Marriage over
former walking pharmacy
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Watertown, CT
Posts: 146
I am very sorry to hear that, problemchild. Just remember that getting drunk will not solve anything. Divorce is very common nowadays. I witnessed my mother having an affair as a teenager, which resulted in my parent's divorce. I have since learned to accept the fact that these things just sometimes happen, and that there is usually nothing that can be done. I hope you can stay strong in this time of difficulty.
believer
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Europe
Posts: 2,411
You still have yourself and you'll go on to build a new, awesome life.
In some time, after it stops hurting you'll look back, sober, and think on the path you walked and somehow things will be much better
In some time, after it stops hurting you'll look back, sober, and think on the path you walked and somehow things will be much better
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Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: New York
Posts: 164
sorry to hear that problemchild..big hugs to you as you go through this difficult time...but remember...sober you CAN handle anything!!! as much as you want to get blasted right now, stop & think about the end result...it's not worth it...the marriage will still be over...i'm dealing with some difficult life situations myself and pray every day that i can take my own advice! i'm here with ya & for ya!! hang in there!!! xxxxxx Lisa
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Posts: 26,425
Sometimes when things really spin out of control it is whiteknuckle time for me. I've had a few times like that in sobriety...where i can't really connect with anything but just stubbornly refusing to drink or use.
I have to remember that drinking is probably a commitment to years of hell that follow. not just a one time deal. That has pulled me through a couple of times.
If you sponsor isn't available, call other numbers. Or just go in chat, grab the nearest person and spill your guts.....that saved my but one night.
Thinking of you.
I have to remember that drinking is probably a commitment to years of hell that follow. not just a one time deal. That has pulled me through a couple of times.
If you sponsor isn't available, call other numbers. Or just go in chat, grab the nearest person and spill your guts.....that saved my but one night.
Thinking of you.
Member
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Glitzville
Posts: 334
My thoughts are with you, John.
It's okay to be reeling with the air sucked out of you. Keep breathing, grab your support. It's a devastating blow, but it can be handled...inch by inch.
((((((((((((((((around you))))))))))))))
Donna
It's okay to be reeling with the air sucked out of you. Keep breathing, grab your support. It's a devastating blow, but it can be handled...inch by inch.
((((((((((((((((around you))))))))))))))
Donna
I'm just a little unwell
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: USA
Posts: 2,219
Hi problemchild. I'm really sorry to hear about your marriage, but I hope you can find the strength to deal with the situation without turning to alcohol. It's hard to learn to accept what we're feeling and have to deal with it without our old crutch. I am having a really hard time with it lately. You've gotten some good advice here so far. I hope between your sponsor and SR you can find someone to reach out to.
*Hugs*
*Hugs*
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Born in Long Island NY/Mtns of N.C Is my home now
Posts: 405
Thank you to all who have shown concern, yes i made it last night and today sober, but it has been pure hell, all i know is to drown myself in alcohol when life gets ruff, but with the help of others i am slowly learning to meet life on lifes terms (which sux).. Again thank you all..
Take care,
John
Take care,
John
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,780
I too am glad you didn't drink. I drank to escape my life but it did me no good and just made my life harder. This is a big blow but you can get thru this, sober, and come out better on the other side. Just take it one day at a time, and lean on us for support!
Member
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Glitzville
Posts: 334
Very relieved to know that you made it, John. Thanks for letting us know.
There was a man in AA who shared that his wife filed for divorce two weeks after he got sober. He's a contractor and built their house from the ground up; forced to sell it for one-fourth its value in these hard times. It has been a long road for him, but he just took his one year chip. The divorce is still not final, but he's sober and life is looking up.
Getting through this kind of heartbreak is monumental. Please keep your support close by.
Thinking of you.
Hugs,
Donna
There was a man in AA who shared that his wife filed for divorce two weeks after he got sober. He's a contractor and built their house from the ground up; forced to sell it for one-fourth its value in these hard times. It has been a long road for him, but he just took his one year chip. The divorce is still not final, but he's sober and life is looking up.
Getting through this kind of heartbreak is monumental. Please keep your support close by.
Thinking of you.
Hugs,
Donna
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