kglast

Hi Everyone - I haven't posted on this forum in a while - I am usually in Friends and Family - but I saw my ex-fiance who is an alcoholic about a week ago for the first time in three months. What I saw and heard concerned me...

He says that he has been throwing up in the mornings - he is blaming it on the cigarettes (he gets nauseous after smoking in the AM) and has switched to Camel non-filters thinking this will help...he also stated he is having other issues - I believe "sustained performance" is one of the other issues as he would not openly discuss it with me. He also admitted to getting pains in his chest - below his left rib cage, especially when he is working - he is a carpenter and is in good physical shape (at least appears so from the outside). His eyes also looked cloudy and "bumpy" to me...

I am afraid these signs mean his disease is progressing...is anyone here familiar with these symptoms?? Is it from the booze?

Thanks for reading....

GrouchoTheCat

Well...

I threw up every morning.

I would wager that if he stopped drinking, everything would improve.

Best to you,

Ted

GlassPrisoner

Yup. Retched is more like it, my stomach was empty in the mornings.

The pain sounds like his liver.

"Sustained Performance" ? Ummm *ahem* I had no problems requiring Viagra (if you know what I mean) but "finishing the business" was impossible when I drank. Heck, I was proud of my "stamina". My poor ex......

It all sounds alcohol related. But then again, I'm not a Doctor.

baggervance

Anyone else miss that yellow junk coming out first thing EVERY DAY!I would say it's not the smokes but I would have tried to blame it own something eles besides alcohol.

Astro

Yeah, our ex's could compare notes.

I went to the doctor a few times to have the lower back pain just under the ribs (liver) checked out. Was told to stop drinking immediately. Which I did until the pain went away and then I resumed drinking again.

Vomiting sorta goes with the territory.

If you haven't read Under The Influence it might explain more to you.

kglast

thanks everyone for the feedback...

Glass - HA - yes, what I really meant was "finishing the business"....just trying to find a cryptic way to say it - you said it much better than I...

Astro - I have read Under the Influence - maybe need to review it again. I am afraid he is entering the Late/Deteriorative Stage...He is only 37....it just makes me so, so sad....

Hooner

What causes the vomitting in the mornings? Especially the yellow bile and white foam? Is that the last stages?

NOMOMERLOTMAMMA

Yeesh...thank you guys for reminding me of the vomiting every morning. One of the perks of being sober is not starting the day headfirst in the toilet.

***whisper: Thank you God****

Karen

Loreena

Hi there,

That is just the thing, active alcoholics do not take care of their health, who wants to go to the doctors and have them say 'quit drinking". I never went that is for sure...until I got sober, I had the pain in the rib area, it was my liver, it was enlarged, I think about it now and how scary. The stomach thing - my AH has bleeding ulcers, from the alcohol. He also had a form of cancer called Squemas cell carcenoma (head and neck cancer) from the combination smoking/drinking they said...

so the insanity of alcoholics, he still drinks and still smokes. go figure, you talk about insanity.

It could be most anything - he'll get medical treatment when he is ready...we don't think about such things when we are active.

I'm also a member of friends and family - it is very hard seeing a loved one or even an ex loved one hurt themselves...we are powerless over this disease, totally powerless.

take care of YOU.

L

AWEDA

My Ah has cirrhosis and the pain under the rib cage is probably the liver inflammation.He had pain alot especially after binges. Vomitting all the time,it was nasty. His eyes were yellow fairly often. He has Hep C and was hospitalized with alcoholic hepatits on top of that. He spent 12 days in hospital, the doctors telling him his bilirubin was climbing a tylenol at that point could have killed him. He now has swelling in legs and feet. Cirrhosis of the liver is a VERY PAINFUL way to die. He continues to drink so it will not be long till he passes. Very sad, he just cannot find his way......

Live

Alcoholism also causes heart failure.

kglast

thanks for the insight everyone....i just pray i don't get that dreaded phone call that he has died....it is such a waste of a life...he is so smart and funny and compassionate ( when not drinking )...i dunno....i have detached and am working on letting go...i still care so much what happens to him - so difficult to see him deteriorate....

GlassPrisoner

((((((kglast))))))

You know what's worse ? He could stay that way for YEARS !!!!!! I resigned myself to death at the end, almost welcomed it. Then I realized I faced a slow, painful, lonely death.....

kglast

((((Glass)))) thank you....