De-lurking to say....
De-lurking to say....
I have an appt. with a therapist on Tuesday. I am sick of this, alcohol being among the primary things.
I have a lot of other emotional issues that I think let me to the path of alcoholism- I am scared and have never been in therapy. (I need it in a major way, though!)
Can anyone give me any advice/tips/whatever, about my first shrink appt?
Thank you guys!
I have a lot of other emotional issues that I think let me to the path of alcoholism- I am scared and have never been in therapy. (I need it in a major way, though!)
Can anyone give me any advice/tips/whatever, about my first shrink appt?
Thank you guys!
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therapy's been a life saver......for me
hi banana girl.....therapy is a great idea....i've been seeing one since september.When i started seeing her,i was drinking alot,and had just lost my best friend...she couldn't handle my drinking anymore...(she was a recovering alchoholic..sober for years tho.)since,september,i've stopped and started drinking at least three times,and each time,i learned something new about myself,and my therapist helped me do that...Instead of just beating myself up,only to drink more and more often,i learned something,and got something positive out of something negative.i've been sober now for 45 days,and i am feeling good....more hopeful,more positive...you need someone on,"the outside"to talk with,who can help you see why you do what you do,and figure out ways to make things better....and learn about YOU.....i highly recommend talking to a therapist......KT
and,P.S....be honest...
and,P.S....be honest...
I can't even explain how terrified I was walking into my first appointment. My anxiety was through the roof, which is kind of funny because that was one of the reasons I was going. I've been seeing my therapist for 6 months now and could not be happier. No matter how scared you are going into it, you will feel better when you leave. Every time I go I feel a sense of relief because it gives me a chance to talk about things I wouldn't dare talk about with anybody else and finally letting it all out feels so good. Be honest and open-minded, that's all I can think of to say. Don't feel like you have to completely spill the beans and say everything all at the first appointment. Just start gradually and move at your own pace.
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I can't remember the exact details of my first shirnk
appointment. He did most of the talking.
Kind of like me attending AA at first. When it was my turn
to talk...I just pass. The same feelings...I felt a bit
ashame. It was bad enough admiting I might be an alki,
then I had to go see a shrink to top it off.
kind of like peeling layers away.
I had a pair of shades I wore everywhere I went.
I hid my blood shot eyes, but mainly I felt like
crying most of the time.
appointment. He did most of the talking.
Kind of like me attending AA at first. When it was my turn
to talk...I just pass. The same feelings...I felt a bit
ashame. It was bad enough admiting I might be an alki,
then I had to go see a shrink to top it off.
kind of like peeling layers away.
I had a pair of shades I wore everywhere I went.
I hid my blood shot eyes, but mainly I felt like
crying most of the time.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
While therapy did help me
it was not until I stopped drinking
that my depression finally left.
I finally quit with God and AA.
It's great to see you here with us
and looking for ansers!
Blessings
it was not until I stopped drinking
that my depression finally left.
I finally quit with God and AA.
It's great to see you here with us
and looking for ansers!
Blessings
remember, you are a consumer, you have the right to interview your therapist to ensure you have a good fit. If you don't choose another one. That is my advice.
Too often we go to professionals and assume they will have all the answers... uh, no, some will be a good fit for you and others won't. You need to find one that you can work with.
I am a professional in another field. I tell new clients up front that the first meeting is an initial consult, for me and for them. I determine whether or not I can assist them and provide some initial advice, they decide whether or not they are comfortable with me. At the end of the meeting, each of us decides whether or not to work together.
I am also very clear with them that even if we work together, if there comes a point where they are not happy, they can go to someone else. I reserve the same right for myself, if there comes a time where I think I am not helpful to them, or that I simply cannot work with them, then it's c'est la vie. It is nothing personal.
Levi
Too often we go to professionals and assume they will have all the answers... uh, no, some will be a good fit for you and others won't. You need to find one that you can work with.
I am a professional in another field. I tell new clients up front that the first meeting is an initial consult, for me and for them. I determine whether or not I can assist them and provide some initial advice, they decide whether or not they are comfortable with me. At the end of the meeting, each of us decides whether or not to work together.
I am also very clear with them that even if we work together, if there comes a point where they are not happy, they can go to someone else. I reserve the same right for myself, if there comes a time where I think I am not helpful to them, or that I simply cannot work with them, then it's c'est la vie. It is nothing personal.
Levi
I agree with Levi and Carol,
I had to try out several therapists until I found one that was helpful for me. Partly I think in order to find someone with a personality that meshed with mine and partly to find someone who had an interest in the areas that I needed help.
I also did not get relief from my mutliple years of depression until about 5 months after I quit drinking. I had been treated in various ways, but until I was honest with my doctor and therapist about what was going on, and I stopped drinking so the meds could work, I saw little results.
All my best, HopeOct31
I had to try out several therapists until I found one that was helpful for me. Partly I think in order to find someone with a personality that meshed with mine and partly to find someone who had an interest in the areas that I needed help.
I also did not get relief from my mutliple years of depression until about 5 months after I quit drinking. I had been treated in various ways, but until I was honest with my doctor and therapist about what was going on, and I stopped drinking so the meds could work, I saw little results.
All my best, HopeOct31
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