All relationships don't help.
Ms. Heidi
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Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Bristol,Connecticut
Posts: 15
All relationships don't help.
I have alot of problems right now. Family and friends aren't always there in my situation. I always thought my boyfriend would be because we've been through so much. I'm beginning to think I'm wrong though and I imagine he's getting sick of all the drama too. He stays with us. I'm expecting that he wants to leave. Theres alot more problems between us than that all because we stay here my mom causes most of it. However I'm beginning to see his true colors as well. What should I do?
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Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Vancouver BC
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Gwenlady,
you don't say how much sober time you have.
The longer I am sober, the better able I am to deal with the "stuff of life".
One thing I did learn is "I cannot fix anyone, I can only fix myself" & "no one can fix me, but me".
"Happiness is created...not waited for".
Seren
you don't say how much sober time you have.
The longer I am sober, the better able I am to deal with the "stuff of life".
One thing I did learn is "I cannot fix anyone, I can only fix myself" & "no one can fix me, but me".
"Happiness is created...not waited for".
Seren
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Fredericksburg, Va.
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Seren said wise words, one should really deal with thier own sobriety before they try and tackle major life issues. I know when I was new to sobriety I still was not thinking with a clear head, my focus had to be on my sobriety, once I had some time sober and was aware of who I was and was working on my issues then I was able to begin to deal with major issues.
When drinking and for some time in early sobriety I tended to blame others for my problems or feel that they were not doing thier part to help me stay sober. Once I had been sober for a while and quit blaming others for my problems I was able to look at what was going on around me in a more reasonable realistic manner, I started to see that a great deal of my problems were my fault and no one elses.
What I would suggest doing right now is simply work on your own sobriety, once you are getting on solid ground with you then start looking at other things and making sober decisions and not spur of the moment decisions.
When drinking and for some time in early sobriety I tended to blame others for my problems or feel that they were not doing thier part to help me stay sober. Once I had been sober for a while and quit blaming others for my problems I was able to look at what was going on around me in a more reasonable realistic manner, I started to see that a great deal of my problems were my fault and no one elses.
What I would suggest doing right now is simply work on your own sobriety, once you are getting on solid ground with you then start looking at other things and making sober decisions and not spur of the moment decisions.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
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in every AA meeting I attend.
My drinking magnified whatever problem
I was going through.
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in every AA meeting I attend.
My drinking magnified whatever problem
I was going through.
Sooo...been to a meeting recently?
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