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It's interesting that although you couldn't/wouldn't let your sponsor and close friends in on your situation, you came here. Why's that I wonder?? Could it be that it's because Julie is in the hospital with the obvious problem, and you're the one asking for help to deal with that problem?? We all need support from time to time Paul. Don't shut your sponsor and friends out of this. Look at your post and see how many people responded with a "THANK YOU" and then the followup posts. We all have a need for support, but we all, also have a need TO support each other because it "feels" good to give of ourselves. Don't rob your sponsor and friends of that opportunity.
My best to you and Julie. I'm sure with God's love and grace, she'll be all right.
My best to you and Julie. I'm sure with God's love and grace, she'll be all right.
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Hi - Ju is well, they reckon that she has developed a reaction to her current anti-convulsants and will probably have to change them. Certainly they couldn't find anything else wrong - which was reassuring!
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She says I make her feel safe. That means a lot to me. It means a lot that I can be a steady presence for her. It means everything. It's real amends. I just wish she didn't have to be sick for me to make them.
Paul your wife and you will be in my prayers..... BTW I agree with what Music said, call your sponsor and others in your AA network and let that helping hand of AA in to let those who want to help help. You know you would want to be called if some one in AA could use a little support.
Once again Paul prayers for you and yours, keep us posted.
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Thanks Taz
I think you (and Music) misunderstood me a little. What I was trying to say was - it's very easy for me to reach out to my friends in AA. I can do it, and I do do it. It's one of the great gifts of the fellowship. What I was asking was - why can't I reach out to the people here?
Because what's the point in me coming here if I can't reach out to the people here? It's made me question my motives in coming to SR.
After Ju went off the other night, I wasn't frightened or self-centred or all those things I used to be. I was calm, I knew she ws in good hands, and I knew I was doing the NRT, but I just wanted to engage with someone. And I can, and do reach for the phone, without any hesitation. But I thought, why can't I reach out to the people on SR for help? The very fact I don't made me think that there's something skewed about my reasons for being here. And in trying to get a handle on it, I am coming more and more to the opinion that it's not entirely healthy reasons that bring me here. It's to do with self-aggrandisement, and self-importance, and self-righteousness. And these are all very isolating things, and they seem to me to be the opposite of what one should bring to a community!
So I'm going to focus my energy on my AA recovery for a little while, and I'll come back when I feel I'm a little deflated again! Damned ego............
Take it easy!
PS, thanks ParentRecovers, for everything you do and for providing a bridge between the two shores.
I think you (and Music) misunderstood me a little. What I was trying to say was - it's very easy for me to reach out to my friends in AA. I can do it, and I do do it. It's one of the great gifts of the fellowship. What I was asking was - why can't I reach out to the people here?
Because what's the point in me coming here if I can't reach out to the people here? It's made me question my motives in coming to SR.
After Ju went off the other night, I wasn't frightened or self-centred or all those things I used to be. I was calm, I knew she ws in good hands, and I knew I was doing the NRT, but I just wanted to engage with someone. And I can, and do reach for the phone, without any hesitation. But I thought, why can't I reach out to the people on SR for help? The very fact I don't made me think that there's something skewed about my reasons for being here. And in trying to get a handle on it, I am coming more and more to the opinion that it's not entirely healthy reasons that bring me here. It's to do with self-aggrandisement, and self-importance, and self-righteousness. And these are all very isolating things, and they seem to me to be the opposite of what one should bring to a community!
So I'm going to focus my energy on my AA recovery for a little while, and I'll come back when I feel I'm a little deflated again! Damned ego............
Take it easy!
PS, thanks ParentRecovers, for everything you do and for providing a bridge between the two shores.
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Okay Paul..... I banged my head on my desk a few times and I see where you are coming from now. LOL
Paul if you feel SR is drawing you away into areas you feel uncomfortable in then taking a break may be in order, there is nothing to say you can not have your AA cake and eat SR as well if you are at SR for the right reasons.
IMHO you do a great service to many here including me, you are an example of where one can go in recovery, the fact that you expressed concerns about where your head is at here says an awful lot of good about you, you are able to examine your self and throw it out there for others opinions.
I ask that you do not dissappear for the good of many who come here, your input is a valuable asset, partucuarly to those new to sobriety or those trying to get sober, but you know it is your recovery and I know you need to put it first so do what you need to do for you recovery.
Paul if you feel SR is drawing you away into areas you feel uncomfortable in then taking a break may be in order, there is nothing to say you can not have your AA cake and eat SR as well if you are at SR for the right reasons.
IMHO you do a great service to many here including me, you are an example of where one can go in recovery, the fact that you expressed concerns about where your head is at here says an awful lot of good about you, you are able to examine your self and throw it out there for others opinions.
I ask that you do not dissappear for the good of many who come here, your input is a valuable asset, partucuarly to those new to sobriety or those trying to get sober, but you know it is your recovery and I know you need to put it first so do what you need to do for you recovery.
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"Eloquent"? LOL I guess..... but then again they have filters on this site to keep me from throwing in any of those colorful words that some times enter my converstions!! LOL
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Originally Posted by Music 
A drunk eloquent??? Naaaaaaaaaah!! Honest maybe, but eloquent.....
Well he are betta wiv werds than wot i iz!
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Paul, I misunderstood you the first time too
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