I'm an Alcoholic?
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I'm an Alcoholic?
Well, hi.
I’m not new here, but I haven’t posted in years. I used to post about my husbands drug and alcohol problem in friends and family. There were many hospitalizations, rehabs, abuse, denial…You know how it is. But I didn’t have a problem. Well, maybe I DID drink too much on the weekends. And maybe I did do some embarrassing and pathetic things…The cure for that was to curl up in a ball and cry and sleep the remorse away the next day. And maybe I did have black outs more often than not. Still – that pales in comparison to what was going on with my husband. HE was the mess. He was an addict and alcoholic both! I just drank too much. I still had a good job, friends, and cleaned up all his messes. He was the reason I drank, right? I deserved it. I worked very hard. Drinking was fun! Never mind that my own mother wasn’t speaking to me. HE was probably the reason for that, right? No.
It’s funny how we fool ourselves, isn’t it?
My husband attempted suicide 3 months ago because of his addictions. He broke his neck and both hands. While he was in the hospital, I took a good long look at what was happening to me. I thought about going to the liquor store. After all – I just suffered a tremendous shock! I should have a drink! Or ten. Then I thought: what good is that really going to do for me? It will just make everything worse. I will be of no good to myself, my husband, my family.
AA helps both me and my husband now. (I NEVER thought I would say that). I’ve been sober since December 22, 2007. I know I am serious about my recovery. I hope he is too. I can say for certain that the past three sober months have been better for our marriage than the past 6 years.
(And I quit smoking, too!)
I’m not new here, but I haven’t posted in years. I used to post about my husbands drug and alcohol problem in friends and family. There were many hospitalizations, rehabs, abuse, denial…You know how it is. But I didn’t have a problem. Well, maybe I DID drink too much on the weekends. And maybe I did do some embarrassing and pathetic things…The cure for that was to curl up in a ball and cry and sleep the remorse away the next day. And maybe I did have black outs more often than not. Still – that pales in comparison to what was going on with my husband. HE was the mess. He was an addict and alcoholic both! I just drank too much. I still had a good job, friends, and cleaned up all his messes. He was the reason I drank, right? I deserved it. I worked very hard. Drinking was fun! Never mind that my own mother wasn’t speaking to me. HE was probably the reason for that, right? No.
It’s funny how we fool ourselves, isn’t it?
My husband attempted suicide 3 months ago because of his addictions. He broke his neck and both hands. While he was in the hospital, I took a good long look at what was happening to me. I thought about going to the liquor store. After all – I just suffered a tremendous shock! I should have a drink! Or ten. Then I thought: what good is that really going to do for me? It will just make everything worse. I will be of no good to myself, my husband, my family.
AA helps both me and my husband now. (I NEVER thought I would say that). I’ve been sober since December 22, 2007. I know I am serious about my recovery. I hope he is too. I can say for certain that the past three sober months have been better for our marriage than the past 6 years.
(And I quit smoking, too!)
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Charlotte let me congradulate you!!!! Excellent job, you would be amazed at howm many folks make the leap from Alanon to AA, you are not alone. We have a couple in our home group with a similar story to yours, her husband has well over a year now and she is close to a year.
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Having both of you in recovery can be a God send. You both know what you're going thru. You can get windshield time going to and from meetings. Probably, it'll be good if, you can go to a meeting apart time and again.
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Originally Posted by CAPTAINZING2000 
Having both of you in recovery can be a God send. You both know what you're going thru. You can get windshield time going to and from meetings. Probably, it'll be good if, you can go to a meeting apart time and again.
I do like going to meetings with him, but I agree that we should check out other meetings separately. I think we are the only couple in the group we currently go to.
Thanks for all the kind words everyone!
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