of the other, eventually it gets better.
As for your threripist, are you truly being truthful with them? Do you really let them know the feelings that are going on inside you? Do you follow the suggestions they are giving you to the best of your ability? If you can answer yes to all of these, I'd say you need to find another theripist, as this one isn't working out for you. That is neither your nor their fault. A therpits is a very personal relationship, and you need to feel completely comfortable with them. If they are not helping you, you are wasting your time and money and theirs too. Just some suggestions. Hang in there man, it really will get better. I know it doesn't seem that way now, but you can do this. Take care.
Wozers, 5 meds? I'm on 3--one for blood pressure and 2 for depression.
You should be able to find a combo that doesn't numb you out.
It's amazing being on the right thing...negative thoughts are rare. I don't feel like I'm taking any medication. Many of the side effects I first felt, like upset stomach and sleepiness, are going away.
I just feel good. The good feelings are real...it's not like being high or drunk.
Hang in there, Clay. It is possible to find the right combination so you can move in a positive direction in life. Keep talking to your doctor and therapist.
You should be able to find a combo that doesn't numb you out.
It's amazing being on the right thing...negative thoughts are rare. I don't feel like I'm taking any medication. Many of the side effects I first felt, like upset stomach and sleepiness, are going away.
I just feel good. The good feelings are real...it's not like being high or drunk.
Hang in there, Clay. It is possible to find the right combination so you can move in a positive direction in life. Keep talking to your doctor and therapist.
And yes I'm being completely honest with my therapist about how I feel. She just asks me more questions and sometimes gets side-tracked. The only real suggestions she has given me is to say Hi to women I see when I'm out more, deep breathing exercises and we did some EMDR stuff for urges. Nothing to really help me with my depression and suicidal thoughts. But I see her this Friday and I'm going to be more forceful with her that I need more solutions. But I'm really considering another therapist, maybe a DBT therapist. Maybe I'm just expecting too much from my therapist. My last therapist was so kick-ass but she had to let me go because she wasn't trained to treat addictions.
I just feel like I have to go through all this pain so I can be happy later on and so I can appreciate the joyous moments more, though sometimes it doesn't seem like a worthy exchange.
you seem to be some better today -- i'm glad. and trying to come up with some solutions. i think it's good that you are thinking about being an active participant in your therapy and make some decisions on what to do. good luck on finding another person to help you if that's what your decision is.
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Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: The Beautiful Inner Banks of NC
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I've heard good things about DBT therpy, though I dont' personally have any experience with it. If your current theripist isn't working out, don't be afraid to find someone who can help you. This is your life you are messing with!! Might not hurt to look for a different psychitrist also, though I know they are often hard to find. Took me 2 months after I moved to find a new one, and another month to get in. But again, if it's not working for you, it might be worth it. Take care.
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Hi Clay. I wish I could get you sitting here with me for about one hour. I really feel like you need that. Someone just willing to sit and listen to what you have to say, and maybe share with you a little about how screwed up their live has been too. Maybe even some ways to get back to something like normal.
I guess we've all felt like you at some point or another. Some more and some less, but if your an alcoholic like me, then you feel like your situation is really the only one that matters. At least for today. I was hoping I could ask you a question. Clay, you seem to be saying that you are unhappy with yourself, and your abilities (or lack thereof), your sexuality, and pretty much your life in general, right? If these things are true, than perhaps a different approach is warranted?
Other people can change our "Moments in Life", but the only lasting changes in the "Direction of our Life" come through our own ACTIONS. It sounds to me like you're taking action now, and that's good. I think it's good that you recognize you aren't happy with your current situation. Your posting here says that you have some willingness to reach out at least to the degree that you can see the ideas of others that may give you some new direction. You recognize that you aren't comfortable in the field of your education so you can begin immediately to look for alternate options. Your diploma is just a starting point to demonstrate to others that you are willing to carry something through. It sounds like you've made great progress on that and soon, you'll be a graduate.
Someone once said that we are our own worst critics. As human beings it seems like we're all out there measuring ourselves against everyone else. The irony of it all is that if every human being is out there measuring themselves, exactly whom are we measuring ourselves to? So here's a suggestion that seems to work pretty good for me. Whenever I'm in a situation where I have doubts about myself, I seek to nail down my motivation for that feeling. Is it selfish and self serving? Or is it a genuine effort to bring Love, Joy, and Happiness to someone else? I've come to find that the more I work toward making other people's lives better, the better my life becomes. Period.
I know it's a hard thing to swallow sometimes but when we talk about taking our own lives, or if I worry about the way I look, or if I can't get the dream job I really want, I'm really thinking too hard about myself. The cure is to immediately do something for someone else as soon as I can. If I think I'm a victim of wrong thinking, I call someone I trust quickly and discuss it with them. We're all inherently selfish, it's a natural instinct. But it's our ability to reach out to others that makes us special and unique.
I sincerely hope you will find your way through your current crisis. By doing so, you will greatly enhance your ability to someday help someone else who feels just like you do today. Best Wishes and God bless.
I guess we've all felt like you at some point or another. Some more and some less, but if your an alcoholic like me, then you feel like your situation is really the only one that matters. At least for today. I was hoping I could ask you a question. Clay, you seem to be saying that you are unhappy with yourself, and your abilities (or lack thereof), your sexuality, and pretty much your life in general, right? If these things are true, than perhaps a different approach is warranted?
Other people can change our "Moments in Life", but the only lasting changes in the "Direction of our Life" come through our own ACTIONS. It sounds to me like you're taking action now, and that's good. I think it's good that you recognize you aren't happy with your current situation. Your posting here says that you have some willingness to reach out at least to the degree that you can see the ideas of others that may give you some new direction. You recognize that you aren't comfortable in the field of your education so you can begin immediately to look for alternate options. Your diploma is just a starting point to demonstrate to others that you are willing to carry something through. It sounds like you've made great progress on that and soon, you'll be a graduate.
Someone once said that we are our own worst critics. As human beings it seems like we're all out there measuring ourselves against everyone else. The irony of it all is that if every human being is out there measuring themselves, exactly whom are we measuring ourselves to? So here's a suggestion that seems to work pretty good for me. Whenever I'm in a situation where I have doubts about myself, I seek to nail down my motivation for that feeling. Is it selfish and self serving? Or is it a genuine effort to bring Love, Joy, and Happiness to someone else? I've come to find that the more I work toward making other people's lives better, the better my life becomes. Period.
I know it's a hard thing to swallow sometimes but when we talk about taking our own lives, or if I worry about the way I look, or if I can't get the dream job I really want, I'm really thinking too hard about myself. The cure is to immediately do something for someone else as soon as I can. If I think I'm a victim of wrong thinking, I call someone I trust quickly and discuss it with them. We're all inherently selfish, it's a natural instinct. But it's our ability to reach out to others that makes us special and unique.
I sincerely hope you will find your way through your current crisis. By doing so, you will greatly enhance your ability to someday help someone else who feels just like you do today. Best Wishes and God bless.
ClayTS: One of the things I noticed about your posts is that you have described some of your worries as problems. Let's agree that the definition of worry is obsessing that something bad might happen in the future. So, if something hasn't happened yet, is it a problem? Or, is it a worry?
Failing to get a job after graduation, or getting a bad job after graduation are things that haven't happened to you yet. (If I understand your posts correctly...)
However, you have mentioned having letters of rejection now, before graduation. So, let's say that falls into the category of present problem and not a worry.
Okay, can you say for sure that letters of rejection are based on conclusion: 1) you are a bad writer. 2)you are a good writer but need more experience, and future employers would prefer to hire a graduate. 3) you are a good writer but the job market is extremely competitive and only a small percentage of the top graduates from the best schools, (who have a minimum of 2 to 5 years of experience), are getting the interviews, and, only 1 person out of that 3% who got interviews out of 800 non-interviewed applicants will get the job.
Sounds far fetched? Not really. That's what the job market was like for me 25 years ago when I worked in graphic design in a large US city. (I often called the companies and asked what the volume of applicants was.)
Where am I going with this? Well, sure you can draw the conclusion you are "worthless", a subjective analysis, 1), or you can be objective, conclusions 2) or 3).
I have a hunch, and I don't think I would be far off the mark, that your situation probably matches 3), not 1).
And, on another note, you might have to work at an entry level job that is something less than the dream job, but can you be absolutely sure you will be miserable in the job?
I can only echo the remarks of the people here who suffer from depression themselves: they have told you they recognise themselves in your posts here.
I'm just curious: do you have a clinical diognosis? If not, it sounds like your plan to pressure your shrink and your therapist for a diagnosis (if you don't have one) and/or a systematic plan of recovery is a very good one. I can certainly understand your frustration, too. Having a bad therapist is NOT better than having no therapist at all. I sometimes wonder if it is worse. I fired two therapists who made me feel like we were trying to make soup out of air. Please keep trying until you find someone who can offer something better.
Nobody here can tell you if you are clinically depressed, an alcoholic or addicted to drugs. And, few people here can probably give you expert or professional advice. The best they can do is mention how they solved problems that are similar to yours.
On that note, I can offer up my modest bit of advice for what it is worth, and I hope you do not find it overly simplistic. I am struck by the fact that you have so many problems. And, that is extremely overwhelming. Most folks encounter one or two fairly serious problems at a time, but it is unusual and rather frightening when we feel that we are literally swimming in problems.
I found myself in that situation a while back. I felt like everything was being thrown at me at once: a failing marraige, a handicapped child with serious problems transitioning to young adulthood, another child failing in school and computer gaming addicted, codependent for three alcoholic brothers, Conservator and Guardian for a double diagnos mentally ill/alcoholic brother, smack in the middle of a nasty inheritance money dispute, unemployed, myself a chronic alcoholic whose neglected and traumatized child within decided to finally make her appearance in strange and disturbing ways during my 50 year crisis. Wheeeeee, like the queen said, it was an ....um, well, a bad year so to speak.
I felt like I had so many problems all at the same time that I had to pick the one that was the worst, (and was preventing me from solving all the other ones), and work on that one. And only that one.
Maybe that might be a place for you to start. What would you say is your most serious issue?
And, you know, when I did that, it was such a huge relief to put all the rest of the problems on hold. I just told myself I can't fix those other problems right away. I'll fix them when I can.
I know that comes pretty close to the serenity prayer in AA, but strangely enough, I didn't hear that prayer until I had already started using it.....
Failing to get a job after graduation, or getting a bad job after graduation are things that haven't happened to you yet. (If I understand your posts correctly...)
However, you have mentioned having letters of rejection now, before graduation. So, let's say that falls into the category of present problem and not a worry.
Okay, can you say for sure that letters of rejection are based on conclusion: 1) you are a bad writer. 2)you are a good writer but need more experience, and future employers would prefer to hire a graduate. 3) you are a good writer but the job market is extremely competitive and only a small percentage of the top graduates from the best schools, (who have a minimum of 2 to 5 years of experience), are getting the interviews, and, only 1 person out of that 3% who got interviews out of 800 non-interviewed applicants will get the job.
Sounds far fetched? Not really. That's what the job market was like for me 25 years ago when I worked in graphic design in a large US city. (I often called the companies and asked what the volume of applicants was.)
Where am I going with this? Well, sure you can draw the conclusion you are "worthless", a subjective analysis, 1), or you can be objective, conclusions 2) or 3).
I have a hunch, and I don't think I would be far off the mark, that your situation probably matches 3), not 1).
And, on another note, you might have to work at an entry level job that is something less than the dream job, but can you be absolutely sure you will be miserable in the job?
I can only echo the remarks of the people here who suffer from depression themselves: they have told you they recognise themselves in your posts here.
I'm just curious: do you have a clinical diognosis? If not, it sounds like your plan to pressure your shrink and your therapist for a diagnosis (if you don't have one) and/or a systematic plan of recovery is a very good one. I can certainly understand your frustration, too. Having a bad therapist is NOT better than having no therapist at all. I sometimes wonder if it is worse. I fired two therapists who made me feel like we were trying to make soup out of air. Please keep trying until you find someone who can offer something better.
Nobody here can tell you if you are clinically depressed, an alcoholic or addicted to drugs. And, few people here can probably give you expert or professional advice. The best they can do is mention how they solved problems that are similar to yours.
On that note, I can offer up my modest bit of advice for what it is worth, and I hope you do not find it overly simplistic. I am struck by the fact that you have so many problems. And, that is extremely overwhelming. Most folks encounter one or two fairly serious problems at a time, but it is unusual and rather frightening when we feel that we are literally swimming in problems.
I found myself in that situation a while back. I felt like everything was being thrown at me at once: a failing marraige, a handicapped child with serious problems transitioning to young adulthood, another child failing in school and computer gaming addicted, codependent for three alcoholic brothers, Conservator and Guardian for a double diagnos mentally ill/alcoholic brother, smack in the middle of a nasty inheritance money dispute, unemployed, myself a chronic alcoholic whose neglected and traumatized child within decided to finally make her appearance in strange and disturbing ways during my 50 year crisis. Wheeeeee, like the queen said, it was an ....um, well, a bad year so to speak.
I felt like I had so many problems all at the same time that I had to pick the one that was the worst, (and was preventing me from solving all the other ones), and work on that one. And only that one.
Maybe that might be a place for you to start. What would you say is your most serious issue?
And, you know, when I did that, it was such a huge relief to put all the rest of the problems on hold. I just told myself I can't fix those other problems right away. I'll fix them when I can.
I know that comes pretty close to the serenity prayer in AA, but strangely enough, I didn't hear that prayer until I had already started using it.....
I just feel like I have to go through all this pain so I can be happy later on and so I can appreciate the joyous moments more, though sometimes it doesn't seem like a worthy exchange.
ClayTS: One of the things I noticed about your posts is that you have described some of your worries as problems. Let's agree that the definition of worry is obsessing that something bad might happen in the future. So, if something hasn't happened yet, is it a problem? Or, is it a worry?
Failing to get a job after graduation, or getting a bad job after graduation are things that haven't happened to you yet. (If I understand your posts correctly...)
Failing to get a job after graduation, or getting a bad job after graduation are things that haven't happened to you yet. (If I understand your posts correctly...)
However, you have mentioned having letters of rejection now, before graduation. So, let's say that falls into the category of present problem and not a worry.
Okay, can you say for sure that letters of rejection are based on conclusion: 1) you are a bad writer. 2)you are a good writer but need more experience, and future employers would prefer to hire a graduate. 3) you are a good writer but the job market is extremely competitive and only a small percentage of the top graduates from the best schools, (who have a minimum of 2 to 5 years of experience), are getting the interviews, and, only 1 person out of that 3% who got interviews out of 800 non-interviewed applicants will get the job.
Okay, can you say for sure that letters of rejection are based on conclusion: 1) you are a bad writer. 2)you are a good writer but need more experience, and future employers would prefer to hire a graduate. 3) you are a good writer but the job market is extremely competitive and only a small percentage of the top graduates from the best schools, (who have a minimum of 2 to 5 years of experience), are getting the interviews, and, only 1 person out of that 3% who got interviews out of 800 non-interviewed applicants will get the job.
Sounds far fetched? Not really. That's what the job market was like for me 25 years ago when I worked in graphic design in a large US city. (I often called the companies and asked what the volume of applicants was.)
Where am I going with this? Well, sure you can draw the conclusion you are "worthless", a subjective analysis, 1), or you can be objective, conclusions 2) or 3).
Where am I going with this? Well, sure you can draw the conclusion you are "worthless", a subjective analysis, 1), or you can be objective, conclusions 2) or 3).
I have a hunch, and I don't think I would be far off the mark, that your situation probably matches 3), not 1).
And, on another note, you might have to work at an entry level job that is something less than the dream job, but can you be absolutely sure you will be miserable in the job?
And, on another note, you might have to work at an entry level job that is something less than the dream job, but can you be absolutely sure you will be miserable in the job?
I can only echo the remarks of the people here who suffer from depression themselves: they have told you they recognise themselves in your posts here.
I'm just curious: do you have a clinical diognosis? If not, it sounds like your plan to pressure your shrink and your therapist for a diagnosis (if you don't have one) and/or a systematic plan of recovery is a very good one. I can certainly understand your frustration, too. Having a bad therapist is NOT better than having no therapist at all. I sometimes wonder if it is worse. I fired two therapists who made me feel like we were trying to make soup out of air. Please keep trying until you find someone who can offer something better.
I'm just curious: do you have a clinical diognosis? If not, it sounds like your plan to pressure your shrink and your therapist for a diagnosis (if you don't have one) and/or a systematic plan of recovery is a very good one. I can certainly understand your frustration, too. Having a bad therapist is NOT better than having no therapist at all. I sometimes wonder if it is worse. I fired two therapists who made me feel like we were trying to make soup out of air. Please keep trying until you find someone who can offer something better.
Nobody here can tell you if you are clinically depressed, an alcoholic or addicted to drugs. And, few people here can probably give you expert or professional advice. The best they can do is mention how they solved problems that are similar to yours.
On that note, I can offer up my modest bit of advice for what it is worth, and I hope you do not find it overly simplistic. I am struck by the fact that you have so many problems. And, that is extremely overwhelming. Most folks encounter one or two fairly serious problems at a time, but it is unusual and rather frightening when we feel that we are literally swimming in problems.
I found myself in that situation a while back. I felt like everything was being thrown at me at once: a failing marraige, a handicapped child with serious problems transitioning to young adulthood, another child failing in school and computer gaming addicted, codependent for three alcoholic brothers, Conservator and Guardian for a double diagnos mentally ill/alcoholic brother, smack in the middle of a nasty inheritance money dispute, unemployed, myself a chronic alcoholic whose neglected and traumatized child within decided to finally make her appearance in strange and disturbing ways during my 50 year crisis. Wheeeeee, like the queen said, it was an ....um, well, a bad year so to speak.
I found myself in that situation a while back. I felt like everything was being thrown at me at once: a failing marraige, a handicapped child with serious problems transitioning to young adulthood, another child failing in school and computer gaming addicted, codependent for three alcoholic brothers, Conservator and Guardian for a double diagnos mentally ill/alcoholic brother, smack in the middle of a nasty inheritance money dispute, unemployed, myself a chronic alcoholic whose neglected and traumatized child within decided to finally make her appearance in strange and disturbing ways during my 50 year crisis. Wheeeeee, like the queen said, it was an ....um, well, a bad year so to speak.
I felt like I had so many problems all at the same time that I had to pick the one that was the worst, (and was preventing me from solving all the other ones), and work on that one. And only that one.
Maybe that might be a place for you to start. What would you say is your most serious issue?
And, you know, when I did that, it was such a huge relief to put all the rest of the problems on hold. I just told myself I can't fix those other problems right away. I'll fix them when I can.
I know that comes pretty close to the serenity prayer in AA, but strangely enough, I didn't hear that prayer until I had already started using it.....
Maybe that might be a place for you to start. What would you say is your most serious issue?
And, you know, when I did that, it was such a huge relief to put all the rest of the problems on hold. I just told myself I can't fix those other problems right away. I'll fix them when I can.
I know that comes pretty close to the serenity prayer in AA, but strangely enough, I didn't hear that prayer until I had already started using it.....
I went to the liquor store tonight. Sat there for 5 minutes debating the pluses and minuses and then drove home. I wonder if I'll have that restraint tomorrow?
I've been through 3 psychiatrists in my life, they have all been cold and emotionally walled off, which is understandable to a point. My last shrink put me on the Geodon and Lithium when she thought I was bipolar, at which point I left and I think my new doctor has been too afraid to pull me off them. He says I need more sobriety before he'll lower the Lithium. I feel I might have to threaten him and my therapist with suicide to make them do something, though they might have me locked up then, which is maybe where I belong. At least there I'd be so drugged up I wouldn't feel. I may have to stop the Wellbutrin because it's giving me heartburn and stomach problems. Oh well, at least I have more pills in case I do decide to try and kill myself.
Dont do it man, you are worth it and things will get better.
Depression has got its grip on you.
And this is not medical advice but IMHO all these drugs could be making it worse and making it feel impossible to handle this situation.
But you can handle it.
Did you like your job? If you didnt you are free.
Yeah it is rough out there, I am currently unemployed and waiting to see if I can get unemployment insurance. It isnt like it is unreasonable to be concerned about not having a job.
But right now, in this moment, you went to the liquor store and came home empty handed. You have something to be proud of. You resisted. You are strong.
I know you will get out of this.
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Join Date: May 2008
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Hi Clay,
I'm sorry you got fired but you sound somewhat better.
I am chronically late to my job, too. It was mentioned in my performance review. You know, there are jobs where you don't have to work on a timeclock. I had one for several years and probably should find another! I am just not a morning person.
I had a very good friend who was in your shoes. Man, he was so depressed. I used to take him to the beach but even that wouldn't cheer him up. He went on Lexipro. I am not usually a psych meds kind of person, but it made a huge difference in him.
He eventually went off of it but while he was on it, he learned CBT -cognitive behavioral therapy. CBT is actually the most effective treatment for depression. After a while, he went off the drugs and now practices CBT.
THe theory behind CBT is your thoughts influence your feelings which influence your actions, and the goal is to change your thoughts. CBT trains you to change your thought processes. For ex., going from "worst case scenario" to "best case scenario." It might help you.
Good luck!
I'm sorry you got fired but you sound somewhat better.
I am chronically late to my job, too. It was mentioned in my performance review. You know, there are jobs where you don't have to work on a timeclock. I had one for several years and probably should find another! I am just not a morning person.
I had a very good friend who was in your shoes. Man, he was so depressed. I used to take him to the beach but even that wouldn't cheer him up. He went on Lexipro. I am not usually a psych meds kind of person, but it made a huge difference in him.
He eventually went off of it but while he was on it, he learned CBT -cognitive behavioral therapy. CBT is actually the most effective treatment for depression. After a while, he went off the drugs and now practices CBT.
THe theory behind CBT is your thoughts influence your feelings which influence your actions, and the goal is to change your thoughts. CBT trains you to change your thought processes. For ex., going from "worst case scenario" to "best case scenario." It might help you.
Good luck!
Thanks for your replies guys. I can't say it makes me feel immediately better, but I don't want to end my life right now. I got fired from the job. Oh and to top it off, when I told my boss that I overslept sometimes because of the sedating medications I take, he said he would've been more flexible with me. Funny. I don't really feel anything, though I know the despair is soon to follow. Right now I'm just keeping myself busy at my internship and with class. I have a therapist, though my sessions haven't been that productive and I'm on like 5 medications, including Wellbutrin, which I just started Saturday. I just feel numb; it's kind of nice though. I don't really care which way my life goes now. I'm not suicidal but I stopped wearing my seatbelt, so maybe I am.
Thanks again,
Clayton
Thanks again,
Clayton
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No no no you don't want to be locked up. There's no healing there. I know someone who was in a psych ward-it is a hellish place-it will only make you more suicidal...they will drug you but it's not enough so you won't see how horrible that place is and how off the charts out of touch with reality some of those people are. Things happen in there that no one should ever see.
I've been through 3 psychiatrists in my life, they have all been cold and emotionally walled off, which is understandable to a point. My last shrink put me on the Geodon and Lithium when she thought I was bipolar, at which point I left and I think my new doctor has been too afraid to pull me off them. He says I need more sobriety before he'll lower the Lithium. I feel I might have to threaten him and my therapist with suicide to make them do something, though they might have me locked up then, which is maybe where I belong. At least there I'd be so drugged up I wouldn't feel. I may have to stop the Wellbutrin because it's giving me heartburn and stomach problems. Oh well, at least I have more pills in case I do decide to try and kill myself.
And this is not medical advice but IMHO all these drugs could be making it worse and making it feel impossible to handle this situation.
But you can handle it.
Did you like your job? If you didn't you are free.
Yeah it is rough out there, I am currently unemployed and waiting to see if I can get unemployment insurance. It isnt like it is unreasonable to be concerned about not having a job.
But right now, in this moment, you went to the liquor store and came home empty handed. You have something to be proud of. You resisted. You are strong.
I know you will get out of this.
But right now, in this moment, you went to the liquor store and came home empty handed. You have something to be proud of. You resisted. You are strong.
I know you will get out of this.
Hi Clay,
I'm sorry you got fired but you sound somewhat better.
I am chronically late to my job, too. It was mentioned in my performance review. You know, there are jobs where you don't have to work on a timeclock. I had one for several years and probably should find another! I am just not a morning person.
I'm sorry you got fired but you sound somewhat better.
I am chronically late to my job, too. It was mentioned in my performance review. You know, there are jobs where you don't have to work on a timeclock. I had one for several years and probably should find another! I am just not a morning person.
I had a very good friend who was in your shoes. Man, he was so depressed. I used to take him to the beach but even that wouldn't cheer him up. He went on Lexapro. I am not usually a psych meds kind of person, but it made a huge difference in him.
He eventually went off of it but while he was on it, he learned CBT -cognitive behavioral therapy. CBT is actually the most effective treatment for depression. After a while, he went off the drugs and now practices CBT.
THe theory behind CBT is your thoughts influence your feelings which influence your actions, and the goal is to change your thoughts. CBT trains you to change your thought processes. For ex., going from "worst case scenario" to "best case scenario." It might help you.
Good luck!
THe theory behind CBT is your thoughts influence your feelings which influence your actions, and the goal is to change your thoughts. CBT trains you to change your thought processes. For ex., going from "worst case scenario" to "best case scenario." It might help you.
Good luck!
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I cant argue or dispel or counter the depression your going through. I know...I've been there. At these times all reassurances from others seem to fall short. It is the depression that makes this so.
In my worst depressive state there was a continence to step beyond my deepest fears. It was to cultivate hope regardless of my emotional despair. Am I one of the few that was capable of this? I think not. I was hard pressed to do it...it took time...I remained persistent...it made a difference as it continues to do so today.
I encourage you to counter and dispel those depressive thoughts that would have you at the end of your rope. What better place to do this here, at SoberRecovery where caring others (like myself) can encourage you along your way to a better day.
In my worst depressive state there was a continence to step beyond my deepest fears. It was to cultivate hope regardless of my emotional despair. Am I one of the few that was capable of this? I think not. I was hard pressed to do it...it took time...I remained persistent...it made a difference as it continues to do so today.
I encourage you to counter and dispel those depressive thoughts that would have you at the end of your rope. What better place to do this here, at SoberRecovery where caring others (like myself) can encourage you along your way to a better day.
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