GlassPrisoner

Well, I'll be heading out this afternoon to make one, possibly two of my biggest and most dreaded amends.

All of my friends and family that I interact with , or are close to , have been taken care of already. These will be different.

I had a job for 14 years that I quit after I started drinking. The short reason being was I hated my boss, he didn't treat me "special". If he'll talk to me, that's one.

The other is at the same company. We hired a beautiful young woman to work for me. I quickly and completely fell head over heels for her. I told her how I felt, and she noted that she had a boyfriend and I was married (at the time). Not to be disuaded, I hounded her, complained, griped, and manipulated (or tried to at least) the situation in a million different ways. That's the other.

I have no idea what to expect. Of course I'm hoping it will turn out amiable, but there's a good chance that I may get my a** handed to me. But, it's gotta be done.

Wish me luck.

gypsytears

Good luck GlassPrisoner .

NOMOMERLOTMAMMA

Good luck!!!

parentrecovers

good luck!

Rowan

Let us know how it goes, Tyrone.

hbb

Good Luck Glass, we'll be thinking of you

mike_mass

Good luck, man. Not sure I'd have the wherewithal to do this.

Missymae737

Hi Glass Prisoner,

It takes great courage to do what you are going to do...Making amends can be somewhat uncomfortable... My experience, the end result brings peace and a sense of wellbeing...


Thinking of you....

Astro

Ouch. But I know you'll handle it with willingness, grace, and respect, which is the same way you share your recovery on these forums. Way to go Ty, I'll be praying for you.

escape2day

good luck to you glass. i think you have a lotta courage and whichever way it turns out, i hope peace will come with the effort.

barb dwyer

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MTBChick

Glass I hope it goes/went well!!

Question for everyone what do you do when it doesn't go well and in the end you have only hurt the person more?

barb dwyer

MTB - the BB talks about that, too ... there's a good bit of prayer and meditation, and even dialog with yer sponsor before attempting one that's very very touchy.


Step 9 -
"Made direct amends wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others."

mike_mass

This is less likely to happen if you get input from a few different people as to what the situation was that you want to make amends for. I personally would advise someone not to revisit a person with whom there was sexual/romantic involvement. This tends to open old wounds. However, every situation is different.

Rella927

(((Glass))))

It takes alot of courage to do what you are doing! Good Luck and Prayers! You are an amazing man Glass!

I always loved this quote I have it on the fridge at home:

Barto

Redacted. I see what happened now. Good luck.

fraankie

sticky, sticky,
i don't know about this
i had some problems at an old job
i thought about it
to go and apologize
but
something a counselor told me long ago
about me trying to resolve my alochol issues at work

"these people are co-workers, not friends"
so
i just kinda of let it go

number uno:
you will basically be trespassing on company property
number two:
these people will be on the job
as in, with work to do, orders to complete,
this is not a "water fountain amends break"
and
like, who cares anymore
once you left the job
these people went on with their lives
probably, you are a passing thought, at most

so
you are probably on your way, do your best

best
fraankie

Barto

Yeah Glass, and, I’m also wondering if you harmed her. I glean that you were her boss (at least in some way) but on the other hand, men falling for beautiful women, well… that’s part of life. I guess only you know whether you harmed her. Hope it went well if it went.

PS, what does "sticky" mean exactly?

mike_mass

I agree with fraankie...I have found some of the best amends I can make are by changing my behavior and not carrying the old baggage to the next group of people I interact with.

Barto

Never mind about the use of “sticky” here. I see. I was wondering what it means when used at the top of each section on these web boards.