Alcoholic or drunk?
Ak1302
Join Date: Oct 2007
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This is completely just a saying to make AA the way and it is just word play...im assuming everyone in here is an alcoholic....notice the overanalyzation of this small post....by everyone....including myself
-kimmel
-kimmel
Boy oh boy, the fact that I am even writing this tells me I have way too much time on my hands.
Drunk is a momentary or more specific point in time, a state of being IE. "He was drunk." Alcoholic is a condition of an individual being. IE. "He has been diagnosed as an alcoholic."
Alcoholic: 2 : marked by the use of alcohol ; especially : addicted to the usually excessive use of alcoholic drinks <alcoholic expatriates in Paris -- Carl Van Doren>
The great thing is that one can be a drunken alcoholic, or one can be an alcoholic who is drunk, but I really think this explanation is the best.
Alcoholics are persons who have a "problem" with alcohol, however if I don't drink no matter what my past issues, I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH ALCOHOL.
This may explain why the anonymous aspect of AA. If an individual enters the rooms of AA and overcomes the desire to drink and no longer uses, then if his or her anonymity is preserved they can return to society and no one need know that they were previously alcoholic and a drunk.
Just my thoughts,
Jon
Drunk is a momentary or more specific point in time, a state of being IE. "He was drunk." Alcoholic is a condition of an individual being. IE. "He has been diagnosed as an alcoholic."
Alcoholic: 2 : marked by the use of alcohol ; especially : addicted to the usually excessive use of alcoholic drinks <alcoholic expatriates in Paris -- Carl Van Doren>
The great thing is that one can be a drunken alcoholic, or one can be an alcoholic who is drunk, but I really think this explanation is the best.
Alcoholics are persons who have a "problem" with alcohol, however if I don't drink no matter what my past issues, I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH ALCOHOL.
This may explain why the anonymous aspect of AA. If an individual enters the rooms of AA and overcomes the desire to drink and no longer uses, then if his or her anonymity is preserved they can return to society and no one need know that they were previously alcoholic and a drunk.
Just my thoughts,
Jon
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Join Date: Jul 2007
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Dry drunks are ones who like to fight and split hairs and attack others rather than learning serenity, "Let go and let God", "There but for the grace of God go I", "Live and let live", "Identify rather than compare" and the like. Some will not like my making this statement; you'll see. Hee hee.
Blessings from the Snowgoose.
Blessings from the Snowgoose.
I find it curious when alcoholics call themselves drunks after they have achieved sobriety.
I also am aware that before I got spiritual I was a drunk whether I was sober or not, my thought process was the same, if anything I was probably a worse person sober because of my irratability.
It makes me feel bad when I hear someone refer to another as a drunk or a "dry drunk" based on how one chooses to remain sober.
I know im only in early recovery compared to so many people but its frustrating still wanting to drink...I know everyone is different but how long does it take to actually not want to drink and really want to be a sober alcoholic?
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Taz, how you choose to view yourself is entirely up to you, and I respect that. I suppose it differs from person to person. I have read that you drank for 40 years, and maybe that is why you percieve yourself that way. I am 40 now and drank destructively for 10 years, maybe that is a reason why I choose not to refer to myself as a drunk. I have lived many more years sober than drunk.
The term dry drunk originally referred to a rather rare condition that some people have during the first months of recovery from alcohol abuse -- they stumble around in an uncoordinated manner as if they are drunk, even though they are 100% sober. It seems to have taken on a whole new meaning for some. Years of alcohol abuse followed by abstinence is bound to cause irratability, does not cause a condition called "dry drunk". Again JMO
The term dry drunk originally referred to a rather rare condition that some people have during the first months of recovery from alcohol abuse -- they stumble around in an uncoordinated manner as if they are drunk, even though they are 100% sober. It seems to have taken on a whole new meaning for some. Years of alcohol abuse followed by abstinence is bound to cause irratability, does not cause a condition called "dry drunk". Again JMO
I agree with Bugs. My opinion is very different for a few reasons. I drank for a year. I hadn't reached a point where I had affected anyone in my family (minus my husband who was starting to worry), my work was fine, never drove even after one drink. I caught myself at a very early point. So do I consider myself a "dry drunk" because I don't attend meetings, no?
Just like I don't consider myself a dry smoker because I don't attend tabacco cessation meetings.
Again, the prospective of 40 years of drinking and one year of drinking is totally different. I realized I was on the direct path to alcoholism if I continued what I was doing. After not drinking for around a month or so. I think most likely I am a problem drinker. Do I feel like I need to revolve my life around AA to abstain from alcohol? No. I think it is a great program for a lot of people but just because someone isn't in AA doesn't make them a "dry drunk."
Just like I don't consider myself a dry smoker because I don't attend tabacco cessation meetings.
Again, the prospective of 40 years of drinking and one year of drinking is totally different. I realized I was on the direct path to alcoholism if I continued what I was doing. After not drinking for around a month or so. I think most likely I am a problem drinker. Do I feel like I need to revolve my life around AA to abstain from alcohol? No. I think it is a great program for a lot of people but just because someone isn't in AA doesn't make them a "dry drunk."
(Dry) drunk: “I must force myself not to drink. I must not drink, I must not drink, I MUST not drink, I MUST NOT drink, I must must must MUST not DRINK!!!”
Sober alcoholic: “Thank goodness, I never have to drink again. I never have to go through that again. I don’t have to drink. I never have to suffer like that again. I do not have to drink. I’m free!”
Kind of simplistic, I know, but there's a real difference.
Sober alcoholic: “Thank goodness, I never have to drink again. I never have to go through that again. I don’t have to drink. I never have to suffer like that again. I do not have to drink. I’m free!”
Kind of simplistic, I know, but there's a real difference.
I thought i'd share what i recently experienced and how very different the two scenerio's are in my life. I congratulate each and every one of you as you truly have helped me learn alot over the few months here. Thanks!
Taz, how you choose to view yourself is entirely up to you, and I respect that.
The term dry drunk originally referred to a rather rare condition that some people have during the first months of recovery from alcohol abuse -- they stumble around in an uncoordinated manner as if they are drunk, even though they are 100% sober. It seems to have taken on a whole new meaning for some.
Bugs I like you, you make me think and look at myself closer!
So do I consider myself a "dry drunk" because I don't attend meetings, no?
Sara my dad to my knowledge never attended an AA meeting, but my mother said he really did change himself once he got sober. I never knew him when he was drinking, but I do know that the 19 years I did have him he was far from miserable, he lived life, he loved life, he was at peace with the world.
Being in or out of AA does not have a thing to do with whether or not one is a dry drunk or not. A dry drunk is a state of mind.
No. I think it is a great program for a lot of people but just because someone isn't in AA doesn't make them a "dry drunk."
Sara attending or not attending meetings does not have a thing to do with whether one is a dry drunk or not. Heck there are several folks I see in meetings that are sober but miserable, they seem some how to draw just enough form the meetings to stay sober, but can not seem to change them selfs.
You know Bugs,
Sara attending or not attending meetings does not have a thing to do with whether one is a dry drunk or not. Heck there are several folks I see in meetings that are sober but miserable, they seem some how to draw just enough form the meetings to stay sober, but can not seem to change them selfs.
Sara my dad to my knowledge never attended an AA meeting, but my mother said he really did change himself once he got sober. I never knew him when he was drinking, but I do know that the 19 years I did have him he was far from miserable, he lived life, he loved life, he was at peace with the world.
Being in or out of AA does not have a thing to do with whether or not one is a dry drunk or not. A dry drunk is a state of mind.
Sara attending or not attending meetings does not have a thing to do with whether one is a dry drunk or not. Heck there are several folks I see in meetings that are sober but miserable, they seem some how to draw just enough form the meetings to stay sober, but can not seem to change them selfs.
Sara my dad to my knowledge never attended an AA meeting, but my mother said he really did change himself once he got sober. I never knew him when he was drinking, but I do know that the 19 years I did have him he was far from miserable, he lived life, he loved life, he was at peace with the world.
Being in or out of AA does not have a thing to do with whether or not one is a dry drunk or not. A dry drunk is a state of mind.
Alcoholism is a disease of the mind, body and spirit. All of which have to be addressed for the alcoholic to find a happy, successful life without alcohol.
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Taz, The beauty of this forum is the wealth of knowledge and wide array of opinions and ideas, while I may not always agree, I sincerely try to understand different views with the understanding that, as you stated, opinions are not facts.
As I have stated before, and trying not to be redundant here, is I find the term "dry drunk" to be derogatory and demeaning. In the spirit of recovery I rather not label people black or white. There are many beautiful shades of grey, what works for one may not work for another.
And Taz I like you too! While we may not always agree, we can absolutely learn and grow from each others journey.
As I have stated before, and trying not to be redundant here, is I find the term "dry drunk" to be derogatory and demeaning. In the spirit of recovery I rather not label people black or white. There are many beautiful shades of grey, what works for one may not work for another.
And Taz I like you too! While we may not always agree, we can absolutely learn and grow from each others journey.
As I have stated before, and trying not to be redundant here, is I find the term "dry drunk" to be derogatory and demeaning. In the spirit of recovery I rather not label people black or white. There are many beautiful shades of grey, what works for one may not work for another.
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Heather I understand your situation, and would never tell you how to feel. Only you know what kind of person your ex is. I just don't like the expression when it becomes a ranking system among sober alcoholics. It is akin to taking anothers inventory. I am sorry that you were put thru so much with your ex, and I hope you continue to find happiness and peace.
From a newbie to the board, there is most definitely an inference that if you are not working an AA based program you are a "dry drunk."
You are so right. I have met people with over 20 years of not drinking in A.A. that were miserable, resentful, hateful, people. This same man brags in A.A. meetings about trying to cause resentments in people. Obviously he is still sick. I almost want to tell them that if not drinking is so miserable then maybe they should go back and drink but I know that would not be an answer to the problem. The problem is they never changed they just put the bottle down. Now they have no coping skills for life which is a scary place to be. No wonder they are miserable. I am a firm believer that no matter how you put the drink down you still have to change the behaviors that kept you drinking. Find a way to get rid of the resentments, fear, and anger. For me the 12 Steps did it but I know others have found different ways that have worked.
Alcoholism is a disease of the mind, body and spirit. All of which have to be addressed for the alcoholic to find a happy, successful life without alcohol.
Alcoholism is a disease of the mind, body and spirit. All of which have to be addressed for the alcoholic to find a happy, successful life without alcohol.
My sister is huge in NA. She has gone everyday for three years and I can't thank the program enough. However, they also encouraged her that her anxiety meds and anti-depressants were another form of using and masking her fear, resentments, etc,. She goes off of them and goes absolutely batty because she thinks she is not sober taking her medication as prescribed. When in reality her brain has a chemical imbalance and the medication makes her a level person.
And what does it mean to not want to drink, really? I mean, what if I do all the work and there never comes a time when I don't wish I could still drink or get drunk -- even if I'm making changes in other ways and have been sober for six years? Do none of you ever wish you could still drink? (By the way, I'm honestly just curious -- that wasn't meant as a challenge, even if it sounded that way.)
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Thanks for sharing Pinkcuda.
You give me hope.
There are those too that sufferes from GRAVE mental and disorders
but many recovered if they have the capcity to be honest.
Honestly i feel nutz sometimes and I'll even feel dispair or my ass
falls off sometimes in recovery...But I'm not misable and crazy.
My gf takes meds too and i can't tell her how to work her program.
I also know, when her perscriptions runs out, she gose into a major,
major withdraw and wants to kill herself. She'll call what ever doctor
or nurses and tell them whatever just to get her pills for her ills.
She can't live without them and a majority of her time and effort
now is center around her medications.
Becuase in reality her tolerance for the drugs gose up and up.
I personally think it sucks becuase i truley love her.
i don't know who she is anymore...she defferently not same person i knew
before all of th medication came into her life. She acts like a zoombie
or a robot when on her meds. She hasn't gotten any better since she
went on medications.
She might act out at times and have her blonde moments when she was
clean and sober, but at least she was there.
to answer you Fox..for me it means FREEDOM from a living hell
You give me hope.
There are those too that sufferes from GRAVE mental and disorders
but many recovered if they have the capcity to be honest.
Honestly i feel nutz sometimes and I'll even feel dispair or my ass
falls off sometimes in recovery...But I'm not misable and crazy.
My gf takes meds too and i can't tell her how to work her program.
I also know, when her perscriptions runs out, she gose into a major,
major withdraw and wants to kill herself. She'll call what ever doctor
or nurses and tell them whatever just to get her pills for her ills.
She can't live without them and a majority of her time and effort
now is center around her medications.
Becuase in reality her tolerance for the drugs gose up and up.
I personally think it sucks becuase i truley love her.
i don't know who she is anymore...she defferently not same person i knew
before all of th medication came into her life. She acts like a zoombie
or a robot when on her meds. She hasn't gotten any better since she
went on medications.
She might act out at times and have her blonde moments when she was
clean and sober, but at least she was there.
to answer you Fox..for me it means FREEDOM from a living hell
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