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Location: Southwest PA USA
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Justjo;
I don't know what to say to you. Peter makes a good point.
The only thing you can do is be supportive. Until your sister is convinced she has a problem that she can't handle by herself, there's not a whole lot that you can do.
My ex-sister-in-law recently went into rehab herself. Now my ex-wife is watching her kids. I hope that she'll want to stay better, too.
Keep posting. If you need to vent anything, we're here to listen.
I wish you and your sister the best.
BHJ
I don't know what to say to you. Peter makes a good point.
The only thing you can do is be supportive. Until your sister is convinced she has a problem that she can't handle by herself, there's not a whole lot that you can do.
My ex-sister-in-law recently went into rehab herself. Now my ex-wife is watching her kids. I hope that she'll want to stay better, too.
Keep posting. If you need to vent anything, we're here to listen.
I wish you and your sister the best.
BHJ
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Join Date: Jan 2007
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Last week a fellow member was upset that his brother was locked up again for a drug offense, while he was heavily intoxicated. This members brother has been in and out of recovery, as well as the justice system.
I can understand how frustrating it can be. I have an uncle who just doesn't get it. He's in rehab, just getting out of jail. He was put in jail in the first place because his probation officer smelled alcohol on his breath.
When not locked up he lives with my grandmother. My grandmother is losing weight, and she doesnt know why. The doctor keeps telling her it's because of stress. Gee, I wonder what she is so stressed out about? (Being sarcastic).
My grandmother is also sick, being a mother of son who is a chronic alcoholic. My mother and myself have both tried helping my uncle and grandmother. I offered to take my grandmother to a Al anon meeting, and have offered to attend AA meetings with my uncle. Both gave their excuses to why they won't go and/or give it a chance.
Anyway, they both know I am here to help, and if they choose not to want help, then I have to accept that. God has a plan for both of them. The most important thing is YOUR sobriety!!!
Tom
I can understand how frustrating it can be. I have an uncle who just doesn't get it. He's in rehab, just getting out of jail. He was put in jail in the first place because his probation officer smelled alcohol on his breath.
When not locked up he lives with my grandmother. My grandmother is losing weight, and she doesnt know why. The doctor keeps telling her it's because of stress. Gee, I wonder what she is so stressed out about? (Being sarcastic).
My grandmother is also sick, being a mother of son who is a chronic alcoholic. My mother and myself have both tried helping my uncle and grandmother. I offered to take my grandmother to a Al anon meeting, and have offered to attend AA meetings with my uncle. Both gave their excuses to why they won't go and/or give it a chance.
Anyway, they both know I am here to help, and if they choose not to want help, then I have to accept that. God has a plan for both of them. The most important thing is YOUR sobriety!!!
Tom
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That's inspiring, Tom. I have an uncle (somewhere, maybe) who's an alcoholic. Haven't heard from him in over 3 years. His mom (my granny) is in a local nursing home, and every now and then she'll ask about him. I just change the subject. I really don't know if he's alive or dead. Last I heard from him he sent a letter with no return address and only a Minneapolis postmark to go by. Until then we all thought he was in New York. *sigh*
My best to you and your family.
BHJ
My best to you and your family.
BHJ
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Thanks guys. I have been pretty strong up until now, but at the minute Im helpless I guess. Know I cant do a thing about this.
Each time she goes in rehab this is the time she says she is ready and cant take it anymore. Each time she caves in to a drink.
I have been pretty supportive over the years, gee have I, but you get to a point of 'is there any point' I want her to know I am there if she needs me but hell, its difficult sometimes. You have to lie to her kids, or not tell them things I guess, just so they dont go through the pain. I guess, she will reach her tolerance of pain one day, I pray!
Thanks again for the inspirations, I appreciate you all.
Each time she goes in rehab this is the time she says she is ready and cant take it anymore. Each time she caves in to a drink.
I have been pretty supportive over the years, gee have I, but you get to a point of 'is there any point' I want her to know I am there if she needs me but hell, its difficult sometimes. You have to lie to her kids, or not tell them things I guess, just so they dont go through the pain. I guess, she will reach her tolerance of pain one day, I pray!
Thanks again for the inspirations, I appreciate you all.
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